Fate changes with your choices, and dressing up and being in the heat of the world become less important. This sentence comes from Du Fu's poem, which is concise and profound. In fact, women's good lives are similar, although some are obviously good people, but because of the slight difference in habits, the fate is not good. Here, we've mentioned three habits that deserve special attention and that must be changed if you want to live a good life.
First of all, the heart is too soft. Soft-heartedness is like a disease, which needs to be timely**, otherwise it is ultimately yourself who suffers. Take my old building as an example, there is a husband and wife living in it, the man looks good on the surface, but he has a fatal problem - domestic violence after drinking. Every time he beat his wife, he fell asleep, and the next day he woke up and knelt down again, tears and snot. Her wife was always moved by such a scene, and she forgave it as soon as her heart softened.
However, this soft-hearted forgiveness led to her falling into misery for half a lifetime. If she starts not to forgive and leaves early, how can there be so many years of torment?Being soft-hearted means agreeing to others bullying you countless times, and it's a habit that needs to be completely changed.
Secondly, the mouth is too straight. Some honest people always think that saying anything is not a big deal, but too blunt words often make people suffer. To be honest, it's not always wise.
I have a little colleague who is the kind of person who is kind but not articulate, not good at sweet talk, always straight to the point. She was very good to her mother-in-law, spent money generously, and sent 20,000 yuan to her mother-in-law for the New Year, but her brother-in-law's wife only gave 1,000 yuan every New Year. It stands to reason that the mother-in-law should love her, but in fact, the mother-in-law prefers her sister-in-law, because her sister-in-law is good at clever tongue and cares about greetings from time to time. It doesn't cost a penny, just by lip service, you can dress up as a good person. During the Chinese New Year, her mother-in-law actually gave 20,000 yuan to her concubine and bought a gold necklace, which made her so angry that she wanted **. This is called "stupidity". She always felt that her family didn't need flattery, but this was not the case, and the verbal expression was a zero-cost win. If you are too blunt, you will suffer.
Secondly, when it comes to the woman with a love brain.
Such a woman is really pitiful and pathetic. They pursue love all their lives, but they never get the man's sincerity. The results are often bleak. I know a beautiful woman who sifted sand at our construction site because she was the only female worker, and she stood out. When she was young, she did not listen to her parents' advice and insisted on marrying a man who was already divorced. After marriage, the man became lazy, did not do housework, and did not earn money. In order to save face and worry about her family's discussions, she had to work on the construction site by herself to support her family. Until the age of 52, she was still doing heavy physical work, while her husband only knew how to play mahjong. Her suffering stems from her inner attachment to love. She didn't understand the essence of marriage, and blindly magnified the advantages of men, and as a result, she suffered all her life. If there was an afterlife, she would never choose such a man.
After reaching the age of fifty, she slowly savored life, and she realized that a woman's happiness is managed by herself, not by God. Do you agree?
February** Dynamic Incentive Program