That day, I was concentrating on my work, but I was interrupted by the constant ringing of **. Seeing that the caller ID was my aunt, I couldn't help but worry about whether something urgent had happened, so I quickly connected**.
As soon as I got connected, my aunt described to me in detail the good news that my cousin Ah Chao was about to get married.
Recently, in order to cope with the bride price expenses of Ah Chao's marriage, I received a wave of urgency from my relatives at home, hoping that I could provide some help.
Ah Chao is the child of my uncle's family, and now he is in his thirties, which is considered an older youth. However, because his family conditions have not been very good, many girls dislike him, and no one is willing to marry him for a long time.
My uncle's house was a very difficult place to live, with only two or three dilapidated houses, and when it rained, the roof would leak. Even in the house, you have to hold an umbrella to avoid getting wet.
Today, my uncle, who is in his seventies, is no longer able to do heavy physical labor and can only make a living by cultivating a small plot of land in the family. In addition, he has to take care of his aunt, who has limited mobility.
According to my mother, my aunt had some problems with her legs and feet before she married my uncle. However, because his uncle was still in his forties and still unmarried, he had no choice but to marry his aunt.
Soon after, they welcomed a son, named Ah Chao. Both the uncle and the aunt had placed all their expectations on this child.
However, Ah Chao was not angry, and left home to work before graduating from junior high school, which was more than ten years. During this period, he never took a penny from his family, and even borrowed money from his uncle.
Although the uncle and aunt are frugal, it is still difficult to meet Ah Chao's expenses outside. Because the family has almost no income, only relying on a few acres of land to barely make ends meet, they are often hungry and simple to cope, and a mouthful of steamed buns and a mouthful of cold water is a meal. Over the course of a year, the chances of eating meat are almost zero.
When we learned about this, we reached out and offered a lot of help to improve their lives. After all, when we were young, my uncle also helped us a lot.
When we were younger, my uncle frequented our house, often bringing us delicious food or helping to harvest rice.
My uncle is the kind of farmer who is extremely honest and responsible, and has lived a low-key and simple life all his life, like a cow working silently.
In contrast, my aunt's life is more proud. According to my mother, my aunt was the best of the three siblings in the family, and the most beautiful one when she was young.
My mother often said that my aunt was highly sought after when she was young, and her suitors even reached the entrance of the village. However, my aunt never chose any suitor, and eventually she married a mediocre-looking but skilled businessman, who is now my uncle.
My uncle is engaged in the silk business, and he is eloquent, and he can successfully trade wherever he goes. Therefore, their family's business is very prosperous, and the aunt lives a prosperous life after marrying, and she does not worry about making a living at all.
Although the uncle has a reputation outside, he is obedient to his aunt when he returns home, and the family finances are completely handed over to his aunt.
My aunt has nothing to do on weekdays and likes to meddle in things, and she will definitely intervene in the matter of Ah Chao's wedding bride price this time.
However, when she was asked to come up with a bride price of 100,000 yuan, her aunt was a little reluctant. After all, before this, the sisters and brothers had already discussed that when Ah Chao got married, both the aunt and the mother should provide some support.
My mother is over 80 years old, and it is difficult for her to provide such a large amount of money. Therefore, this responsibility naturally shifted to my shoulders.
As the only one of my siblings who could provide some funds, I became the one who needed to help the emergency.
However, despite having so much money on hand, I was reluctant to take it out easily. After all, this is not the first time I've helped my cousin Chao.
Because Ah Chao stepped into society at a young age, he was contaminated with many vices, and he was proficient in tattoos, smoking, alcoholism, and gambling.
He often lost all his money because of gambling and came back to borrow money from his uncle. His uncle's already not wealthy family was squandered by him in this way.
Despite this, Ah Chao was not satisfied. In order to satisfy his gambling addiction, he actually borrowed 200,000 yuan.
This has made the situation even worse for already poor families.
He didn't plan to tell his uncle and aunt all this, until the dunning ** hit the house to uncover the disaster.
The lender has a tough attitude, and if Ah Chao fails to repay the loan on time, he will bear the consequences.
Uncle and aunt were frightened by Ah Chao's predicament. After all, Ah Chao is their only son, and if Ah Chao has three long and two short, it will be unbearable for them.
Eventually, they had to dial our ** and tell us what happened.
A large group of our relatives can only get together to discuss what to do. In the end, everyone pooled a sum of money and let the loan shark let Ah Chao go for the time being. However, the remaining money still needs to be solved by Ah Chao himself.
I don't know how they solved it later, but they didn't bother us anymore.
However, what I didn't expect was that Ah Chao actually wanted us to help him pay the bride price for his daughter-in-law.
For this reason, my aunt called me many times, hoping that I could help my cousin. Faced with her request, I refused many times, but she never gave up.
Although I earn relatively more, my money is also hard-earned. It's about the same to take out a few thousand yuan, and our brothers and sisters can still share some of it. But now it takes tens of thousands of yuan, which is not something that anyone is willing to pay.
Although I earn more, my money is also earned by hard work.
My husband and I run a breakfast shop together, and we have to get up at the morning to prepare breakfast. During busy times, we even have to arrange for one person to send the children to school, because only one person is too much to handle. This hectic life lasted for several years, and it was not until the children became sensible and able to walk to school on their own that our lives changed for the better.
Although our breakfast shop is very small, it is very popular with the residents of the neighborhood, so business has been booming.
After a few years of hard work, we bought the house and car in full. Among our relatives, our little life can be regarded as relatively nourishing.
However, the problem of his cousin Ah Chao completely disrupted the original plan.
We were going to take the kids out and have some fun while they were on vacation. After all, for so many years, children have been as regular as us almost every day, and rarely have the opportunity to go out and play.
The series of ** I received recently gave me a lot of headaches, and my mood that I wanted to have a pleasant vacation was disrupted. I can't imagine if there will be a next time after borrowing this money.
After discussing with my husband, we decided not to pay for the money anymore. As the saying goes, "the emergency does not help the poor", and we have already given quite a bit of help before. We still provide assistance for my aunt and uncle on a regular basis, but in this case, we are determined not to reach out again. After all, there was once a suitable girl who was willing to marry Ah Chao, but he disliked people and had an accent, which was puzzling.
A few years ago, the matchmaker introduced a very friendly and hardworking sister to Ah Chao, and the bride price she proposed was also very reasonable. We all think this girl is very good, but Ah Chao dislikes her because she doesn't speak well, which is really infuriating.
As far as I heard, this girl later married a tall and handsome boy, and the two lived happily ever after. In contrast, Ah Chao found a girlfriend outside but didn't dare to take it home to meet his parents, but asked for a high bride price. Isn't he aware of the actual conditions of his family?
If you really want to marry a wife, you should work hard and save money instead of relying on your parents and relatives, right?
We are all people with our own families, and it is quite tedious to deal with household chores, just like my sister, she can't even take care of herself.
My sister married a promising young man in her early years, and in order to earn more money for her sister's expenses, he went to work at a construction site.
One day, he accidentally fell from the construction site, and although fortunately he was treated in time and saved his life, he was disabled for life.
Since then, he has never been able to stand on his own, and his sister has taken on the responsibility of taking care of the small family, and she has found a job nearby.
During her breaks, she would go home and cook for her brother-in-law. My sister runs this small family with all her heart, and if she has to help her relatives make up the bride price money at this time, isn't it a bit ridiculous?
Although my situation is better than that of my sister, my husband and I have worked together to earn this money. My husband's family also has some relatives who need help, and we also need to come up with some.
Not long ago, my husband's brother-in-law was hospitalized with a cerebral hemorrhage, and my sister couldn't afford enough medical bills for the time being, so she had to borrow money from us. Even though it's a loan, we'll show a little bit of gratitude.
So, the cousin can't hope for someone else, after all, everyone is not for him. I heard that my cousin can get five or six thousand yuan a month, and if he saves well, the bride price should not be a problem.
If you plan to get married, you should prepare financially in advance and not rely on others to support you.
As soon as I mentioned my cousin getting married, I received my mother's **. My mom said that my uncle was her younger brother after all, and we should help a little more.
I told my mother that we also have to have a bottom line, and we can't just help all the time.
My mother saw that I couldn't be convinced, so I had to hang up first**. It didn't take long for me to receive ** from my uncle and aunt.
They also wanted me to help my cousin, because it was not easy to marry a daughter-in-law.
I understand their feelings and respect them, but I really can't get used to what my cousin did, thinking that he would leave the second elder at home so ruthlessly, and I don't want to help him anymore.
I told my uncle that I would contact my cousin personally, and they reluctantly agreed to hang up**.
A few days later, my aunt called, undoubtedly about my cousin's wedding bride price.
My aunt mentioned that my uncle only has this one son, and she hopes that I can help me more, after all, my uncle has been very good to us in the past.
I'm grateful for my uncle's kindness, and I'll care about their affairs, but now it's my cousin who is a gambler.
I even doubt that the marriage partner he said really exists, and if she really exists, she should be brought back to my uncle and aunt to meet.
If he is afraid that she will dislike the poverty of the family and dare not take her home, then won't he have to divorce when he marries back, and there is no need to talk about the bride price.
The most important thing is that my cousin is a healthy person, why don't you earn the 100,000 yuan bride price on your own, and what does it mean to ask relatives to take it out?
Other people's money is not picked up.
If the boys in every family do this, how can our lives continue, do we all work hard to earn money for the bride price?
Soon, the news of my reluctance to help my cousin spread among the relatives group, and I didn't bother to listen or care, so I just quit the family group and ignored their discussions. Out of sight, out of mind.
Even if I cut off contact with them from now on, I don't think it matters, such relatives are not worth remembering.
If you really choose to distance yourself from me because of this, I will feel very cold, after all, I have helped them a lot in the past.
No matter which relative is in trouble, I am always the first to reach out to help, have they forgotten these things?
I think I've given enough, but I really don't want to help my cousin with the bride price this time, because I don't see any signs of change in him.
According to my cousin's situation, even if there is a gold mine in the family, it is estimated that he will be hollowed out, not to mention that our family does not have so much wealth.
I only hope that my cousin can understand as soon as possible that what he wants should be fought for by himself, rather than pinned on others.
Now I just want to run my little family well, and nothing else matters. Helping is love, not helping is duty, as long as I keep the bottom line, I will not be swayed by them. List of high-quality authors