There are tricks to gift-giving
In order for the gift to have the desired effect, then it must be given appropriately and in place, and in the process of giving, your wisdom and way of dealing with the world will be unobstructed. As the saying goes, "don't fight the battle of unpreparedness", and the same is true for gift-giving, only by making full preparations, can you give gifts successfully and achieve the desired effect. Many people give gifts, but they don't get what they want, often because they didn't do their homework before giving the gift or did not do it perfectly.
Take control of your budget
Some people think that the more expensive the gift, the better, but in fact, this is a very big misunderstanding. Giving too expensive gifts is not only unbearable for yourself, but also a burden for the recipient. So, before giving a gift, you should make a good budget and then look for the right gift within your budget. When making a budget, you should consider your own income level, the financial ability of the other party, and the relationship between them.
Find a reason for gift-giving
Gifts must be given in a way that is easy to give. If it is a gift such as the other party's illness, birthday, or children's education, it is "the teacher is famous", and there is no need to find another reason, it can also come naturally, logically. But sometimes it is to ask someone to do something and give a gift, which is inevitably a bit of a "buy and sell" flavor, and the other party may not accept your gift. At this time, you need to find a way to make the other person accept the gift with peace of mind.
Find the right gift for the right person
In general, it is not advisable to send gifts directly to the other person's place of work. Therefore, unless it is a gift for a familiar relative or friend, you must also find out the address of the other person. It is very inappropriate to inquire directly about the other party's unit or colleagues, and it will cause the other party to resent it. To put it bluntly, the best way to be too explicit is to ask an acquaintance who knows the situation in private, or you can ask for the address under the pretense of sending a greeting card.
Gifts are given from the usual time
There is an old Chinese saying that "nothing is left to go to the Three Treasures Palace", which is actually a typical way of giving gifts for quick success. Usually do not give gifts, wait until there is something to ask for before coming to the door, at this time, even if you give a generous gift, people may think that you are too snobbish, will not necessarily give you this convenience. You must know that the construction of a good relationship is not something that can be done overnight, and we must start from little by little and rely on the accumulation of daily life. Give more gifts, and borrow an umbrella on a rainy day", that's what it means.
Micro allusions
Hu Xueyan, a giant businessman in the Qing Dynasty, was well versed in gift-giving. He put a lot of effort into getting in touch with Zuo Zongtang, the governor of Fujian and Zhejiang, but Zuo Zongtang was quite wary of him because he heard some rumors about his relationship with the Taiping Army, and he didn't even give him a seat.
Later, Zuo Zongtang suppressed the Taiping Army, because of the lack of food and military salaries, unable to further carry out the offensive brewing, has been very worried that it will be because of the "trouble" Hu Xueyan learned about it, so he sent 10,000 stone of rice, and also voluntarily donated 100,000 taels of military salaries to raise military salaries for Zuo Zongtang came up with several effective ways to stop walking. Hu Xueyan grasped the key and helped Zuo Zongtang successfully solve these two headaches.
Just because he gave the right gift, Hu Xueyan later went to visit Zuo Zongtang again, Zuo Zongtang not only gave up his seat, but also kept food on the kang, and his treatment was greatly improved.
It was under Hu Xueyan's careful management that he won Zuo Zongtang's absolute trust and was even more cited as a confidant. Later, it was because of Zuo Zongtang's strong recommendation that Hu Xueyan was given a red top by the imperial court.