When I grew up, I discovered that the secret to becoming a master has been told to us by The Ugly D

I believe many people have read fairy tales, such as "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs", and "Cinderella". After all, as it says in "The Little Prince", every adult was once a child, but many times they forgot about it.

These ingenious stories may come from the mouths of our parents, or from the narration of our Chinese teachers, or from the fairy tale books that we secretly "eavesdropped" in the dim light of the library after school, but no matter whether they come from, we still remember them decades later.

But even though these stories have stayed in our minds for many years, have you ever asked yourself if you really understand them?

Fairy tales like "Aesop's Fables", "One Thousand and One Nights", "Hans Christian Andersen's Fairy Tales", "Grimm's Fairy Tales", etc., these stories that have a large audience around the world have gone through hundreds or even thousands of years and have become literary classics that we are familiar with now.

The meaning of a literary classic is not only literal, but more importantly, it has a huge space for interpretation.

Many people ask me why I studied literature in graduate school, and this question is really difficult to answer from a public point of view. Just like Zhang Xuefeng said during the live broadcast some time ago, "Liberal arts rely on licking", although it is difficult to speak, but in a practical sense, many liberal arts students are powerless to refute. Because from the nature of the discipline itself, the liberal arts itself has non-utilitarian characteristics. Taking fairy tale books as an example, the most typical thing is the pleasure we generate when we read them deeply, which cannot be measured from the perspective of worldly utilitarianism.

Because of its non-utilitarian disciplinary nature, it is difficult to visually see the advantages and benefits that liberal arts bring. Compared to science and engineering, which can build roads and machines, liberal arts may only be able to make some achievements in theory. But are liberal arts really less useful than science? Not really. Science can make a country strong, while liberal arts can make a country a country.

At the beginning of the story, the ugly duckling is still a freckled swan egg, and he is growing up in a warm eggshell, completely unaware of the outside world. At this time, it was raised by a mother duck by chance, which fundamentally determined its fate of being excluded in the future.

On the day when the baby duck broke its shell, the mother duck looked at the silent swan egg and fell into thought, but as a mother, it still shoulders the responsibility of raising children. But the ugly duckling, who was born different, did not receive any love from his mother's instincts, and as he leaped into the pond, his siblings laughed at his misfit in a strange way.

I believe that many children with problems with their original families have encountered such problems, either because the adults in the family are too conservative, especially the "patriarchy" is typical; Either the mother does not know the balance among her children, and is partial to one child but ignores the others.

But in any case, the main pain point of children with problems in the family of origin is the lack of love, more precisely, the lack of love from their parents and loved ones.

There are two obvious characteristics of people who lack love, one is that they are very insecure, they suffer from gains and losses about everything, they hesitate to encounter things, and they are always cautious in doing things, for fear of making a mistake; The second is low self-esteem, never take the initiative to speak in class, often bow your head, dare not look at the people around you, always feel that others have been paying attention to your every move, and if you are not careful, you will be ridiculed by others.

The Ugly Duckling in "The Ugly Duckling" is a child of this character, who has been ridiculed by his siblings for his ugly appearance since birth, and because he is not welcome, he can only choose to leave voluntarily. The ugly ducklings who wander outside, like many children who choose to go out to work in order to escape the shadow of their original family, because there is no one to support and help, their lives are bound to be full of twists and turns.

The ugly duckling's inferiority complex is reflected in many ways, such as when meeting a domestic hunting dog, because the hunting dog did not eat it, and subjectively speculated that it was because he was too ugly, which is also a typical manifestation of a person who lacks love - denying himself. Another example is when he looked at the beautiful geese returning to the south in the autumn and sighed, longing to become like them.

But is this kind of unusual character really no good?

Although the ugly duckling is a swan, until the ugly duckling's brilliant gold shines, if it dies in the danger of nature, it will never be able to shine.

And it is precisely because of this unique experience, this cautious attitude to life because of exclusion, that allows the ugly duckling to skillfully learn survival skills in the dangerous nature.

We can say that the ugly duckling's beautiful future determines that it has to pay for this beauty from birth, and in turn, it is these costs that contribute to the ugly duckling's life's setbacks to become what he dreams to be.

I don't know if you have noticed that at the end of the story of "The Ugly Duckling", the ugly duckling only discovers his beauty when he bows his head in shame. When spring comes, the ugly duckling survives the cold winter with its resilience, and when spring comes, it doesn't know that it has quietly changed.

And more attentive people will find that from the beginning of the story to the end of the story, the ugly duckling's posture has always been weak, passively bullied, and cautious.

In our lives, we can find that the more people are in high positions, the more humble and prudent they are in the way they behave in the world. The author's hometown is a very remote and backward small county, where the attitude of the grassroots staff is perfunctory, and once there was a problem with the transformer in the village, the author called ** to the leader according to the reserved information, and the other party's gentle and humble attitude was impressive.

Many times we think that people in high positions have more power and should be more arrogant, but in fact, the higher they are, the more humble and polite they are, on the one hand, they inevitably discipline themselves by the social system, and on the other hand, it is this kind of character and self-cultivation that has contributed to the position he can reach now.

We should always maintain a humble attitude in our work, the tasks assigned by the boss should be completed conscientiously, and the problem of not being able to do it is not a shameful thing to humbly ask others for advice, but it is a stupid behavior to not know how to pretend to understand.

Be humble and humbleThere are various aspects of the role in our lives, and I have summarized the following points:

First, being humble about our work can bring us closer to our colleagues.

We know that at work, we spend more time with our colleagues than our bosses, and building a good relationship with our colleagues is a must for our professional life. Many people are arrogant and offend people everywhere, until they make mistakes and find that no one is willing to help them, and then they regret it. Therefore, we should be humble and cautious in our daily work, say hello when we meet and say goodbye when we leave, even these small greetings can show the respect and seriousness you should have as a colleague, and help you win the favor of your colleagues.

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Second: calm down when you are proud, and continue to work hard when you are frustrated

Life is not all smooth sailing, because we have things we want to do, and we will inevitably encounter many setbacks. But whether we are smooth sailing, complacent, or sharp turns, difficult steps, we should maintain an open attitude, learn to bow our heads, recognize our position, and know that we should go forward.

When we are proud, we should plan ahead and find a good way out for ourselves, not only seeing the scenery in front of us, but ignoring the risks that are about to move behind those scenes; When we are frustrated, we need to learn to ask others, and at this time, the network you have accumulated can play a role.