This article is based on the oral description of the old cannon with 100 blind date experience, which is not easy to come by, please like and collect it.
First, know each other and know yourself.
Blind dates are all introduced by matchmakers, otherwise there is no need for blind dates, so before meeting the girl, try to know as much information as possible about the woman. This includes, but is not limited to:
family background (mainly depends on how many brothers and sisters she has, whether it is Voldemort or not).
Love history (check for love rivals and determine whether they will be cuckolded in the future).
Family history of genetic disease (for the sake of the next generation).
These can be learned from the mouth of the matchmaker, and can also be learned from the neighbors, so as to avoid encountering unladylike people and endless troubles. Appearance is secondary, because you are going for the purpose of marriage, once the girl has the above problems after marriage, it is difficult to stop the loss in time.
For many older boys, they must not be hungry and do not choose to eat, and if they can't find it locally, they will go to other places to find it, and go to Southeast Asia to find it.
Second, be good at packaging.
Before meeting girls, boys pick up themselves, people are very snobbish, especially women, if you don't dress outstandingly, you are easy to be looked down upon by the other party, even if you have great potential.
But a woman is a sensual animal, and the eye edge is very important, although there will be no love at first sight, but the impression at first sight. Decide if she's willing to spend time with you?
Three, bluffing.
Now many returning girls are lined up on blind dates at the doorstep of their homes, which is a seller's market where supply is obviously undersupply, how to stand out from the crowd. This is a test of the boys' strategy.
When Liu Bang participated in the birthday banquet of Lu Gong, everyone else gave 100 yuan, and the maximum was 1,000 yuan, Liu Bang came empty-handed, and when he saw this situation, he opened his mouth and reported: I will pay 10,000 yuan. was arranged by Lu Gong to sit in the upper seat, and then married the little girl Lu Pheasant to Liu Bang.
Therefore, the boys on the blind date can't be too honest, they should properly exaggerate their achievements, how well they mix outside, anyway, the other party can't verify it for a while, and defeating the competitors is the top priority at the moment, so that they can have the opportunity to go deeper.
Fourth, avoid the real and make it virtual.
Don't take the initiative to ask the woman's conditions, because everyone who comes is talking about the conditions, and if you talk about the conditions, there is no benefit except for intensifying the mutual consumption of involution, and in the end, it is very likely that the one with the highest price will win.
To learn to play cards out of common sense, in any era, differentiated competition is the magic weapon to win. Others talk about bride price, I talk about dreams, others talk about houses and cars, I talk about taste, we must learn to draw cakes for girls, so that she has room for imagination and forms a sticky attraction to each other.
Therefore, when going on a blind date, you should talk more about off-topic topics with girls, such as: work, travel, childhood, etc. Especially in childhood, when everyone was born in the same place, it is easy to have common memories and find common ground.
Fifth, secretly crossing Chen Cang.
If you fall in love with a girl, but the girl doesn't make a clear statement, or rejects you, don't be discouraged at this time, expect to get it in one step, unless you are a rich second generation, there are many choices in front of her, and she is just picky.
Now your first task is to add the girl's WeChat, understand her range of activities and interests through social dynamics, and then you can make targeted plans.
For example, asking a girl to watch a movie, drinking a cup of coffee, etc., through these ways, the original blind date scene is pulled into a love scene, and the difficulty is suddenly reduced.
Sixth, sweet words.
Women like to listen to nice words, they all like to be praised, they all like to be pampered, and most girls fall under this sugar-coated shell. There are a lot of high-EQ chat skills on the Internet, I won't list the specifics, you can search for them yourself.
What I want to say is that through chatting, we can find each other's common ground and each other's weaknesses, and no matter how cold a girl is, she is a little princess at heart.
Remember, do what you like and get the right medicine.
Seventh, off-the-field lore.
As long as you can ask the girl out, don't be inhibited, that will make you look unconfident. As long as she is willing to come out, it means that there is a drama between you, and the location is not limited, whether it is in your hometown or in another city.
When you are alone with a girl, make good use of body language, such as holding hands, opening the door for her, crossing the street and protecting her with your body, etc., these actions are worth a thousand words, making her feel considerate and protected, and more open to you.
In practice, physical contact in non-male-female relationships can be felt, even if there is only a small part of the body, especially girls, who are more physically sensitive, and this contact is an important step to break through the psychological defense of girls.