We have to believe in ourselves that taking care of a baby is something that mothers are born to do. Because, there are some traces hidden in our bodies.
These traces will tell you how to hold your baby and how to take care of him, this is a mother's nature and mother's intuition.
However, you may also ask, I am ready to be a mother, and I should have a mother's intuition, but why am I still so anxious and nervous?
In fact, not only mothers, but fathers even have such problems, in the face of this little life, we always wonder if we are really doing the right thing.
First of all, for mothers, let's go back to the topic of intuition, which is crucial to whether you can be a good mother and be able to fulfill the role of mother.
If a mother can't stand her ground, it's easy to be at the mercy of others, or to imitate her own mother's practices, or to follow the parenting book to raise her children.
In this case, she will definitely mess up the matter of being a mother. If I could give you a motto, it would be not to read books, but to look at children.
Therefore, please have more contact with the baby alone in the first few months after the baby's birth, so that we can feel each other's emotional needs and establish an intimate relationship between mother and child.
Experience the feeling of being a mother with your heart, and ask your family to cooperate with you more at this time, so as not to let your relationship be disturbed by the outside world.
Because it is only on the basis of such intimacy that all the emotions that come naturally, that is to say the intuition that we just mentioned, can happen smoothly.
Only in this way can we ensure that our young mothers, inexperienced mothers, can quickly find their own position and establish their own maternal functions as mothers and mothers.
So mothers, be brave enough to love your baby, trust your instincts, and don't worry that your love will spoil them. Because from an empirical point of view, the integration of mother and child in the early years is fundamental.
For fathers, they will certainly be more at a loss when facing their early children than they are before their mothers. For a baby who is waiting to be fed, the father is not as important as the mother, but this does not prevent us from learning to be a good father from this time.
The so-called family happiness is actually through the mother at this time, the father can understand the various performances of his children, and better become the father and the mother's partner.
When the mother is tired, the father can start to practice communication with the child. In fact, some fathers do a good job, and at this time they use it to help their mothers, bathe their children and change diapers.
In fact, all these intimate encounters can help fathers get to know their children well, so as to gain some motherly intuition. Subsequently, you can be more relaxed in the process of interacting with your child.
The key to overcoming anxiety and tension as a mother is to engage with your baby, build intimacy with each other, and improve and trust your instincts as a mother.
In the next article, I will share with you: What is the integration between mother and child and how is it achieved? How to deal with separation anxiety in children?
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