Text |Mi Li's mother.
As soon as "Minglong Boy" was launched, Mi Li's mother silently started the drama chasing mode.
But what surprised Mi Li's mother more than the plot was Zhang Ruoyun's output in roadshows and interviews.
In the drama "Minglong Boy", Lei Ming, played by Zhang Ruoyun, is the head teacher of the 31st class of high school. He can always put himself in the shoes of students, and he acts as a "father" in front of students without paying attention, and can take care of their children's emotions better than many parents.
So netizens jokingly said that Zhang Ruoyun's "daddy taste" is not oily at all, which simply justifies the name of this word.
But when these words reached Zhang Ruoyun's ears, he began to criticize himself in public.
He said:"My dad needs to be reflected. There is only one-way output, and there is no communication, so it will not work. ”
A few sentences that seem to be an understatement not only point out Lei Ming's most fatal flaw in the play, but also clearly express the reason why everyone is disgusted with "daddy".
After hearing this, Mi Li's mother was almost impressed with Zhang Ruoyun again. A person who can perform a good work really thinks about the audience's psychology quite thoroughly.
It's no wonder that even in the thunder drama "Kyushu Sky City", which is complained about by the whole network, Zhang Ruoyun can turn the tide with his acting skills and shape a domineering president-style No. 1 beautiful man in the Three Realms into a screen classic.
But in addition to Zhang Ruoyun's stable performance as always, the drama "Minglong Boy" also gave Mi Li's mother another touch.
Unlike many domestic dramas with female themes of "selling dog meat on the head of a sheep", although "Minglong Boy" did not play the banner of "feminism", it sincerely ** many sensitive female topics, which made Mi Li's mother think a lot.
The dark side behind the blood
A campus drama with the theme of the college entrance examination, according to convention, is to shoot struggling teenagers, inspirational group portraits, and enthusiastic youth.
It can be said that there is room to play, but not much.
However, "Minglong Boy" uses a rare scale to focus on the plight of female students.
At the beginning of the story, the main contradiction is laid out on the bright side.
As a result of the education reform, a key high school and a regular high school were merged. There is an incompatible gap between the two schools, one is the strength gap between the top students and Puwa, and the other is the huge gap between family and education.
Such a double contradiction is epitomized in the mathematical genius Cheng Yushan.
Cheng Yushan was born in a patriarchal family, she remarried with her mother since she was a child, she was a drag oil bottle in the eyes of her neighbors, tattered, and she was not allowed to eat and drink on the table.
The stepfather opened a mahjong parlor, and Cheng Yushan's bedroom was placed on the first floor of the parlor. The one on the door says "Not a toilet!! implies that this room has been pushed through the door countless times.
But eye-catching exclamation points can stop customers, but they can't stop stepfathers with ulterior motives.
Cheng Yushan was horrified to find that his stepfather had installed a camera in his room, and his every move was being used by him.
But she found out about her stepfather's ** behavior, but she didn't dare to expose it. Because Cheng Yushan understands that he and his mother have no say in this family, and the economy is firmly in the hands of his stepfather.
If she wants to finish high school safely, she has to bow to her stepfather again and again for tuition and living expenses.
Cheng Yushan knew that she had a talent for mathematics, but she made the last big question on the paper, but left a large blank in front of her.
Because she found that this talent is only useful when settling accounts in mahjong parlors, and other times, it can only become a drag.
Under the daily pressure of his family, Cheng Yushan gave up the idea of studying and changing his life, and just wanted to escape from his family in the fastest way.
At first, she wanted to find someone to take her to Shanghai to work, and then she came up with the idea of getting married as soon as possible.
When Lei Ming asked her in the mahjong parlor, ".Is there a high probability of changing one's fate by marrying, or is there a high probability of being admitted to Qingbei? ”
Cheng Yushan replied in despair: "It's not big, but it's fast." ”
In other words, Cheng Yushan didn't want to endure it for another second. So even if she knew that marrying someone was out of the tiger's den and into Longtan, she didn't think she had a choice.
But Lei Ming took the opportunity of passing the trick at the poker table and pulled Cheng Yushan on the edge of the cliff.
"Those who rely on others are all small cards, and only by relying on themselves can they play the big cards in life. ”
This passage is probably what Principal Zhang Guimei wants to say to those female students in mountain villages.
When the movie "I Am a Mountain" caused huge controversy, Zhang Guimei's documentary once again attracted everyone's attention.
Before the 2017 traffic renovation, Ms. Zhang used to spend a day on a single home visit. Cars, motorcycles, donkeys, and walking, a difficult journey to visit their homes, are also obstacles for girls in the mountains to study.
What is more difficult to overcome than the arduous and dangerous road is the backwardness of concepts. Zhang Guimei paid an unimaginable price in order to persuade her parents to release her and persuade her girl to study.
Many people in the mountains don't think that reading can change their fate, and most of the girls are born with the fate of getting married and having children.
The shackles of outdated concepts, the unequal distribution of resources, and the shackles from the inside out make it more and more difficult for women to take every step.
But fortunately, thanks to the efforts of countless people, a lot of change has happened.
It doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't have to be sorry
In the drama "Minglong Boy", the psychology teacher Sang Xia is a marginal and indispensable character.
In school, Sang Xia, as a psychology teacher, just hangs on the "false job", doing chores everywhere, and doesn't seem to have anything serious to do.
But when students have psychological problems, Sang Xia can always play a role in the first time and take students back on the right path.
Cheng Yushan, who was devalued at home, was even more embarrassed at school.
Not only has she been bullied on campus all year round, but because of her beauty, she has become the heroine of the "yellow ballad" in the eyes of her classmates.
Passages of rumors and rumors are made up with noses and eyes.
When Cheng Yushan was disheartened by rumors at school, Sang Xia, who is also a woman, stood up.
She told Cheng Yushan:
"It's not your fault that you're violated because your skirt is worn short; Because you are open-minded, independent-minded, or emotional, but it is not your fault that you are ostracized;
As a girl, it's definitely not your fault. ”
Yes, it is not a sin to be born a woman, but to suffer from pervasive malice.
Using a yellow rumor fabricated out of thin air to completely ruin a woman's life, the cost cannot be lower.
Some time ago, Mi Li's mother saw the news of a "high-tech crime". The girl Xiaolin was stolen by AI and became the heroine of countless private ** and **.
On an ordinary day, Xiao Lin's mobile phone suddenly popped up one after another WeChat greeting messages, and the messages were all "Little sister, make a friend", full of hints.
Xiao Lin, who looked at the news, sensed that something was wrong, and quickly accepted two friend requests and took the opportunity to interrogate and investigate.
She never thought that she would have so many "private photos" that were made public on the Internet.
In addition to borrowing her looks, the cartographers even knew basic information such as her name, age, and home address.
The more he learned about the truth behind it, the more scared Kobayashi became. Kobayashi found in the tracking that the earliest ** was available in May last year.
After a year-long malicious P picture, Xiao Lin couldn't help but suspect the acquaintances around him. This brought her great psychological pressure, and she closed the circle of friends for a while, for fear that she would be targeted again for sharing her daily life.
Because the cartographer kept changing numbers, canceling numbers, and changing IP addresses, it was difficult for Kobayashi to find out the truth. In order to find the criminal, she searched for her "private photos" over and over again, although "every time she looked at it, it was mental pollution".
Under such torture, Xiao Lin suffered from depression and took a lot of medicine.
Until this year, she was tenacious and self-healing from the abyss, and decided to call the police for help.
While she was scared, she kept telling herself, "I didn't do anything wrong." ”
Rather than proving her innocence, she wants to catch the rumor-mongers with her own hands and give herself an explanation. Therefore, she fought against the disease, actively cooperated with the ** investigation, and never admitted defeat.
"It's disgusting when those people harass me, but when I think about those bodies that aren't mine, I have a clear conscience. ”
With the help of ** and social people, Xiaolin finally succeeded in saving himself, regained his trust in the outside world, and dispelled the haze in his heart.
Her voice and struggle inspired many girls in the same situation, and also made Mi Li's mother deeply admire.
But just because women can get out of the predicament doesn't mean that the malice will disappear.
In order to cut off those dark thoughts that are eyeing each other, we need perfect legal protection, and more importantly, we need to popularize gender education.
Growing in reverse is a choice
Mr. Lu Xun wrote a shocking theory in his essay - "waking up the sleeping man in the iron house".
If reality is cruel, then those who sober first are destined to be miserable, and this is exactly the status quo that feminism faces.
Li Juan wrote in "Winter Pasture":"Even though people who are too sensitive will suffer, I would rather suffer from this sensitivity than be someone else. ”
Making the same choice, there is also a rural woman who "would rather be painful than numb", Liu Xiaoxiang.
Liu Xiaoxiang only has a second year of junior high school education, but she is unwilling to live a life in the countryside with a glimpse of the end, she desperately wants to go out and have a look.
Imagining another life from the words in the book, or looking into the distance through television, Liu Xiaoyan struggled almost in vain.
Many people don't understand why she can't get along with herself like this, she just said:
"I always feel that people should have a little yearning. ”
No matter how long and difficult the road is, the awakening of women is already an irreversible trend.
Recently, the topic of "becoming a Korean girl" in Xiao's book has become more and more popular.
In many ways, the situation of Han Nu echoes ours. But they made a braver decision first.
They choose to read books badly, break out of the cocoon and be reborn, and learn not to work hard, but to "go crazy".
Iced coffee is drunk as water, health care products are life-threatening, sleep no more than two hours a day, punch in 3,000 words in two days, and nibble on a large number of modern history books ...... one day
The heart-rending love in Korean dramas is no longer the dream of Korean women, and their hearts only keep moving forward and upward, becoming fearless at the helm of life in the monstrous waves.
And the young girls who look up to them as role models have also shown a fighting spirit that exceeds the ordinary, and no longer compromises and compromises when making life choices for any reason.
In the middle-aged group, women's consciousness is also awakening.
Some time ago, someone posted a complaint on his personal account.
When I was cooking, I cut my hands and couldn't wash the dishes, but my husband didn't want to help.
The daughter brushed the bowl, and her husband was still yin and yang: "Your mother has experienced the happiness of not having to wash the dishes, and she will deliberately cut her hand next time!" ”
*After it was issued, netizens in the comment area supported her one after another, so that she could no longer get used to her husband.
This mother focuses on persuasion, starting from refusing to cook, and gradually regaining the right to speak in marriage.
In the recent news, she has obtained a divorce certificate, and she has become the strongest role model for her daughter.
It turns out that the trajectory of growth is not static. Women who choose to grow in reverse and start all over again have created another possibility.
Resilient in the face of adversity, women are building a new world of their own.
We choose to ignite ourselves, not for the sake of "the lights of ten thousand homes", but to illuminate the way forward for more sisters.
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