1。From a pair of three-handed slippers, I saw my own sense of low worth.
Ah Zhen's Story:
On an autumn day, the weather cooled down somewhat. I decided to put away the sandals at home and at the same time turn the cotton out.
As I rummaged through my slippers, I was thinking about how many pairs would I be able to take?
Suddenly, I saw the pair of plush slippers at the bottom.
The family's cotton slippers were bought five or six years ago when they moved into this new home. It was winter.
Our family's economic conditions are average, and we have just bought a house and renovated it, and we have spent a lot of money, so we try to save money on everything.
At that time, when I bought slippers, I chose a few pairs of cheap ones, one pair was less than ten yuan, and I was ready to wear them for myself and a few people in my family.
In the first year, my parents were coming, and I thought that my parents were old, so I specially bought two pairs of warmer ones, about twenty pairs.
When the parents left, they washed and put them away.
The next year, my parents didn't come. I put my dad through those slippers for my husband to wear.
The other pair, my niece who just finished college, came to look for a job and lived in our house temporarily. Just let her wear it.
Later, my niece and nephew left, and I put away the cotton slippers, which looked quite new.
At that time, I wanted to wear it myself, but when I thought that there might be more important people coming, it was not good to dress it myself, so let the important guests wear the bad onesIt's better to put it away.
But when I took out the slippers, I found that there was already a crack at the bottom.
A lot can change in five years. These slippers, which I am reluctant to wear, have been eroded by the years
2。No one will value you when you despise yourself.
I thought a lot of things at the time.
Over the years, I seem to be a dispensable existence in the minds of many people.
I never understood what the reason was. But at that moment, I seemed to have an understanding.
When my son was a child, I always felt pity for the food I couldn't eat, so I silently took it and ate it myself.
The little leftover food from each meal, put it in the refrigerator, feel that it is not fresh, throw it away, and it does not conform to the teachings of the older generation.
So I mixed it into the rice and ate it myself. Sometimes I am yelled at by my husband:
Am I not giving enough for the household? Look how fat you have become, and eat all these oil soups! 】
My son would tease me
Mom likes to eat these leftovers, with a lot of seasonings and a lot of flavor! 】
I just felt very sad, but I was speechless.
The habits I developed when I was a child, they don't talk about it, and I don't even realize it myself.
I remember when I was at home, it was like that.
My brother always poured his unfinished food into my bowl while I wasn't paying attention. If I don't eat it, he will sue me.
Over time, everyone thought I had a good appetite.
The leftovers from each meal would naturally be poured to me and let me eat them.
The girl's family needs to grow a little meat to be blessed. They said. ”
3。Because of these slippers, I decided to change.
I don't want to be that humble self anymore. While air is important, few people are aware of its presence
Life is just a few decades, I have wronged myself for nearly forty years, why don't I let myself go?
I'm not even worth a pair of twenty dollar slippers, what am I worth?
I've not been idle all these years, I've been creating value, and I shouldn't treat myself like this.
Besides, seeing my round self in the mirror, I was thinking, if I belittle myself like this again, maybe my husband will not be able to keep it sooner or later, and my son will call others Mom one day!
In fact, because of my savings, plus I used to do some business, I still have a small treasury in my hand.
I set a plan for myself. From now on, I will never eat those leftovers, I would rather cook less at each meal, and eat some low-calorie snacks when I am hungry.
Then I bought myself branded clothes and accessories. Dressing up and looking in the mirror doesn't feel the same anymore.
From not liking to go out, I now play badminton and table tennis every day. I also began to pay attention to some information that enriches and improves myself.
It didn't take long for the person to lose weight and come out. Some people who haven't seen me for a long time will be suspicious of me for plastic surgery when they see me for the first time.
In short, I started to value my own needs.
I found that when I changed my attitude towards myself, my husband became respectful of me, and my son used to have a parent-teacher conference to find his father, but now he directly asks me to appear. ”
4。When you change, the world changes.
Jane's story reminds me of a lot of women.
Some of them grew up in a patriarchal environment, and some of them have been neglected since childhood.
As a result, there are many women who are very self-conscious, and their sense of value is even less sufficient.
This creates two extremes of attitude.
Some women will live a humble life all their lives, dare not ask for anything for themselves, dedicate themselves to others, and regard sacrifice as their greatest value.
Some will go to the opposite, and after earning their own money, they will become extremely vain, blindly pursuing those expensive goods to make up for their inner shortcomings.
However, such women can easily become money worshippers and put themselves in financial or life difficulties.
In fact, neither attitude is advisable.
When a person is deprived of internal scarcity, no amount of material material can feel insatiable.
First of all, we should fill in the black hole of emotions in our hearts.
When we begin to be spiritually full, it is not so difficult to satisfy.
Then, really value yourself. Do not compromise and are not swayed by the wishes of others. Put your own needs first.
When a person respects and values themselves from the bottom of their hearts, it is difficult to be despised by others.
The original creator of the treasure, pay attention to the field of self-growth and improvement, and continue to output extraordinary emotional views, welcome to Sanlian!
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