Reporter Li Jing.
Urging marriage is one of the themes of the New Year for many older single men and women in rural areas, and it is also a "burden" that they can't get rid of.
On the day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, Xiao Liu, who lives in Pingyin, Jinan, accompanied his mother to the market, and accidentally found that the blind date ** set up a stall in the village Daji, which instantly became one of the most popular stalls on the Daji.
What kind of marriage and love problems are older single men and women in rural areas encountering? What kind of embarrassment, pressure, and contradictions are they undergoing? Can blind date ** enter the village gathering to "break the game"?
A blind date booth that was watched by onlookers.
As soon as the Year of the Dragon arrives, Xiao Liu will turn 34 years old, which makes him feel "embarrassed". At the big set, he lowered his head and walked quickly, avoiding the greetings of acquaintances.
Inadvertently, Xiao Liu found that there was a blind date booth on the big set. The mother pushed Xiao Liu forward and carefully read the pages of blind date information on the stall. "Some are of the right age, but there is a big difference in education; Some conditions are suitable, but the distance is long. "Seventy or eighty pages of blind date information, Xiao Liu did not find a favorite blind date.
Xiao Liu's father is a bus driver, and his mother works as a farmer at home. He works in the county to install and repair household appliances, and every year when the Chinese New Year comes, he is afraid. Because he knew that he was going to face a marriage urging. "What kind of person are you looking for? I can't eat and sleep well, I look at you and panic. He had heard these words of his mother countless times.
At the blind date ** booth, people kept coming to watch. Most of the onlookers were older single men and women, and more anxious than these older single men and women were their parents. They copied down the information of the boys and girls they wanted, and registered the information of their own children.
The "reason" of being single
Xiao Liu's first day of the new year started with a blind date. On the evening of the thirtieth day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, the family of three had a peaceful Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, and Xiao Liu took over the "task" given by his mother.
Regarding the matter of marriage, Xiao Liu is always a little obsessed - he should have a house before getting married. Last year, he just scraped together a down payment to buy a three-bedroom apartment in the county seat. Xiao Liu is a little introverted, which is why he feels that he is still single.
According to Xiao Liu, "In our village, there are fewer girls who are my age and have not yet married, and there are several men. It is more difficult for rural boys to find a partner. ”
Wang Xiaoyang is one year older than Liu, he works in Jiangsu, and once brought his girlfriend back to his hometown in Shandong, but his parents felt that the other party was out of town, and in the end the two failed to talk about marriage. Now he is not in a hurry, but always thinks that it is almost "feeling". However, the word "feeling" is considered by relatives to be high-spirited.
During the Chinese New Year this year, Zhao Lei from the same village did not return to his hometown, he would rather work overtime in the factory. In his memory, the quarrels of his parents never seemed to stop. For marriage, Zhao Lei has a hurdle in his heart that is difficult to overcome. Zhao Lei said, "Marriage can't be forced, I am living a very fulfilling and free life now." ”
Matchmaker: Blind date is one of the fastest ways.
Xiao Liu's blind date failed again this time, the other party felt that he was too "boring", and he felt that the other party was too noisy. Ms. Zhang, the matchmaker of the blind date, remarked his information in the notebook, and waited for the matching of the suitable blind date before continuing to "match".
Ms. Zhang told reporters that they mainly provide blind date services, and will also hold some blind date activities. "We found that in today's marriage and love market, the marriage and love problem of older single men and women in rural areas is a large area, but it is difficult to solve. So from the end of 2023, they began to go into the village market and set up stalls.
In Ms. Zhang's view, the main reasons why older single men and women in rural areas encounter difficulties in blind dates are "narrow circles, family conditions, introverted personalities, and even some people resist blind dates." ”
In addition, the marriage ** is recruiting a country matchmaker. Ms. Zhang said that the village matchmakers have a lot of resources in their hands, coupled with their down-to-earth communication methods, which can lead to many marriages.
Blind dates are one of the fastest ways to solve the problem of marriage between older single men and women in rural areas. "The key issue is that the children still have to stay proactive. ”
At the request of the interviewees, some of the interviewees in this article have been pseudonyms).