Is Friend Really Phased? Everyone is meeting different people every minute and every second every day, some may just pass by, and some are fortunate to have deep friendships. Some people are destined to be only general acquaintances, no matter how close you once were, when the time comes, you will withdraw from your life; There are also people who will become your confidants, and together you will beat time, even if the possibility is very slim. There are friends at every stage, and it is not easy to find someone who is always by your side. But more often than not, it's our own.
Today, I suddenly remembered that I had been planning to organize the address book for a long time, because I was afraid of trouble, I had not acted before, and today I finally made up my mind to start sorting out. From paper to electronic, from QQ to WeChat, I suddenly found that I knew so many people; I also found that there were many people in it that I had no impression of. When I was in elementary school, there was no WeChat, QQ was the main front for making friends, and in addition to a few family members in my list, there were only elementary school classmates left. With a nickname in Martian script, a non-mainstream avatar, and a sad personality signature, it pulled me back to the carefree days of elementary school. I can't remember the names of many of the people on the list, and I haven't been in touch since I left the countryside with my parents for the city after graduating from elementary school. Later, when I went to middle school, WeChat became popular, and until now, I have hundreds of people on my list. I didn't want to, so I subconsciously categorized them into family members, junior high school classmates, high school classmates, and college classmates. I've found that almost everyone I know can be separated by time. Every time I get to a new point in time, I make new people, and I inadvertently say goodbye to the people I once knew. It turns out that there are some people who you have already seen the last time in this life.
It's like taking a bus, with ups and downs, and the people you meet in your life are all passengers with you, and they will get off when you reach your destination, and at every stop, there will be new passengers on the bus. I have to admit that friends, it is indeed time-sensitive and phased. When the time comes, the environment changes, and everything has to be restarted. There may be friends who are still in touch, but there will not be many. Sometimes, some people will have a particularly good relationship with you at a certain stage, and then they will inexplicably stop contacting you. I also found that friends are not only staged, but also "hierarchical". It's brutal, but when you think about it, it's true. Two people, if one studies in the countryside and the other goes to school in the city, their views on knowledge and further education will be different; One has taken the 985 exam, and the other has two books, so the arrangements for the future and the future will be different; One went to a big city to work hard, and the other stayed in a small county to live, and the things he cared about would be different; One has a child, the other is loyal to a single person, and the perception of money and time is different. If the environment changes between friends and the attitude towards life is inconsistent, the two people will slowly drift apart. In fact, the circle around us is always changing, whether it is our wealth, status, or way of thinking, the class you are in will be updated with the renewal of the circle.
This means that we have more and more opportunities, but it also means that we have more and more things to face and solve. Many times, it's not even that we take the initiative to distance ourselves from the original relationship, but that we really don't have time to catch up with our old friends, and finally find that we are far away and have no common topic. It may be difficult to accept, but class is indeed an insurmountable gap between us. In the end, one of the two people did not take the initiative to ask, the other did not take the initiative to speak, did not disturb each other, and forgot about each other.