Time flies like flowing water, and in the blink of an eye, the Lunar New Year bell has been ringing.
At this moment of saying goodbye to the old and welcoming the new, the new year is about to begin.
How have you been this year?
Like many people, have you suffered too many grievances and left a lot of regrets?
Have you ever had such a person around you, poured all his feelings into him, and endured countless pains, but in the end, the other party disappeared into the vast sea of people.
In the world of feelings, you are not afraid of being hurt or falling in love.
What I'm afraid of is that the other party has gone away, but you are still stuck in place and can't get out.
If you don't give up on the relationship that has long ended, it becomes a prison.
Obsessed with the past, reminiscing over and over again, feeling sad over and over again, and finally falling deeper and deeper and unable to extricate himself.
Perhaps, it's not that we don't want to forget, but no matter how hard we try, we still can't forget; It's not that I don't want to let go, but no matter how much I endure the pain, I still can't bear it.
But in fact, many times, the reason why you can't let go of a relationship is not necessarily that you still love that person, but because you can't let go of your inner obsession.
It's not necessarily that you can't forget each other, but you are unwilling.
is unwilling to let his efforts come to naught, unwilling to let the sweetness of the past be erased by time, and unwilling to accept this ending, because it is not worthy of his greatest sincerity.
I will never forget, I will not forget, I will miss the beauty of the past, and the future that could have continued.
However, it's not so much that you can't let go, it's that you don't really want to let go.
It's not so much that the breakup makes you uncomfortable, but rather that there is a glimmer of hope in your heart that is still tormenting you repeatedly.
It's like a saw, constantly tugging on your heart, causing the same wound to be ruthlessly torn open and bleeding repeatedly.
However, the one who holds the saw tightly, no one else, is yourself.
Perhaps, no one can completely erase such a relationship and past, but we can put it in a certain place in our hearts and not let it interfere with your normal life.
Let the obsession have an outlet and give yourself back.
After all, yesterday's sun can't dry today's clothes.
No matter how deeply a person loves, he can't support the feelings of two people.
Don't forget, before you met him, you lived alone.
Forget it, put it down, at this moment, I want to say to you:
A glass of wine to the past, let all the past turn the page.
There is such a passage:
"No matter what the relationship, the affection is exhausted, and the fate has come to an end.No one is right or wrong, and in the end, all the faults should be blamed on themselves, and then politely leave.
Give yourself back, give others back to others, let flowers become flowers, and let trees become trees.
Since then, the mountains and rivers have never met again. May in the next life, not see, not ow, not remember! ”
Don't hesitate to throw away the sunk costs that will leave you frustrated and hesitant to distract yourself from a relationship that has no follow-up.
If you don't care anymore, if you don't care about it, then there is nothing that can bother you and torment you.
As the saying goes:
"What can torment you is nothing more than what you care about, and what can bother you is nothing more than what you care. ”You have to believe that whoever you meet in your life is no matter what you meet.
No matter who you meet, he will definitely teach you something, the good is lucky, and the bad is growth.
Even if it's painful, you need to know
What really hurts you is never the thing itself, but how you feel about it.
No one can make you hurt that long, unless you want to.
Therefore, there is no need to regret or give up, because life is one separation and encounter after another.
Everything that can be lost is not really yours in the first place.
Maybe life is like this, regrets can't be avoided, but as the saying goes:
"There is no choice without regrets, only self without regrets. ”**No foot color, white with slight flaws.
This world is like this, there are always some things that we will not be so satisfied with, there are always some people that we cannot be together.
If you always look back, you will never forget the beauty of the past, and you will be haunted by the regrets of the past.
Then, no matter how much beauty there is, it will become a burden, and no matter how much expectation there is, it will also become a disappointment.
Just no matter what, don't lose yourself.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said:
"What is in the past, what cannot be passed, will eventually pass, and in the end, the years will be understated for you. ”The best way to let go of a relationship is to learn to turn the page.
Because only with the ability to turn the page can you have the opportunity to give love to the person who really deserves it.
Change what can be changed, accept what can't be changed, you have to believe that all those hurdles that you think you can't get over and memories that can't be changed will slowly fade away in time.
If you are always weeping over the loss of the Sun, then you will also lose the stars.
The new year has begun, may you not be trapped in your heart, not confused, not afraid of the future, and not thinking of the past.
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