What does it mean to be strong in women and weak in men?
It's nothing more than work and earning power.
Nowadays, society generally regards power and making money as bargaining chips for happiness.
Especially the rise of our women.
More and more women are working in a career that is more earning power than many men.
Therefore, there are examples of women becoming stronger, and families are unhappy.
The world is all balanced.
It is also balanced in a family, especially the relationship between husband and wife.
Whether a man or a woman is strong in their careers, they are bound to accompany them, and they are weak in family atmosphere and child care.
On the contrary, if you spend more time in companionship, family atmosphere, and taking care of children, your career earning ability is relatively weak.
But if you can see the balanced relationship clearly and give full play to your respective advantages, then whether you are strong or weak in women, or strong in women and weak in men, you can live a happy life.
One of my students, Lili and her husband, are typical representatives of strong women and weak men in their careers, Lili is the kind of natural strong woman, as long as she gets started at work, it won't take long to skip a grade and get a promotion and a salary increase, so as to achieve the ceiling of the industry.
However, her husband has been repeatedly frustrated in his career, and he has changed no less than 10 companies in a few years, and he listened to any advice given to him by relatives and friends, including Lili, and finally failed.
There is no career, no money is made, and for Lili, there is an incomparably large sense of frustration. And these feelings, Lili sprinkled on her husband, and her husband did the same, endured Lili's accusations, and also blamed himself for being incompetent, as a man, he was supposed to take on the responsibility of the family, shelter Lili and the children, but now he can't do it, he hates himself more than anyone else.
The relationship between husband and wife once fell into a situation on the verge of divorce, and the people around Lili also persuaded him to leave her husband, no matter who she found, she was better than her husband, and the two worked hard to make money together, this family must be even better than now.
Lili is also very at a loss, although she has good career ability, but when it comes to feelings, she doesn't know where to start.
Finally, I was introduced to us by a friend. She was given marriage counseling to help her clarify the meaning and responsibilities of the relationship between husband and wife. With our help, she made adjustments and changes in a short period of time, and finally moved towards a happy marriage.
Want to know how to adjust it? The following points are shared with you:
First of all, the goal of marriage is clear, and two people should run the family together to be happy.
Secondly, the advantages and disadvantages of the two people are clear: Lili is a career-oriented woman, good at work, business strategy, and has unique insights into the career field. However, the family is short, the family is trivial, and the training of children is lacking.
Although my husband has not improved in his career, he is very patient and has reached 890-year-old, down to 23-year-old children can get along very happily, cook good dishes, and help children with homework.
An analysis shows that the two are completely complementary. This state is the perfect partner in the family.
Third, after the two are clear about their strengths and weaknesses, they completely surrender to each other's strengths and weaknesses.
It is not easy to do this, because after all, in today's society, the male protagonist is outside, and the female protagonist is inside, and they are reversed, and it takes a lot of courage to face the judgment of the people around them.
In the end, they supported and encouraged each other, faced the dark times together, broke through all kinds of judgments, and succeeded.
The relationship between husband and wife is a cooperative relationship, learn from each other's strengths, support each other, tolerate and understand, in order to move towards happiness together.
We have the ability to solve all the problems we encounter in life.
All the desired happiness will come true as long as we want to.
Come on, towards the light!
Account Author Introduction.
Peng Jin uses psychology to heal his relationship with his husband every day, while healing and supporting the growth of students, while bringing 2 babies, family and career are not wrong. If you encounter problems or personal healing in your marital feelings, leave a message in the comment area and answer them one-on-one.
Thank you for seeing this, and I wish you more and more happiness.