Love you or not, just look at the eyes
Yesterday, a reader shared with me her story of watching her ex fall in love with someone else. She found out that her ex was not cold or scum, he was just warm and not her, and he was not her.
I asked her why she had this idea. She sent me a screenshot, which was a girl's Weibo showing affection, with a photo of a couple, and the boy on ** was her ex.
And the girl's accompanying text wrote - he will prepare brown sugar water a week before I come to my aunt, and he will not turn off the phone when he sleeps, just so that he can reply to my messages and pick up my **.
He would book the restaurant I had accidentally talked about going to a month before my birthday, and he would naturally ask the waiter not to put the cilantro and garlic I hated when ordering.
"All of a sudden, it felt ridiculous," she said. What he did to him is exactly what I always wanted, but he never gave it to me. I now understand that he wasn't as stupid as I thought, and he knew it, but he didn't. ”
I've always agreed with the saying, "People are only interested in what they like, so it's obvious whether a person loves you or not." "There are many kinds of love, some people like to announce loudly to the world, hot and intense, some people like to warm you in the long stream of water, delicate and warm, and some people secretly express their love in a way that only two people understand.
But no matter how it is expressed, long-term love has a common characteristic: intentions. If you don't feel his intentions for you, why is he doing this to you?
Well, there is only one answer, he doesn't love you that much at all, so he doesn't want to pay attention to you. 01 People who love you will tell you with their actions that they only have you in their hearts, they will care about your life, remember your preferences, and will help you when you need it, instead of doing it for others to see.
Their hearts are on you, and all actions are made to make you feel their love. If you don't feel their care for you, then you should consider whether you really love them or not.
After all, true love needs to be managed with heart.
Someone who doesn't love me.
In this world, giving and love are often not equal, and there is a feeling called "I love you, but you don't care". I can't love it, probably because I automatically set everything related to you as a "priority", while you set everything related to me as a "to-do list".
No one wants to be the one who can be called anytime and anywhere, but can be ignored at any time. People who truly love you won't make you wait, and those who don't will never know what you're waiting for.
Someone who has no feelings for you.
True love is not a waste of fanfare, but a desire to create surprises on ordinary days. For example, if you casually say that you want to eat cake, he will bring it back for you on the way home. Another example is that you forgot to add sugar to your coffee, and later found out that he had told the waiter in advance.
Only people who don't love you will pretend to be stupid, and people who love you will naturally express their feelings without you being reminded. Because the person who truly loves you will prove his love for you with his actions.
Love is gone, and we are drifting apart.
Love comes in many forms, but the most beautiful one is that two people are willing to share with each other no matter what they encounter and never get tired of it. When you confide in him, he will listen carefully and respond, and if you never get an emotional response from him, the relationship will eventually become boring.
True love should be full of emotional flow, he should not only be willing to listen to you, but also take the initiative to start the conversation, so that he can be called the person who truly loves you.
Love is not in you for the person.
Don't let your lover become your appendage. Don't impose your own standards on your significant other without considering their feelings. If you always ignore their needs and preferences in the name of "I'm here for your good", then this kind of love is not real love.
Love is a form of respect, a form of understanding and acceptance. People who love you will respect your choices and preferences, will understand your needs and feelings, and will not force you to accept their point of view.
They will support you in your time of need and share your joy when you are happy. So, if you love someone, don't treat them as accessories and don't impose your own standards on them.
Respect them, understand them, and accept them so that you can truly love them.
Someone who has no feelings for you.
True love is when you think of each other and feel that the future is promising and worth going. Therefore, where there is something wrong at the wrong time, where there is something wrong, it is clear whether he is willing or not.
He even hides his love very well, even expresses his liking so restrainedly, and he doesn't even think about his future with you, which can only show that he doesn't love you enough. What does true love look like?
It was the other party who was willing to put you into his life plan, and he only thought about how I was going to do in the past, and gradually it became how we would be in the future, and it was you who gave him the courage and learned to take responsibility.
Love is not that you blatantly stare at him, but he is indifferent, but the two of you are clearly facing each other, but you are quietly looking at each other, and your eyes are evasive. Love is not about stumbling in pursuit of a person who is close to the end of the world, but about standing shoulder to shoulder with the person who is willing to go both ways with you.
I hope we can all love and be open in our relationship, and we can also retire beautifully.