In your younger generation, you can't count you! You see that you have been working for so many years, and you have not earned any money; Wife, wife didn't marry! Don't dare to take it seriously, you really can't go on like this.A brother from my neighbor asked me to tell his story, and he said he was very aggrieved! He hoped that the relatives who laughed at him would take a look at the article, and he hoped that they would understand that they were not using the sign of affection to mock his qualifications.
Just after noon on the second day of junior high school, my neighbor's brother pushed open the door of my house, and he knew that my family only entertained guests on the second day of junior high school every year, and did not go to relatives.
It just so happened that I was stir-frying a few dishes at noon, and I was about to drink some with my father, so I hurriedly invited the neighbor brother to sit down, brought him a pair of chopsticks, took a wine cup, and beckoned him to drink some.
You don't know, he just said that I ......After a few drinks, the neighbor's brother turned red and talked about his visit today. It was his second aunt and third aunt who came.
As soon as he put down his things at the door, the second aunt said that he didn't study well, that he hadn't saved money after working for so many years, that he hadn't asked his mother-in-law, and that he had no ability among several cousins.
When the neighbor brother heard this, he was very angry and opened his mouth to refute, but he had nothing to say. What is there to talk about? The neighbor's brother said that since he borrowed money from his relatives to buy a house last year, his relatives have not been waiting to see him, and the first sentence on any occasion is: such a big person, you can't make a fortune, you don't even have a daughter-in-law, you have to borrow money to buy a house, you say a few cousins, why are you so bad? The boss is not small, you have to think about it!
Although the neighbor's brother never borrowed a penny, it didn't prevent his relatives from caring so much about him every time.
If you don't get married at the age of forty, should you really be looked down upon by relatives and friends?I looked at my neighbor's brother, his eyes reddened, and I knew that he wanted to be comforted.
However, I can't comfort it, because my relatives often say that among a few cousins, I don't mix well, and the car can't afford to buy an expensive car; Housing, housing can't afford to buy an expensive one!
I don't know how much money to send more! Everyone is one baby, you are two babies, why is it the same as what others send them?
If a man has no money, that's a waste! If you are the eldest and the youngest, you have to think about it, can you ask your relatives for cheap New Year's money? ”
This is the reason why my relatives dislike me.
I'm also afraid of leaving my relatives, and I'm afraid of meeting relatives who come to my door, so what qualifications do I have to comfort others?
Before leaving, the neighbor's brother sighed: The seven aunts and eight aunts only know how to urge you to get married, and no matter what difficulties you have, they don't mention what they can help, so they keep saying that if you should get married, you have to get married, do what at what age, and stick a knife in your heart. As soon as you mention that you want to borrow some money, they immediately change the subject and don't mention anything. Alas!
The neighbor's brother said that he didn't want to leave his relatives in the future, and if there was something, no one would help, so he "stuck a knife" in your heart, and one was more willing to help you than the other. He hoped that his children would forgive him for this decision if they were too lonely in the future.
Actually, I think that no matter how good or bad a person is, if you refuse to help him, then you are also not qualified to criticize him. Even if you think that you care about him, that it is a good medicine, that is good for the sick, that is not good!
He was already unsatisfactory, forcing him to "go crazy", is it good for him?
Sometimes, maybe we are all envious of the woman who said that the Huanglongjiang faction all wore Bluetooth and lived that pure, at least, she didn't have to worry about it!
If you have to compare, you will definitely be able to compare whose car is better and whose house is better, but what is the point of this?
The person who loses has to constantly face the concern of relatives: you are so old, it is not good to mix, you have to think about the reason!
What does he think! He eats his own food and lives his own life, yes, even if he has borrowed money, then in fact no one has lent it to him, he has not harmed anyone's interests, no one can say the same about him.
Of course, many times, the sudden idea of not wanting to leave relatives is not what is at fault.
We can't expect too much from one thing, otherwise, there will definitely be a sense of disparity after the expectations are disappointed.
For example, if your relatives are richer than you, do you think that they should spend the money where they spend it? If you are in trouble, should they all help?
Not at all! Helping you is a friendship, and it's okay not to help.
Lower the expectation a little, regard the blood relationship as a cooperative relationship, don't care who has and who doesn't, look at each other equally, no one should think that they can bargain with others, and no one should think that they will bargain with themselves, perhaps, the mentality is different, and they will get along better and closer!
Relatives should also move forward with the development of the times, have contacts with each other, coexist on an equal footing, and treat relatives as friends, perhaps, it will be more comfortable.