01 You can't expect your friends to be able to send charcoal in the snow
In the long journey of life, we often encounter stormy and snowy nights.
At that time, some people longed for the charcoal fire of their friends, hoping that the warmth would dispel the cold in their hearts.
But really, can we always expect a friend to lend a helping hand at this critical time?
It's not that I don't value the deep friendship with my friends, or that I doubt the friendship of this world.
It's just that I know very well that true friendship is based on mutual respect and understanding.
When we put all our hopes on our friends and expect them to lend a helping hand when we need it most, it is precisely a misunderstanding and disrespect for the friendship relationship.
Friends are the companions we meet in the journey of life, they may be able to enjoy the scenery along the way, share laughter and tears with us, but they cannot always shelter us from the wind and rain.
Everyone's life has its own highs and valleys, and it has its own challenges and dilemmas that need to be faced.
We can't force our friends to do what they don't want or can't do because of our own needs.
Perhaps, at some point, we will feel helpless and lost due to the pressures and difficulties of life, and we will crave help and support from friends.
But at this time, we should learn to find solutions to problems by ourselves, and learn to light a lamp for ourselves to illuminate the way forward.
This is not to say that we should isolate ourselves and refuse the help of our friends.
On the contrary, we should cherish every time we get together with our friends and be grateful for the wonderful memories and valuable experiences they have left in our lives.
But at the same time, we need to learn to give our friends the same care and support when they need it.
Walking alone on a snowy night may be cold, but it is also a unique experience.
We don't always have to expect the charcoal fire of others, because everyone has their own inner flame that can warm themselves and light the way forward.
Let's learn to walk independently in the wind and snow, cherish every encounter with our friends, but don't pin all our hopes on them.
In this way, we can better appreciate the beauty of life and experience the richness of life.
02 Poverty alleviation is more important than getting rid of singles
In this fast-paced world, we are constantly surrounded by voices and opinions, as if every step of life requires precise calculations and careful choices.
Among them, "poverty alleviation" and "getting rid of singles" seem to have become two hot topics among modern urbanites.
Some people feel that poverty alleviation is more important than getting rid of singles, while others feel that the two are not contradictory, and can even go hand in hand.
So, which one is more important? First of all, we must understand that the material foundation is certainly not necessary when we are in love.
Love, in itself, is a kind of emotional exchange and spiritual fit, it does not need the accumulation of money, let alone material measurement.
However, it's also important to recognize that a person's conversation, style, and even values can be influenced by their income.
This is not to say that we are bound by money, but it is an indisputable fact that the economic base determines the superstructure.
Before we decide to change our lives, we should probably think about how we can change our living conditions.
This is not to say that we should give up the pursuit of love, but that we should first make ourselves a better person, a person who is more capable of taking on the responsibilities that love brings.
Because only when we stand at a higher starting point can we see farther scenery and meet the person who is in touch with our hearts.
Poverty alleviation is a process of self-improvement and growth.
It takes effort, sweat, and even tears.
But it's these experiences that make us stronger and more independent.
And when we change our material status quo through our own efforts, we also create a better future for ourselves.
In contrast, getting rid of orders may be a much easier and more enjoyable process.
It doesn't require much effort on our part, it just requires us to open our hearts and minds to the person who has come into our lives.
However, we also need to understand that love is not the whole of life, it is just a stage in our life.
If we give up the opportunity for self-improvement and growth in order to get rid of the single, then what is the point of such a single? It is only when we stand at a higher starting point that we can meet the person who is in touch with our hearts.
And this kind of encounter is the most meaningful.
So, let's try to get out of poverty first, make ourselves a better person, and then look forward to that beautiful love.
03 When you don't have the strength, it's useless to know anyone
In the journey of life, we often encounter various opportunities and challenges.
Sometimes, we may feel that if we know someone, or have a relationship, then everything is much easier.
But the real truth is that it's useless to know anyone when we don't have the strength.
The world is realistic, and it doesn't change because of our fantasies and expectations.
Many times, we think that with a relationship, we can easily get what we want.
However, if you don't have a certain ability, then even if you have a so-called relationship, you can't really help yourself.
Because, when the opportunity comes, we need to have enough ability to grasp it and complete the tasks it brings.
Otherwise, this opportunity is equivalent to none.
Strength is not only the knowledge and skills we master, but also our way of thinking, attitude, and problem-solving ability.
Only when we have these can we say that we really have the strength.
But in reality, many people often ignore their actual situation and blindly pursue the so-called "relationship".
They think that as long as they have a relationship, they can easily achieve success.
However, they forget that real success requires hard work and sweat.
No matter what kind of environment we are in, we should first improve our abilities.
We need to face up to our actual situation, understand our strengths and weaknesses, and then strive to improve and improve.
Only in this way can we have enough strength to grasp it and complete the tasks it brings when the opportunity comes.
That's not to say we should completely ignore the importance of relationships.
After all, relationships are also part of our lives.
However, we need to understand that interpersonal relationships are only auxiliary, and the real core is our own strength.
04 Dispensable relationship, just a kind of consumption
In the midst of the complexity of life, it is inevitable that we will develop various relationships with others.
Some of these relationships seem dispensable, they are neither clear nor deep, like a dewy relationship that has not been able to bring us lasting nourishment.
Such relationships often only become a drain, consuming our energy, time, and emotions.
We live in a social world, and socializing is an important way for us to get information, share emotions, and seek support.
At the same time, however, socializing is also a drain.
We need to put in the effort to maintain these relationships, whether it's face-to-face or online, and it takes a certain amount of time and energy.
And this time and energy, for us, is limited.
We should be more careful in choosing and managing our relationships.
We need to analyze the relationships around us and figure out which ones are worth investing in and which ones are something we can let go.
This is not to become apathetic or alienated, but to use our time and energy more wisely.
In this process, we need to learn to distinguish between "dispensable relationships" and "important relationships".
Relationships that are dispensable tend to only appear occasionally when we need them, rather than giving real support and help when we need them.
The important relationships are those that can give us real support and help in our time of need, and they are important supports in our lives.
We should put more energy into those important relationships and make them an important part of our lives.
And for those dispensable relationships, we can choose to let go and let them fade naturally.
In this way, we can better manage our time and energy and make it more valuable.
Relationships in life are a valuable resource that we need to cherish and use wisely.
We should learn to distinguish between dispensable relationships and important ones, and devote more energy to those relationships that bring us real value and meaning.