Spinoza said: "We do not argue for the sake of arguing, but for the sake of the truth. ”
The purpose of the discussion should be the pursuit of truth.
Rather than just aiming for personal victories or proving yourself right.
But in real life, we often turn a quarrel into a game of you and me. All we seek is to make our point of view clear to the other person.
In fact, only by letting go, learning to be relaxed, and learning to look at problems from a different perspective can we live a relaxed life.
Instead of arguing about right and wrong, learn to let go and let the truth prevail.
I've seen short stories like this**.
There is a temple that is famous for having Buddhist beads.
Only the old monk of the temple and his seven ** know that the Buddha beads are enshrined in**.
All seven of them have been enlightened, and the old monk feels that by handing over his position to one of them in the future, he can promote Buddhism.
I don't want that rosary to suddenly disappear one day.
The old priest asked his seven **s. "Which of you took the rosary? As long as they are put back in their place, I will not hold them accountable, and the Buddha will not blame them. ”
The crowd shook their heads.
Seven days have passed, and the rosary has not been found.
The old abbot added: "This rosary can belong to anyone, as long as you agree. ”
But 7 days have passed, and no one has yet admitted it.
The old Taoist priest was disappointed: "Tomorrow you can go down the mountain, and the person who got the beads can stay here if he wants." ”
The next day, the six ** packed their bags and breathed a long sigh of relief. and got to work.
There is only one ** left.
The old Taoist priest asked the rest of the **: Where are the beads? ”
* said: "I don't accept it. ”
So why do we have to be called thieves? ”
*Said. "How many people have been here lately? They suspect each other, and only if someone comes forward, the others will be released. ”
What's more, the rosary is gone, but the Buddha is still there. ”
The old abbot smiled, took the rosary from his arms, and put it in the hand of **.
In life, we will always face many difficult situations, sad things, and indescribable truths.
We try to understand them as much as we can, but think clearly and see through them.
But in this world, not all people always appear as they are.
So let go, learn to be at peace, and learn to look at things from a different perspective, so that you can live easily, comfortably, and calmly.
Don't argue about winning or losing, learn to let go. This way you will be more relaxed.
This statement is not unreasonable, but the situation needs to be assessed.
When it comes to issues of principles and values, arguments are legitimate and necessary.
But dwelling on trivial things only wastes time and energy and forces people into pointless battles.
Recall the little things that happened around me:
One day, two colleagues got into an argument. There is disagreement on how to approach certain projects.
There was a heated argument between the two sides, and neither side made any concessions.
As a result, not only has the problem not been resolved, but the estrangement and hostility between the two parties have increased.
This scene was supposed to be a scene of win-win cooperation, but it became full of friction and conflict because of the conflict.
In our quest for victory, we often overlook the important point. It's an opportunity to communicate with others.
This debate is not a one-sided struggle, but an opportunity for both sides to move forward together.
Listening to other people's perspectives broadens our horizons and pushes us outside of our own mindsets.
This quote profoundly points out the important difference between argumentation and argumentation. Arguments seek the defeat of the other side, while arguments seek common truths.
Throughout history, we have seen that truly great leaders and thinkers do not conquer others by arguing.
Listening to and understanding the perspectives of others is important to achieve a common goal.
Each has unique experiences, backgrounds, and perspectives.
If you're wasting time and energy arguing about right and wrong, why don't you stop and listen to other people's opinions?
As Albert Einstein said, "Communication with others is one of the most beautiful experiences of life's journey." ”
This passage is full of sparks of wisdom and reminds us to value communication and discussion with others.