In Xu Jiayin's marriage experience, in addition to his relationship with Zhang Yuxia, the "village flower" of the village and his fiancée who was later abandoned by him, had a relationship for several years, and then there was Ding Yumei, the "greedy help" wife who lived with him for 39 years and finally helped him go to the point of no return.
Here, we will introduce the story of Xu Jiayin and his wife Ding Yumei.
Part I: Factory Flower "Marrying a Poor Family."
We don't know whether Xu Jiayin's abandonment of his rural fiancée Zhang Yuxia has anything to do with knowing Ding Yumei, but from the perspective of time period, Xu Jiayin cut off contact with his fiancée Zhang Yuxia shortly after going to work at Wuyang Iron and Steel Plant, and at this time, Ding Yumei, who was the "factory flower", was already Xu Jiayin's colleague. For this reason, Xu Jiayin, who is high-minded and far-sighted, abandons the "village flower" and pursues the "factory flower", which is consistent with his moral concept.
Ding Yumei's ancestral home is Ding Jianglou Village, Xulou Town, Suixi County, Huaibei City, Anhui Province. Her father's name is Ding Zaikuan, who joined the army when he was young, participated in the War of Liberation, and later went to North Korea, participated in the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea, and made meritorious contributions on the battlefield and was promoted to company instructor. After returning to China to resist US aggression and aid Korea, he was transferred to a state-owned unit in Wuyang County, Henan Province, as a leader. After graduating from junior high school in the 80s, her daughter Ding Yumei was assigned to work in Wuyang Iron and Steel Factory and became a female steel worker.
In 1982, Wuyang Iron and Steel Plant assigned a college student, who was Xu Jiayin, a graduate of Wuhan Iron and Steel Institute. After Xu Jiayin arrived in the factory, he immediately met Ding Yumei, the "factory flower", his eyes lit up and he was attracted by the beauty of the other party. As a result, Xu Jiayin used the momentum of pursuing the "village flower" Zhang Yuxia back then, and began a fierce pursuit of Ding Yumei, consciously approaching Ding Yumei, and doing everything possible to please Ding Yumei.
Many people were not optimistic about Xu Jiayin's pursuit at that time, because Ding Yumei must have been born in a cadre family, grew up in the city, and was beautiful, and there were many young men who pursued him. Xu Jiayin was born in a rural area, his family was very poor, and his father and grandmother were elderly and sick all the year round. At that time, although Xu Jiayin had already participated in the work, his monthly salary of several dozen yuan was not enough to subsidize the family. Xu Jiayin couldn't even afford clothes at that time, and he was still wearing thin single clothes in winter, which looked very shabby.
However, Xu Jiayin is lucky on the road of feelings, because he is always the winner. Under his fierce pursuit, coupled with his aura as a college student, he finally won Ding Yumei's heart. Ding Yumei didn't care about the poverty of Xu Jiayin's family, and the two finally came together and became an enviable pair in the steel factory.
After Xu Jiayin and Ding Yumei got married, they initially lived a stable life for a few years. In the second year of their marriage, they had their eldest son, Xu Zhijian. Therefore, Ding Yumei is more about housework and raising children. Xu Jiayin also worked hard, and later became the workshop director.
But both of them are unwilling to be mediocre and lonely in their bones.
In the early nineties of the last century, under the blowing of the spring breeze of reform and opening up, the upsurge of doing business in the sea rose. Many of those who went to the sea quickly became rich, became rich and lived a decent life. These messages have greatly stimulated Xu Jiayin and his wife, and they are also very powerful. They look at the little dead wages they pay every month, and they can only make ends meet, which is far from the life they expect.
So, the couple began to look for ways to make money. So, Xu Jiayin did something that determined the turning point of his later life.
Xu Jiayin is the director of the heat treatment workshop, and the workshop has a lot of production waste in the production process. These scraps, in the past, did treat them as scrap products, and no one cared about them at all. But when Xu Jiayin had the idea of "making money", he regarded it as a treasure. So, he contacted the relevant business unit and sold the scrap.
There is no accurate statement on how much the scrap was sold and where the revenue was spent. But the consequence was that he was denounced, and the factory came to the investigation team to investigate, and the result of the investigation was that although Xu Jiayin gave a symbolic subsidy to the personnel of the workshop, part of the income was unknown, and it could only be identified as **. It is said that the factory initially sent him to prison, but later his father-in-law Ding Zaikuan moved around, and the factory read that he had several technical inventions and made contributions to the factory, so in the end he was only relieved of his position as workshop director and dealt with administratively.
After this incident, Xu Jiayin and Ding Yumei were discredited, and they had no shame to continue working in the factory. For this reason, the couple decided to resign, left the Wuyang Iron and Steel Plant where they had worked for many years, and went south to Shenzhen, thus starting their shocking business life.