Talented girl Su Xuelin, singleyears, and began to regret it in old age.
The conflict of the old era and the collision of the new era have intertwined the unique cultural color. This is an era of war and chaos, and it is also an era full of family and country feelings; This is an era of the impact of new Western ideas, and it is also an era of feudal etiquette and religion.
Under such a historical background, the cultural soil of ** has cultivated a large number of literati who have received traditional education and received the baptism of new ideas, and they have depicted a colorful ** era with brushstrokes.
In the ** period, a group of talented and beautiful women emerged in the literati group, and their hearts were intertwined with two completely different concepts, which not only brought them rich ideological inspiration, but also left many masterpieces for future generations.
In this era, countless literati have won the praise and pursuit of the world for their brilliant literary talents. Today we want to introduce Su Xuelin, who is known as one of the top ten talented women.
Unlike those well-known writers, Su Xuelin occupies an important position among women who pursue a new type of education. Although her name may not have been as thunderous as Bingxin's, at the time, she was tied with Bingxin as a well-known writer.
Su Xuelin, formerly known as Su Xiaomei, was born in Ruian, Zhejiang, and his ancestral home is Anhui. Due to the family's lack of support for girls to go to school, she has loved reading since she was a child, and can only secretly follow her in the corner of the private school.
Luckily, her older and younger brothers would bring her books and newspapers when they went to school, so that she could keep in touch with the outside world. Therefore, Su Xuelin's knowledge is almost self-taught, starting from the "Three Character Classic" and "Thousand Character Text", her knowledge field has been expanding, and her horizons have also been broadened.
Her literary level gradually improved with the growth of years, from extremely low literacy to being able to read fluently in the Ming and Qing dynasties, poems and various famous works. The abundant reading in her childhood laid a solid foundation for her later academic research and literary creation.
Although her family path to education was full of twists and turns, and she only received a little education intermittently, her thirst for knowledge became stronger with the increase in reading.
Finally, she saw in the newspaper the news that the Anqing Junior Women's Normal School had resumed enrollment, and this long-awaited opportunity made her determined to go to school no matter what.
In the face of the opposition of her family, she persevered and tried all kinds of ways to realize her dream. With her continuous efforts, she finally moved her mother and was able to enroll in school. During her time at the school, she was talented and loved by teachers and students.
However, this teaching career did not satisfy her pursuit, and Lu Yin's experience as a progressive young woman deeply inspired her, so that she decided to venture out and find new opportunities.
When Su Xuelin was 22 years old, her family insisted that she should end her toss, marry her betrothed fiancé as soon as possible, and then raise her children at home. However, Su Xuelin, who had received a new education, was firmly opposed to arranged marriages, so he had a fierce dispute with his family.
However, there was no one to help her because there was no hope of further education in the country. Faced with this situation, Su Xuelin made a bold decision, that is, to study in France.
She secretly enrolled in an overseas Chinese law school in Lyon, France, and told her family the news the day before she left, and in the end her family had to let her leave. Su Xuelin pursued freedom wholeheartedly and resolutely resisted the shackles of feudal thinking, and her family could not stop her determination.
Su Xuelin embarked on the journey of studying in France and began her study journey. She systematically studied Western literature and painting art, and was deeply influenced by French art.
However, life as a student isn't always smooth sailing. Her physique was already delicate, and she felt unwell when she first arrived in France, and due to the influence of diet and climate, she fell ill frequently, and her days in the hospital bed became the norm.
In addition, she met the man she loved in France, but she could not fall in love freely due to family opposition, and the family pressure troubled her even more.
The physical pain can be endured through gritted teeth, but the psychological torment makes her in a dilemma and falls into a deep self-entanglement. In the process, she kept receiving letters from home, urging her to contact her fiancé as soon as possible, and also informing her of the current situation at home.
What she never expected was that the news of her father's death and her mother's serious illness came one after another, which made her so anxious that she fell ill in bed. In order to fulfill her filial piety, she decided to give up her lover in France and return to China to accompany her seriously ill parents.
Married to her husband for 36 years, although she had pursued free love, she could no longer say no in the face of her seriously ill mother, and finally agreed to marry her fiancé Zhang Baoling.
One is the order of the parents in the family, Su Xuelin is deeply dissatisfied with the arranged marriage; The second is that she was forced to correspond with Zhang Baoling during her study in France, and found that the personalities of the two were incompatible and difficult to accept.
Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling, a talented woman and a science and engineering man, have completely different communication methods. Su Xuelin uses poetry and classics to express emotions, while Zhang Baoling is straightforward.
Their correspondence is often like two completely different languages, and it is difficult to understand each other. When Su Xuelin described the beauty and romance of flowers, Zhang Baoling would tell her that flowers were the best officials of plants; And when Su Xuelin said that the moon was born round, Zhang Baoling would retort that the circle was not drawn with a compass.
This kind of ridiculous exchange is destined to be a combination of their appearances.
Zhang Baoling, a typical science and engineering man, may not have many shortcomings, but he has a straightforward personality, is not good at words, and knows nothing about romance. This is undoubtedly difficult for Su Xuelin, who is keen on romance and has studied in France, to accept.
After trying to get along, Su Xuelin realized that he and Zhang Baoling were not suitable, so he wrote to his family, hoping to get out of the marriage. However, her request was not supported by her family and was severely scolded by her father.
Later, his father died, and although the divorce failed to go as he wished, Su Xuelin was still unwilling. Soon after, his mother fell ill, and in desperation, the two could only get married in a hurry.
On the day of their wedding, they met for the first time. With such a blind marriage and dumb marriage, coupled with incompatible personalities, how happy can the marriage of the two be?
Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling's marriage was not smooth, but the two worked hard. During the serious illness of Su Xuelin's mother, Zhang Baoling did her best to take care of her, and even learned the dialect of her hometown for her.
For Su Xuelin's work, Zhang Baoling gave up his job in the shipyard and went to teach at Soochow University together. Zhang Baoling also built a small western-style building in the shape of a ship for Su Xuelin, who liked it very much and wrote many classic works there.
Although the marriage was not happy, the two had a brief happy time.
Zhang Baoling did his best, but Su Xuelin's old concept of his arranged marriage was deeply rooted, and no matter how hard he tried, he couldn't touch Su Xuelin's heart. Su Xuelin has always rejected him, no matter how much he has done, it is in vain.
Once, Zhang Baoling was sick and wanted to drink a bowl of hot soup, but Su Xuelin even refused his request, thinking that she was a new-style woman and should not be on call to cook.
These trivial matters accumulated day by day, making Zhang Baoling feel cold for his wife. He voluntarily moved out of his wife's room, postponed his work time, and even resigned from Soochow University to go to a shipyard that was more suitable for him.
Now, they live like a modern-day roommate, eating together, but not living.
Although the relationship between Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling has become cold, she has not considered divorce. This is because Su Xuelin believes in Catholicism, and her faith prohibits believers from divorcing.
In addition, Su Xuelin already had a certain degree of popularity at that time, and the divorce may have a negative impact on her good reputation. Su Xuelin attaches great importance to his reputation and always lives in the evaluation of the outside world.
Therefore, she finally chose to trap herself and Zhang Baoling in marriage, and neither of them experienced the happiness of marriage. Soon after the separation, Su Xuelin couldn't stand the feeling of being more and more empty at home, and went to Anhui alone, and then moved to Wuhan and Taipei, where the two separated and never saw each other again.
The contact between the two men was limited to letters at the beginning, and later news was mostly learned from the mouths of others. Even couples in love can face a breakup after a long long-distance relationship, let alone a couple with weak feelings.
Although they did not divorce, they did not see each other again until Zhang Baoling's death. In fact, they have less than five years of married life. Su Xuelin, who was frustrated in his marriage, dedicated his later years to his literary career and created many well-known works.
Su Xuelin is well-known in the literary world, and her works are widely acclaimed, but her life is closely linked to Mr. Lu Xun. Although at first she was full of respect for Mr. Lu Xun, and even wrote a message after the publication of his work "Green Sky", and praised him in public, after Mr. Lu Xun's death, she began to publish frequent articles to publicly criticize Mr. Lu Xun.
As for why she changed her opinion of Mr. Lu Xun, the reason is still unknown, probably because of Mr. Lu Xun's sharp writing, she has been hit in some public places.
Although she never stated it explicitly, this behavior of hers has attracted public attention.
Lu Xun dared to challenge the arranged marriage and bravely lived with Xu Guangping, but Su Xuelin was afraid of going beyond the bottom line and stuck to it all his life. Although her antipathy towards Lu Xun was somewhat affected by her unhappy marriage, after Zhang Baoling's death, she spent the rest of her life alone in Taipei until 1999, when she never remarried.
The nephew, who was far away in the mainland, mentioned in the letter that Zhang Baoling had always felt guilty and deep feelings for Su Xuelin in her later years, thinking that it was because she didn't understand romance that delayed her life.
Knowing this, although Su Xuelin felt infinite sadness, he was gradually relieved.
In her later years, she began to regret and reflect, she wrote in her memoirs that for some reason she had been delaying and refusing to divorce, making Zhang Baoling lonely all her life and unable to enjoy the ideal happy marriage, for which she felt deeply guilty.
I shouldn't have left him alone on the mainland. "But it's too late to say that. The two who were originally talented ended up spending their lives with helplessness and loneliness, which is very regrettable.
From the perspective of people now, the problems of the marriage between the two are clear at a glance.
Although Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling are both talented and talented women, their expectations for marriage are very different. Su Xuelin longs for romance and sweetness, while Zhang Baoling values tradition and assistance more.
The two personalities are incompatible, the ideal spouse image does not match, and neither of them is willing to compromise or change, which ultimately leads to a tragic ending.