We often see readers asking, "What should I do if my husband cheats?" "Even if everyone avoided this family scandal, they had to face what happened.
In this era full of **, cheating seems to be nothing new. However, whenever we hear such stories, an indescribable feeling always rises in our hearts.
So, why do men cheat? This time, we will introduce some of the reasons why her husband cheats.
1. "Soul hunger" and "emotional overflow".
Imagine a man who stays in the corral of marriage for a long time, facing the same four walls every day, will inevitably get bored. At this time, his soul was like a parched field, in dire need of rain. The colorful outside world was like a timely rain to him, and he couldn't wait to try it.
The book says: "The human heart is like water, and if it does not flow, it will rot." When there is a lack of emotional communication in a marriage, it is easy for a man's heart to look outward for new nourishment. This does not mean that they no longer love their wives, but that their emotional needs are not met in the marriage, thus creating a phenomenon of "emotional spillover".
In order to solve this problem, the wife may have to give her husband more consideration and understanding. For example, every now and then, cook him a nice dinner, watch his favorite movie together, or just have a chat with him. Even these seemingly trivial things can nourish his soul and reduce the risk of cheating.
2."Irresistible" vs. "Collapse of self-control".
Men are visual creatures, that's undeniable. When faced with the ** of external beauty, it is difficult to resist. It's like a child facing a sweet tooth, knowing that eating too much will cause tooth decay, but he still wants to taste it.
However, ** is not the only cause of infidelity. Many times, a man's self-control is also an important factor. The book says, "Self-control is the steering wheel of life." "People with strong self-control, no matter how big they are, can stick to their ultimate goal, but people with weak self-control can stick to their ultimate goal. It's easy for people to succumb to **. I succumb to **.
To strengthen her husband's self-control, wives can start with the details of their daily lives. For example, encourage them to develop healthy hobbies, participate in activities that are beneficial to their bodies and minds, and engage in self-reflection and summary together frequently. These will help you stay calm and firm in the face of **.
3."Communication disorders" and "emotional distancing".
Communication is the lubricant of marriage and an important part of preventing infidelity**. However, in real life, many couples experience emotional estrangement due to a lack of communication. It's like a river that was originally flowing smoothly, but suddenly it is blocked, and the water does not flow smoothly, which eventually leads to flooding.
To solve the problem of communication barriers, wives need to learn how to listen and understand their husbands. "Listening is the best way to communicate. "If your husband is willing to share his concerns and confusions, you should listen patiently and respond positively.
At the same time, you also need to learn how to express your feelings and expectations so that your husband can understand your inner world. In this way, the emotional barrier between you will gradually disappear and your married life will become more harmonious and happy.
4. "Life pressure" and "pursuit of excitement".
In this fast-paced society, everyone faces tremendous pressure in life. Men are under the double pressure of being the breadwinner of the family and the spiritual leader. In some cases, we may seek external stimuli and freshness to relieve this stress.
However, seeking stimulation is not the best way to deal with stress. The book tells us that "life is not a race, but a journey." "Instead of relying on external stimuli to fill the emptiness within, we should find beauty and joy in our daily lives. It reminds me of what I'm going to learn.
In order to reduce the pressure on her husband and avoid the risk of cheating, the wife should work with her husband to make a reasonable life plan and work arrangement, cultivate common interests and hobbies, and conduct regular family trips and other activities. These will make your life more colorful, fulfilling, and interesting.
Conclusion: There are many reasons why a husband cheats, but in the final analysis, they are all inseparable from the word "love". As wives, we need to learn to pay attention to our husband's emotional needs, enhance self-control, improve communication between husband and wife, and help our husband reduce the pressure in life.
Only in this way can we firmly grasp the steering wheel of marriage and smoothly push the ship of love forward in the wind and waves. Remember, love needs management, and marriage needs wisdom.
Many female readers may not be convinced. It's clear that the man cheated on him. But why should women change? It's not me that's wrong, it's him, right? Your idea is good, but the person who needs the relationship more needs to change first. Obviously, the cheating partner doesn't need the relationship that much. If you think the same way as him, the result is divorce. If you still want this marriage like this, then try to change yourself, change yourself first, and then influence him!