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Every child is the heart and soul of their parents, but some children are always loved and hated. They are stubborn, independent, and moody, leaving parents often feeling helpless. First of all, we need to understand the stubbornness of children. In the face of adversity, children tend to adopt a stubborn attitude to defend their ideas. At this time, parents need to learn to empathize and understand their behavior from their children's point of view, so that they can truly empathize.
So, why are children so stubborn? Studies have shown that stubborn personality may be related to a child's nervous system, and some children are naturally more excited and impulsive. In addition, the way home is schooled may also affect a child's level of stubbornness. If parents are too doting or overly controlling their children, it can cause them to become more stubborn.
In the face of such children, how should we guide them and help them out of their predicament?
First, respect your child's opinion. When children have their own ideas and opinions, parents should respect their opinions as much as possible and encourage them to express their feelings. This can help children build self-esteem and self-confidence, and increase their autonomy. Parents need to have an open and honest dialogue with their children so that they feel valued. In this way, the child will be more willing to listen to our advice and work with us to solve the problem.
Second, it is important to understand that a child's stubbornness is not a bad thing. Stubbornness is a manifestation of children when facing problems, and they hope to solve problems through their own efforts, and this attitude is worthy of recognition. As parents, we must learn to respect our children's efforts, support their stubbornness, not give denial and belittlement, and let them learn how to face difficulties and challenges.
Third, guide your child to express his thoughts and emotions in a different way。In daily life, we can guide children to think, let them learn to express their emotions more reasonably, and let them find problems and solve problems on their own. For example, use more constructive language in communication to encourage them to put forward their opinions rather than resist. In this way, children's independent thinking and problem-solving skills will gradually improve, and they will be more willing to face challenges and difficulties.
Fourth, provide appropriate help and support to your child. When children are trying to solve problems, parents should take the initiative to participate and give timely guidance and help to help them solve problems faster. When children make progress, we should give them full recognition and praise, which can motivate them to continue to work hard.
Fifth, parents should avoid over-spoiling or over-controlling their children. Over-indulgence can lead to selfishness and lack of concern for others, while over-control can lead to a lack of autonomy and creativity. Therefore, parents should give their children appropriate freedom and responsibility so that they can learn to self-manage and take responsibility.
Sixth, there are specific skills that can be used to deal with stubborn children. For example, when a child cries or has a tantrum, parents can take a "cold treatment" approach and temporarily step away from their child's side to calm them down. At the same time, parents can also motivate their children to make positive changes through a reward system. For example, when a child is able to actively control his emotions, parents can give small rewards or praise.
Finally, we need to treat stubborn children with love and understanding. When children show stubbornness, parents should be patient and tolerant, and do not get angry with their children easily. Warm children's hearts with understanding and love, so that they can feel the support of their parents, so that they can better face difficulties.
In addition to homeschooling, schooling can also have a positive impact on stubborn children. Teachers can cultivate students' spirit of cooperation and teamwork through classroom education and group activities. This can help children better integrate into the group and enhance their social adaptability.
In short, in the face of children's stubbornness, we need to understand and respect their attitudes, and give appropriate help and support. By establishing good communication channels, avoiding over-indulgence or over-control, using specific skills to cope with stubborn behavior, and focusing on schooling, we can help children better control their emotions and behaviors and promote their healthy development.