My husband and I met on a blind date, and when we first met, I was deeply attracted by my husband's appearance.
My husband is tall and handsome, and I think he is also very good when he gets along! His job is to do business, and his salary is paid according to performance, with a basic salary of more than 5,000 and a commission that is not fixed, and he can get more income if he has good performance.
Other than that, there are no other details.
I'm a merchandiser myself, and my salary is acceptable.
My husband has a younger sister at home, and I am the only daughter in the family, and my parents are very fond of me.
When my husband first came to my house, he behaved very well, he was very communicative, very diligent, and volunteered to help with the dishes, so my parents had a very good impression of him.
My mother said to me privately, "You are so lucky that you have found a treasure, you must hold on to it, don't miss such a good person."
At that time, I was also happy in my heart.
Naturally, we got married.
Fortunately, the sister-in-law is very easy to get along with.
In contrast, the mother-in-law is slightly more difficult to get along with.
However, we don't always stay under one roof in the future, so any problem can be solved.
The days after marriage are easy and comfortable.
My husband and I both go to work.
My husband often takes me out to play and taste good food.
We also go to the movies together.
Relatives, friends and colleagues envy me because I married a good husband.
I felt really happy at that time! I thought that such happiness would last a lifetime.
However, before my confinement, a rift between me and my husband crept in.
I got pregnant after more than a year of marriage, and I worked throughout my pregnancy, and my husband took good care of me.
When it was time to give birth, I stumbled upon my husband's secret.
That day, my girlfriend came to see me, and my girlfriend asked me, "How do you arrange the confinement?" Who will take care of you? I replied, "My husband said that he would find a confinement lady to take care of me, so as to avoid conflicts between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law." ”
The best friend said: "You are so happy, you have a husband who feels so sorry for you." ”
I chatted with my girlfriend for a while, then went to pour water for her, and when I passed by my mother-in-law's room, I heard my husband and mother-in-law talking.
At first, I thought they were discussing my confinement arrangements.
I was about to walk away, but I heard my mother-in-law say to my husband, "You lent 30,000 yuan to your friend, does Xiaoli know?" She is about to give birth, and the confinement lady has not yet decided.
What are you going to do? The husband replied, "Mom, be quiet, Xiaoli doesn't know the money, it's my secret savings." ”
The mother-in-law continued: "But there is an urgent need for a confinement sister-in-law, there will be a lot of expenses after the birth of the child, what should you do?" My husband said, "It's okay! The confinement sister-in-law can be uncertain, let my mother-in-law take care of Xiaoli, her parents are very fond of her, and they will definitely take care of her, so that they can save money. ”
When I heard this, anger immediately rose in my heart.
However, because my girlfriend was present, I held back.
After my girlfriend left, I asked my husband to theorize.
At first, he didn't admit it, but after seeing me crying, he was worried about hurting the child in his belly, so he apologized and promised that it was only this time, and he would definitely correct it in the future.
Then, my husband found me a confinement sister-in-law, and my mother-in-law gave me 20,000 yuan, and the matter was solved.
But I've always had a pimple in my heart.
I tried to talk to my mother about it, but she said that there is no perfect person in the world, and the two of them together asked me to be a little more tolerant.
I also think so, after all, the child already has it, and such a thing is acceptable.
After having a child, my mother-in-law became the one in charge of the economy, and I could not continue to work, so life became a day when I depended on him, but fortunately, my husband paid his salary on time every month.
After having children, the expenses naturally increased, and after a period of time, my husband began to think that I spent a lot of money and spent lavishly.
Fortunately, my sister-in-law understood me and came over to help me take care of the children when she had time.
I thought my husband would change after he promised me last time.
But once, I had a bad cold and fever, and I had to ask my mother-in-law to come and take care of the child for a few days.
I had a terrible cough and got up in the middle of the night to look for medicine.
Unexpectedly, my husband gave my mother-in-law money again and asked her to keep it, this time it was 20,000, plus the 20,000 last time, a total of 40,000.
This time I didn't cry or make a fuss.
The days passed like this, and I worked hard until my daughter went to kindergarten.
I immediately got a job and started working because I had work experience and a lot of jobs to choose from.
The salary is also good, and there are two days off.
After I go to work, I don't ask my husband for money anymore, I use my own money, he can give it if he wants to, it doesn't matter if he doesn't give it.
I work and take care of my daughter.
My husband also told people outside that I had become sensible.
I ignore it.
Daily life is like this, and it feels okay.
Until one time, my mother accidentally broke her leg and needed surgery, which required 30,000 yuan.
I couldn't get it for a while, so I wanted to borrow it from my husband.
Unexpectedly, my husband said to me: "I have no money, and your mother is sick, you should have paid for it, don't you know the truth about the separation of marital property?" I was immediately angry and told him, "Then divorce!" The husband replied, "Divorce! Your meager salary is still counting on a divorce, can you live without me? He said this to anger me even more! My salary is enough for me to live well.
I was resolute and divorced him.
My parents never knew the real reason for my divorce.
My mother told me, "You should be so willful! It's really rare to see such a good man who doesn't smoke, drink, gamble, or care.
It's too much for you to get divorced. ”
I don't want to argue with my parents, I just think that if a man marries you but doesn't trust you, the two of them have different hearts, go their separate ways, and spend their own money.
So what's the point of such a marriage? Do you think I'm too willful? Has anyone been in a situation similar to mine?