**Wan Fan Incentive Plan Recently I saw a ** about i people, I am not a sensible person, or I am a person who lives more self-consciously, I can understand what the person in ** says, but it is difficult to empathize with her. 
**The content is:
She said: I have been a sensible child since I was a child, and I often have to cater to others in front of outsiders, whether it is family, friends or colleagues.
She said: I don't get along with people, I can only imitate others and learn from other people's jokes, in fact, I also know that I don't want to be like that at all, I still feel stupid like that, I can't talk to others, I feel very lonely.
She said: I even posted a circle of friends with others, and now when I comment below, I am wondering if it will disturb others and whether others will find me annoying.
She said: When you receive a gift, your first reaction is not joy but how to repay someone.
So I flipped through the comment section:
Passerby 1: Imitating others to get along with people, I don't even know what my personality is like;
Passerby 2: I don't dare to admit it, for fear that others will say that I am hypocritical, and I am moved by myself.
Passerby 3It turns out that I'm afraid of receiving gifts, afraid of socializing, afraid of bothering others, it's a heart disease!
Passerby 4: Since I was a child, I was alone at home, my parents went to work, my grandmother took care of my uncle's children, and my grandfather was gone, so I really lacked love, and I really liked to please others, and I would rather suffer a little loss to please others first.
There were many, many comments, and my first reaction was. Why is that? What makes them like this, in my world, there really is no need to care about outsiders. It wasn't until I saw the following comment that it dawned on me:In fact, children who are independent and sensible when they are young may have more psychological problems when they grow up. Premature independence can increase anxiety and fear, and it is easy to form a people-pleasing personality, taking too much into account the feelings and evaluations of others, and feeling blind to one's own feelings. Before enjoying how to be loved, you have to learn to love others, to understand others, to tolerate others, and to carry everything yourself, such people are actually very insecure.
Tell me how I behave with people:
Work: I usually only work three or four hours a day, because part-time jobs do not bring me financial freedom, so I choose to live when the money from part-time jobs does not give me financial freedom (provided that you can support yourself).
Colleague: I don't really care about the evaluation and opinion of my colleagues and leaders, because they don't have a way to get me promoted and raised, to put it more ugly: in this materialistic era, I and they may only get along for so many years in this life, why should I care about them so much?
Friends: Friends get along with each other as long as they grasp one important point. That is: those who need to bother to please or maintain are not good friends, just give up. It liberates others and oneself.
Family: The relationship between family members is mutual, and remembering is mutual. Don't be blindly asked, and don't blindly give to self-moving. Coming and going is the way for families to get along. If your family is really painful for you, you can also give it up, after all: people are independent individuals first, then they are part of the family, and finally they are part of society. You have to be good for yourself first, so that everyone will arrive.
Finally, I hope that all i people can be happy to be themselves. After all, life is short, count as 80 years of life, twenty younger, twenty rare, and the remaining forty are still worth day and night. So it's only been 20 years to be chic.
Be yourself and be happy. Come on people!