01Give up when it's time to give up.
In fact, many times our inner obsessions will be very heavy, including about the length of life or who should be by our side, this series of questions always haunt us.
However, there are many times that we cannot force something, and it is not possible to get a good result after working our own.
For example, if a person goes to stay, no matter how hard we work and how we change ourselves, in fact, the other party will not take it to heart at all.
Even if you know it's time to give up, you're forcing yourself to do something that will make the other person happy. But in the end, the result you get in exchange is still his departure.
Even if he is reluctant to let you get back together with you again, but the problem of noisy and noisy is still not solved, then this relationship will actually end up unhappily. All you're doing is torturing each other and putting each other in a state of internal friction. Don't always think that you will never meet someone who is good to you again, in fact, we just dare not believe in ourselves.
There are many other things besides feelings, and if we really don't have a relationship with ourselves, then we will give up.
02Don't be afraid of change.
In fact, many of us are afraid of change now, because they are afraid to face life in a new state.
When we are in that state of ignorance, we can really feel that feeling of helplessness.
If we continue to live according to old habits or old ways, we will feel more secure inside.
But a lot of times we can't always survive the old way, we have to find ways to change ourselves.
If we don't take the initiative to change ourselves, sometimes we are likely to be eliminated by others or the world.
No matter how unfamiliar you are with this new environment, even if you are not familiar with this new friend, as long as we try to get in touch with it, in fact, these things will become familiar to us or people.
We people will change, and the world will also change, how can I keep myself in a state to face life forever?
And when we find that we do have shortcomings, why don't you take the initiative to change?
Although these shortcomings have indeed formed our habits, if we can make ourselves better, whether it is a habit or something else, we must try to change.
Don't always be cranky or afraid of what will happen, in fact, the most important thing we should do is to change ourselves slowly.
03 I believe that those who stay are good.
Instead of always remembering what we have lost, what we should do is to cherish what we have now.
We have to believe that what can stay with us is the best for us.
Life is like a big wave of sand, many times can accompany us to the end, in fact, for us, that is the best result.
Don't always dwell on what the outcome is, and no matter what the outcome is, if you can't convince yourself, many times the result will be bad.
We will find that in fact, in our lives, we will meet many new people or new things.
These people or things are always changing, such as our friends or our partners. But we must not be afraid of the departure of others, in fact, if we can really go with us to the end, that is the best arrangement for us.
Don't always think about anything with pessimistic thoughts, we need to put ourselves in a state of optimism and make our lives easier.
04Don't always feel regrets.
Life is indeed always full of regrets, because after we have done something, and after we reflect on it, we will find that there are actually many loopholes that we can all fill.
But there is nothing in the past that can still be changed.
Many times if we want to change, we have to start all over again.
But if we do it all over again, there will be a lot of accidents, can we guarantee that we are 100% satisfied?
If you are not satisfied with the status quo and are dissatisfied with yourself, then if you have so many dissatisfied emotions, how can we live a happier life?
In fact, a very important way to make yourself feel happy is to reduce your satisfaction.
Regrets are certainly common, but let's not always talk about the past.
Some things are naturally a thing of the past, and we don't need to regret it, but we should learn from it.
We need to make sure that when we do these things in the future, we will try to do as well as possible, and not always dwell on what happened in the past.
Don't always let your satisfaction be so high that you complain about everything. The more we complain, the more difficult life will be.