When the child reaches a certain age, the separation of beds and rooms has become a hurdle that parents cannot avoid. Not only wants the child to be independent as soon as possible, but also worries about affecting the parent-child relationship, which really breaks the hearts of parents.
February** Dynamic Incentive Program Best time to divide beds and rooms: Step by step, it varies from person to person.
There is a saying that "3-year-olds are divided into beds, and 5-year-olds are divided into rooms", but this time node is not set in stone. A child's independence varies from person to person, and instead of rigidly following age standards, it is better to judge according to the child's physical and mental development.
Generally speaking, children before the age of 3 belong to the infant stage, separation anxiety is heavier, and forcibly separating beds and rooms will bring a lack of security. At about 5 years old, the child enters the preschool stage and has a budding sense of independence, and the success rate of room division is higher at this time.
It is worth noting that the separation of beds and rooms is a gradual process and cannot be achieved overnight. You can let your child try to take a nap in his own cot first, and gradually adapt to the separation environment.
The negative impact of room separation: Forced room separation, hurting the baby and hurting oneself.
If the child is not ready to be separated, the consequences of forcibly separating can be catastrophic. Children will have strong separation anxiety, crying at night, knocking on doors in the middle of the night, etc"Small drama"Taking turns to stage not only suffers the children, but also makes the parents tired.
More seriously, forced room separation may alienate the parent-child relationship and affect the child's mental health. Children will feel unloved and unvalued, leaving indelible scars on their hearts.
How to divide the room smoothly: Involve the child and create a sense of security.
In order to have a smooth separation, parents need to be well prepared. First of all, let the children participate in the room decoration so that they can feel a sense of belonging to their own little world.
Secondly, after the room is divided, you should also accompany the children to sleep, tell stories, chat, and create an environment full of security and love for them.
Before bedtime, remind your child to empty his bladder and reduce the number of nights he wakes up. For school-age children, you can get them to prepare the clothes they will wear the next day in advance so that they can develop good habits.
Separate rooms without love: Cultivate your child's independence and intimacy.
Splitting a room is not the end of the parent-child relationship, but the only way for children to grow up and become independent. By separating rooms, children can learn to sleep on their own, developing independence and a sense of responsibility.
At the same time, parents should also pay attention to maintaining close communication with their children after the room is separated, care about their sleep conditions, and give them enough love and support. In this way, the child's independence can be cultivated and the close parent-child relationship can be maintained.
Special circumstances: There are also countermeasures for households with difficulty in subdividing houses.
Some children are particularly sensitive to separation and find it difficult to succeed in separating even at school age. In response to this situation, parents can try the following:
Step by step, move slowly: Don't rush it, start by letting your child put a cot in the parents' room and gradually distance themselves from each other.
Accompany the transition and reduce anxiety: after the separation, parents can sleep in their children's room and accompany them to sleep until they are fully adapted.
Psychological counseling to alleviate fear: If your child has strong separation anxiety, you can seek the help of a psychologist to alleviate your child's fear through professional psychological counseling.
Sharing beds and rooms is a sweet and annoying thing, which requires parents to be patient and patient on the basis of respecting their children's wishes. Through scientific methods and meticulous care, children can not only cultivate independence and responsibility, but also maintain a close and harmonious parent-child relationship.