The relationship between parenthood and wealth and poverty? Where are the old ideas today?
Chinese culture has always emphasized'Home'The importance of the family, because there is a country. Our seemingly ordinary lives are actually based on rules that have remained unchanged for thousands of years.
Young men and women join hands to become husband and wife, create small families together, and reproduce offspring, which is an important driving force for the sustainable development of society. "
In ancient times, when wars were frequent, the strength of a country often directly benefited from the population of the fiefdom, which shows the importance of population richness to a country.
However, nothing is set in stone. Although it is common to have a man and a woman, it has become a major problem in society that people have debated the gender of children since ancient times.
In the ancient patriarchal society, people generally believed that "if you have children, you will be poor for a short time, and if you have no children and daughters, you will not be rich", what is the origin of this proverb that has been passed down for thousands of years? And what impact has it had on people's lives?
The truth cannot be generalized, and we need to understand it deeply. In short, if a family has a son, then the family will not be poor all the time. In ancient times, people attached great importance to inheritance, believing that there were three unfilial pieties, and no queen was great, and the "after" here actually referred to boys.
So, why did the ancients think this way? This is actually closely related to the social environment at that time.
In ancient times, the status of men was highly valued and revered as the head of the family, believing that only men could ensure the continuation and prosperity of the family. As a result, men are seen as a symbol of family bloodline, while families without sons are seen as "broken off".
Even if the family is not in a good financial situation, as long as there are children and grandchildren, there is a possibility of family revitalization.
In ancient times, the "agrarian economy" was the main economic form of society, and peasant families depended on the harvest of the land to make a living. As a result, men who are able to work in the fields become the main breadwinners of the family.
If there are no men, the family's land will be wasted, leading to hardship. In order to avoid this dilemma in life, people began to encourage the birth of boys, believing that it was a dependence on life.
Even if the family is wealthy, with only daughters and no sons, it is difficult to maintain long-term prosperity and wealth. Under the influence of the ancient patriarchal ideology, people generally believed that daughters could not be kept and would marry sooner or later, and under the etiquette of three obedience and four virtues, and the husband was the wife, the daughter must obey her husband and could not consider the livelihood of her mother's family.
Even if the assets are left, no one will be depleted.
In the long history of the Ming Dynasty, a bad tradition was passed down among clan families and was called"Eat out of the house"。When the head of a large family dies and there is no son in the family to inherit the estate, other relatives often take the opportunity to seize the entire family property.
In ancient times, Liu Ru, as the head of "Qin Huai Bayan", married her husband and had a daughter. However, her husband died suddenly, and the family's huge fortune attracted the covetousness of her clan relatives.
In the face of their bullying behavior, Liu Ru committed suicide to protect the family property and pass it on to her daughter, a tragedy that makes people deeply outraged. The dregs of feudal mentality have been deeply ingrained in ordinary families for thousands of years, believing that only men can maintain the prosperity of the family.
But in reality, it's just people's prejudices. Similarly, as human beings, women will be able to make a difference if they are not bound by feudal etiquette. Wu Zetian became the empress, and the story of Mulan joining the army for her father is still sung today.
This ideological tendency of gender imbalance is undoubtedly a time bomb for society, and the imbalance in the ratio of men and women has led to the emergence of a large number of single men, some of whom have even embarked on the road of crime, causing social turmoil.
Although we have discarded the feudal mentality of patriarchy, in some rural areas this phenomenon persists, leading to tragic consequences. The reason for this is due to the backwardness of thinking.
In order to change this problem, we need to get more people to get a good education and open their minds. The ancients often said, "A person who has children is not long in poverty, and a child and a woman are not rich for a long time", this kind of patriarchal thinking was formed in the general environment of feudal society, believing that only men are the blood of the family, and their labor ability is the dependence of survival.
And a woman can only marry into someone else's family and obey the arrangement of her husband and her own family.
In today's society, the notion of having a boy or a girl is outdated, and more and more families are beginning to pay attention to the importance of equality in raising children. Every child is part of the family, and there should be no favoritism because of gender differences, otherwise it will cause family disputes and eventually lead to the elderly being helpless.