We don't want to fall into the same trap again and again, and we don't want to walk into the "hot spots" over and over again.
We don't have to be a distressed **heroine, we don't have to cultivate into a naturally charming vixen, and we don't have to use the poor body size to prove our sense of security and protection. 」
* Shine into reality, it's really like a horror movie.
Recently, there has been another wave of posing on social platforms.
The main reference template is this picture: in the dark night, on the sofa on the large flat floor, the girl lies delicately and weakly, revealing her slender calves and long seaweed-like hair, which looks weak and distressing.
Source: Little Red Book
The beauty of every strand of hair is exquisite, so that everyone who brushes it sighs: "I finally understand why the president went home and felt distressed when he saw the heroine lying on the sofa." ”
As soon as this ** became popular, someone quickly began to imitate posing for photos, "twisting themselves into twists", trying to keep up with the trend.
Her sister frowned more and more when she looked at itThe core of this wave of trends is too familiar and too bad.
Understand the president and become Wu Ma
Let's talk about this one first.
Now, netizens have been divided into two waves.
A wave is posed for learning.
On the same large flat floor and high-end sofa, wear a dress skirt and high heels, and straighten the instep to create a "slightly drunk" sense of relaxation.
In order to produce the film efficiently, they even derived a bunch of shooting tutorials to learn from each other.
If you emphasize the shooting angle, you can use a tripod to find the angle, and you can concave your long legs alone, no matter how awkward the pose is.
If you go out to find a venue, bring your equipment to the store, and even if you are reminded, you have to hold on to taking a few more photos.
There are also small ideas in clothing, a large down jacket and sweater pants in the north are impossible, it must be a short tight skirt and a trench coat jacket, showing a feeling of "I drank too much".
Then learn one by one according to the shooting angle, and you can always shoot a perfect long leg without p**.
In addition to imitation, the other wave is the comparison that women are accustomed to causing harm, using ridicule and ridicule to play memes, and first carry out a wave of self-denial.
The commonly used sentence structure is: She is the ** heroine when she lies there, and I am half a pig when I lie there.
Source: Douyin
There are also people who posted their own ** ridicule: Without a heroine, how about I am a gas canister?
Brush down again, a lot of cotton pants and a big quilt, laughing at yourself that it is impossible to be favored by the boss.
In addition, I also have to vividly interpret a dialogue - I am lying there, and Mr. Ba may think that I am Wu's mother.
And another set of narrative templates about thin people are making a comeback:The little wife was lying there and it was distressing, and I was lying there and the boss turned around and left.
The ridicule and deconstruction of hip-hop seem to be just funny jokes, but if you look deeper, it is not difficult to find that it is still the resurgence of white and thin aesthetics.
To be so thin that it makes people feel distressed, to lie there delicate and weak, to look pitiful and cute at a glance, so that you can get the pity of the boss and get a little ethereal love.
And when we disassemble this set of narratives, we will find that similar character settings are so familiar, and it is almost a perfect ** for women only.
The boss corresponds to the highest level of men in the marriage and love template - rich and affectionate, domineering and gentle.
And the women who can be "looked at" by the boss must be naïve and weak, ignorant of the world, and powerless, while lying pitifully in the living room of the president's house waiting for his "distress".
That is to say, subconsciously, people still believe that such an image is the highest level of women in the marriage template.
A **, which delicately wraps the value output of white and thin with aesthetic popularity, converts the weakened woman's ** into the so-called**heroine's dream.
In fact, in the past two years, we have been able to clearly feel the progress of women's consciousness, and we are pleased to find that many once popular narratives are being re-judged in this era.
The baby bowl will be scolded, the literature of the wife will be criticized, the love brain that can't love well with a bowl of white porridge will be ridiculed by the whole network, and Wang Baochuan, who digs wild vegetables, is no longer regarded as a model.
But at the same time, the narrative of incarnating the ** heroine and relying on her delicate and powerless to gain the favor of the boss is difficult to see through the underlying logic.
Even, in different popular templates, make a comeback again and again.
Packaged as dross of trends
You must have seen such a show of affection on social platforms**.
The girl was held in the arms of the boy, and her waist and legs were slender with Ying Ying's hand, so thin that the boy's hand could be fully covered, so as to reflect the difference in body size between the two.
Source: Internet
A little more advanced, the boy spreads his legs wide, and the girl sits between his legs, showing off her slender back and perfect waist-to-hip ratio.
Source: Internet
Sometimes you can't show the absolute difference in size, so you use your arms to show your charm. Men are well-defined and powerful, and women are right-angled shoulders that are encircled in their arms.
Source: Internet
The best one has to be the following one.
The boy can easily pick up all the girls and show his strength by showing his broad and powerful shoulders in the mirror, while the girl is soft and boneless, leaning on the little bird in his arms.
Source: Internet
In conclusion, men's arms must be strong and strong, and women's waists must be slender and soft.
Source: Internet
Poor body shape and a sense of security are commonly used tags in this kind of love stories, to be light enough to be easily picked up by him, and thin enough to be controlled by him.
What, you say that such a thin body shape that can be blown away by a gust of wind is worrying? It doesn't matter, the men around them are their fortress.
Every time she saw these people who regarded weakness as a medal, her sister would remember that answer
"Only your enemies want you to be thin, and you are also a woman, and I want you to run fast and jump high. ”
In addition to the discipline of white and thin in the relationship between the sexes, another "foxy" narrative is also extremely popular.
Some time ago, a tag called Fox Spirit also needs talent brought out a wave of "Fox Challenge".
Most of the girls in the * are dressed in plush pajamas, and their faces are obscured by special effects, and they dance to the BGM.
Source: Douyin
But even in such a sexually devoid outfit, there are still people who can twist and sway, which can be called "charming and natural".
So, from eyes to hairstyles, from expressions to gestures, you can become a learning template.
The girls enjoy the joy of being "vixens", showing their seductive or innocent postures, and delicately implanting these mutated aesthetics as a part of feminine values.
Seriously, whenever this kind of hot spot becomes mainstream, her sister is always a little confused.
White young and thin is the patriarchal in order to control women's aesthetics**, and the vixen is the obscenity and carnival under the male gaze.
Talking about these two sentences alone, I believe that the vast majority of women will nod in agreement.
But why, when white and thin becomes a gesture of affection, when the cosplay challenge becomes a cosplay challenge, we can't recognize the trap behind it, and willingly become the catalyst for this trend?
What blinds our perceptions, what makes us complicit in dwarfing women?
Source: Talk
I guess, when they see this, many people will say: Isn't it just to take a photo, isn't it just to take a **, isn't it just to play a stalk, as for being so online?
The truth is, as for.
We always need to be vigilant until those who create content buzz consciously change.
We will always need to keep the red line in order to completely separate the female writing from the male gaze.
Don't step into the same river more than once
Why do we need to whip these kinds of stories over and over again?
Because we all know that the rise of any trend has the potential to affect the growth of a generation.
When we tell the girls the story of the domineering president and Cinderella, their dreams are only related to the crystal slipper; When the so-called "intellectual love" between Yuan Xiangqin and Jiang Naoki becomes a sample of sweet love, some people will use self-dwarfing as a bargaining chip to be loved.
In the past two years, when talking about the dangers of patriarchal structures, her sister always has the feeling of ghosts hitting the wall.
Why are we keen on appreciating the edges, and at the same time learning how to be "foxy"; Why do we hold high the banner to humiliate the women who release the **, and at the same time alienate the humiliation of women such as fox spirits into a string of romantic symbols?
We have an advanced attitude, but we are always vague in practice; We have sharp telling, but we always retreat into turbulence in wave after wave.
We have learned to be independent, to be brave, to refuse to be white and thin, but we still can't help but be manipulated, domesticated, until we take a picture of the affection of a slender waist**.
But we do have to admit that those who manipulate these hot spots are skillful, calculating, and deceived.
** heroine on the sofa, no male; The vixen is naturally charming, and there are no men. In these *** where no man appears, we mistakenly think that we are just following a topic and playing memes.
But in essence, everywhere is the objectification of the male gaze, and everywhere is the exploitation of patriarchal structures.
The first step in escaping this trap is to learn to be an equal, to learn to turn yourself into a subject rather than a doll in love.
Beauvoir once wrote in The Second Sex:
One day, a woman may be able to love with her "strong", not with her "weak" to love, not to escape from herself, but to find herself, not to give up herself, but to self-affirmation, then, love will be the same for her as it will be for him, will become the source of life, not a mortal danger. 」
Some time ago, her sister saw another story on social platforms - welcome to Dawanguo.
The creator has established a new world view: Nuwa is the faith, the female standard, the worship of menstruation and the mother of the earth, and the costumes are mainly black, white and gray.
In this country, everything shows the vitality of women: menstruation here is the representative of women's creative power, women here have scheming methods, and women's bodies here are no longer linked to sex.
"The elixir of immortality is in the tide of women, and its secret is endless. ”
Source: Little Red Book @ Little Sparrow Painting
And under the comment area of this worldview, there are often girls who consciously join in and contribute to the establishment of the Dawan Kingdom.
Although it is an imagination in cyberspace, the establishment of this creative motif is enough for women to subvert the rules within the structure and find another world.
This is the trend we can grasp, and this is the awakening of female narrative samples in the new era.
We don't want to fall into the same trap again and again, and we don't want to walk into the "hot spots" over and over again.
We don't have to be a distressed **heroine, we don't have to cultivate into a naturally charming vixen, and we don't have to use the poor body size to prove our sense of security and protection.
Source: "Women Suffragettes".
In the new year, I want to say frankly
"I look healthy and strong when I lie down, and I don't need anyone to feel distressed, so what? ”