Taking care of my bedridden mother-in-law for 4 years, my sister said that I want to make money, my husband earns money, and my mother comes to serve
When I was 24 years old, I got married to my city wife, who was five years older than me. I am a migrant worker, and many people have expressed doubts about our marriage, especially my three eldest sisters.
My father died of illness when I was 15 years old, and my mother worked as a farmer. Although life is hard, the family is happy. After my father died, my mother remarried, but she didn't take me and my brother, who was two years younger than me. Although I have resentment in my heart, I also understand my mother's difficult situation.
With the help of my loved ones, my brother and I lived at my grandparents' house. Due to the advanced age of my grandparents, they could not take care of us wholeheartedly. The third uncle is a good person who loves us, takes my younger brother to their house, and pays for my senior high school tuition, so that I can study with peace of mind.
After graduating from high school, I did not take the college entrance examination, but chose to go out to work with the villagers. I have to work hard to support my younger brother because my uncle's family already has two younger brothers to take care of, and I can't be a burden to them. On the day I went out to work, my younger brother hugged me and cried, I told him to study hard, I will work hard to support him, and we must rely on each other and support each other.
At first, I did simple work in the restaurant, and slowly I learned to help cook and stir-fry in the back kitchen. I saved all the money I earned to pay for my brother's tuition. I know I have a responsibility as an older sister. My younger brother was also very competitive, and after the college entrance examination, he chose a university in the city where I worked.
With the encouragement of my younger brother, I participated in ** education and obtained a college degree. Later, he successfully entered his wife's unit and became an accountant. At work, we met quietly and slowly cultivated a relationship. Despite the opposition of my wife's family, I am grateful to my in-laws for their acceptance. After I got married, I tried to please my in-laws, and they gradually changed their opinion of me.
After the birth of my son, my in-laws were very happy and took care of me and the child wholeheartedly. After I went to work, they wouldn't even let me worry about the kids. They were also very kind to my brother, and even generously gave him 50,000 yuan when he got married.
However, my wife's three big sisters sneered at me, thinking that I was not worthy of my wife. They accused me of subsidizing my brother with my hometown's money, and even called me "Lord Voldemort." These words showed no regard for my feelings, and sometimes they openly accused me in front of me. They even said that my wife was useless and let me be the master of the house.
My husband sometimes had conflicts with his sisters, which led to constant arguments between the sisters and brothers. In order to avoid my wife being affected by my discord with my family, I advised him not to interfere too much in the affairs of my sisters, and I also tried to avoid frequent meetings with my sisters.
I am very grateful to my in-laws for their tolerance and respect for them. In the past year, I would carefully choose gifts for my in-laws on their birthdays to express my heart.
When I was 50 years old, my father-in-law died of a pulmonary embolism, and my mother-in-law was very sad. Originally, I wanted to live with my mother-in-law, but she insisted that she could take care of herself, so my wife and I regularly went home to visit my mother-in-law and help her with some daily chores.
However, when I was 51 years old, my mother-in-law was bedridden due to a cerebral infarction. I proposed to take my mother-in-law home to take care of her, and the three sisters agreed unanimously and their attitude was unusually friendly. They thought that since my son was not married, I was the best person to take care of my mother-in-law.
Since my wife has not yet retired, it is very difficult for me to take care of my bedridden mother-in-law at home. My mother-in-law is diabetic and needs insulin injections, and I also learned to give her injections. Every day, I have to carry my mother-in-law from the bed to the wheelchair, push her out to bask in the sun, help her turn over regularly to prevent bedsores, and bathe her.
This kind of life has lasted for 4 years, and my weight has always been around 100 pounds, and the hardships are incomprehensible unless I experience it myself. Although my sisters went home to visit their mother-in-law, they were only "standing guests" and refused to even sit down, and they handed over the handling of urine and urine to me.
Last year, my mother-in-law's salary rose to more than 3,000, and my sisters began to change their faces. They came to my house to ask my mother-in-law about her monthly expenses, and why she didn't buy new clothes and didn't eat much, but it was quite expensive. I angrily explained to them the cost of hospitalization**, medicine, meals, diapers, etc., but I was very angry when they asked for monthly billing.
The wife also stood up and blamed the sisters, offering to let them take their mother-in-law back to take care of them, but they just laughed and said that this was the mother-in-law's living habits that she knew best, and she was willing to avoid the trouble of bookkeeping.
I decided on the spot that I would no longer participate in my mother-in-law's elderly care and let my sisters discuss who would take my mother-in-law home first. If it doesn't work out, I'm going to send my mother-in-law to my eldest sister's house. Looking at the embarrassed expressions of my sisters, I felt very relieved, but at the same time, I felt distressed for my mother-in-law's helplessness.
The issue of pension is a complex and contradictory topic. In families with more siblings, if someone takes the initiative to take on the responsibility of care, others should actively assist rather than be suspicious and blame. I hope that the pension arrangement in the future can be smoother and avoid hurting feelings because of money.