Nearly 42 years old, I am a prominent doctor, a legendary phoenix man. When I first entered college, I climbed to the peak of success alone, and the whole family celebrated it. My wife, my life partner, is also an outstanding lecturer at the university.
As the Lunar New Year approached, on the twenty-third day of the lunar month, I set off with my family with a happy mood and quickly sailed to my homeland. My mother had been anxiously waiting for us, and she was eagerly waiting for us to be reunited for the New Year at the entrance of the village every day.
I drove with one hand to stabilize the direction and hummed a cheerful song with the other, and my mood was like a spring breeze. The closer I got to my hometown, the thoughts of my hometown came to my heart.
My wife twisted my waist and said, "Look at you, rejoicing like this!" Are you so happy to go home? I smiled and replied, "You don't want to die!" We're on the highway! Moreover, the child is also in the car! ”
The 10-year-old daughter sat in the back seat, rolled her eyes, and said, "Mom and Dad, just let me not exist, you can do whatever you want." The wife retracted her hand, "I don't understand, why do you have to go back to your hometown for the New Year?" There is not even heating there, the cold wind is biting, and it can be poisoned! ”
I replied guiltily: "I brought you and your children to suffer." However, next year I will try to solve the heating problem. ”
My wife is the daughter of the city, and she feels uncomfortable with the living environment in the countryside, but she is very grateful for her reasonable attitude and not afraid of hard work to accompany me back to my hometown for the New Year.
What is even more touching is that this year I built a three-story small building worth 380,000 yuan for my parents in my hometown, and my wife did not hesitate to give me full support. Despite the occasional minor emotions from my wife, I was always tolerant.
The rewriting highlights the wife's discomfort with the rural environment, while emphasizing her reasonableness and full support for her husband's return to his hometown to build a house.
The whole 5 hour drive brought me great pleasure, but I didn't feel tired at all, and I didn't let my wife take my place as a driver. Eventually, we got off the highway and onto a country road. Today, the rural road network is very convenient and durable after being professionally handled.
Looking at the homeland from afar, the ancient locust tree in the east of the village stands quietly, with smoke curling and firecrackers, giving people a warm and cordial feeling! Sure enough, there was a familiar figure standing under the old locust tree, it was my mother! She may have been waiting in anticipation for a long time in the cold wind.
I slowly stopped the car and jumped out of the car, "Mother, why are you waiting at the entrance of the village in such a cold weather?" Get in the car! ”
The wife also got out of the car and shouted "mother" unnaturally, after all, she usually called her mother-in-law "mother" in her own home. Daughter Miao Miao stuck out a small head from the car window and shouted crisply: "Grandma! I want to eat roasted sweet potatoes and roasted steamed bread slices! ”
My mother smiled from ear to ear and promised again and again, "Okay, grandma will come home and give you baked sweet potatoes and baked steamed buns!" ”
I live on the west side of the village, and a road that runs through the street has become our main traffic artery. When I anxiously urged my mother to board the car, she waved her hand and refused: "Let's go home first, your father is at the crossroads, our house is open, I'll just walk back." ”
So, I had to drive through the crowded streets, while my mother followed me with her head held high and beaming, as if to show the whole village her proud son.
My wife winked at me and whispered, "Your mother now wants to show off her son to the whole village!" When we got in the car, no one noticed. ”
I smiled wryly and replied, "Woman, my mind is really complicated. What can I make my mom proud of? My wife punched me angrily, "You're the only doctor in our village?" Or the only professor in the village, oops, you're amazing! ”
Hearing her words, I was so excited that my whole body trembled, and I almost hit the house next to me, and shouted, "I'm driving!" The daughter reminded lightly: "Mom and Dad, when we arrive at our hometown, we must pay attention to politeness ......."”
We looked at each other, and my wife grimaced at me. On the side of the road, some villagers greeted each other from time to time: "Shanzi, have you gone home for the New Year?" ”
I rolled down the window and replied one by one, "Uncle, aunt, aunt," and in the midst of a chaotic shout, my wife looked solemn and nodded to everyone with a smile. Passing through Cross Street, my father was sitting on a mazaar, smoking a cigarette, and bragging to a bunch of old men.
Unsurprisingly, he was boasting about his son's filial deeds! When he saw us coming, his eyes were full of joy, but he still had to put on a sophisticated appearance and nodded to us: "Go home quickly!" ”
Instead of rushing into the car, the father picked up a folding chair and greeted a group of old acquaintances pleasantly. He followed triumphantly behind our vehicle with his hands behind his back. My wife couldn't help but chuckle out loud as she watched this scene, and threw me a mocking look.
The children wore heavy coats and played with laughter, chasing after me, laughing. The sound of firecrackers rang out from time to time, and it was the naughty little ones setting off firecrackers, adding a touch of joy to the scene.
Our car was driving into a narrow alley, and I saw the second aunt from a distance. She noticed me, her lips moving, but she didn't speak.
To my astonishment, her hair was all white, messy like the waves, her waist was bent like a curled shrimp, her clothes were thin, and she shivered in the biting cold wind. Just as I was about to say hello, the second aunt turned around and leaned on a battered stick and walked slowly, limping and her back was unusually desolate.
The door of my house is open, reflecting the pleasant environment of the village, the roads are clean and tidy, and there is no need to close the doors and windows at night. The standard of living of the population has increased, and the number of thieves has decreased accordingly. I opened the trunk and it was full of belongings, and our family of three was busy carrying it home.
The three neighbors on the opposite side walked out with confident steps and said jealously: "Shanzi, I heard that you are an educator with a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, right?" Isn't it already a life of luxury? ”
The parents also came over, and the mother smiled and said, "Where is it?" His income is not as high as you think, the children are struggling outside, and life is not easy! ”
The father smoked a cigarette, squinted his eyes and smiled. The third lady said teasingly: "Look at you, you are still so modest, although I know that Shanzi is very successful in his career." But everyone's struggle is independent, and I don't compare anything with you. Mother chuckled.
I held the colorful candies and chocolates in my hand and handed them to the grandson of the three mothers. The little boy looked up at his grandmother.
This is a gift from your Uncle Yoshiyama and grandfather. The three mothers said to their grandson. She hopes that her children will be able to achieve different but equally outstanding achievements from their uncles and grandfathers by studying hard.
We finally walked through the door of the house and found that the small courtyard was short in the south and wide in the north, narrow in the east and long in the west, which seemed a little cramped. However, the newly built three-storey building is spacious and bright, with a total of 9 rooms of 3 on each floor.
My parents lived on the first floor and we settled on the second floor. The married sister and her family of four also returned, and the house was big enough for them. They decided to live on as many floors as they wanted.
The house was built in a hurry, only the parents and our room were equipped with air conditioning, but the heating stove had not yet been installed! The whole house looks spacious, and there is a Shanxi stove in the living room on the first floor, and the smoke rises from the big chimney, which makes people feel not cold at all.
Mother brought three bowls of brown sugar ginger tea, steaming. She said to us, "Drink some ginger tea, you must have frozen after such a long ride." Come and warm up. ”
The wife took it and said gratefully, "Thank you, Mom." This "Mom" is more natural. I took a sip, and the sweet and spicy taste made my whole body warm. So we chatted with our parents.
During the conversation, I mentioned the second aunt. "Why does the second aunt look so old? My mother's expression suddenly became solemn. "Hmph, what do you mention her? She deserves it! ”
Many years have passed, and I feel deeply helpless, and my mother still harbors hatred for my second aunt. When I pressed her into which son she lived with, she muttered disdainfully and described her cousins as characters from "The Wall," none of whom understood her.
Now, she can barely build a dilapidated brick house in a livestock shed, which makes me feel emotional. It turned out that the scheming second aunt was in such a predicament.
Back in the bedroom, my wife whispered about the story between my mother and my second aunt, and I sighed and said it was all a thing of the past. The child loses its mother, and the situation becomes complicated.
In the family of my father, his brothers, and two sisters, the grandparents' family experienced poverty, and the whole family was crammed into three spacious halls and two side halls.
Because my grandparents couldn't afford to build a new house, my parents got married and had to live in two small side halls. With the marriage of the second uncle, the second aunt insisted on independence, did not agree to live with the elderly, and was unwilling to build a new house.
For this reason, my grandparents made do, and my parents funded the construction of three new houses for my second uncle on the homestead, and let the second aunt move over. The grandparents felt indebted to their eldest son and agreed to give up the old yard to our family.
My father worked hard, and my grandparents gave me my full support. After ten years of hard work, the old house was renovated with the addition of a spacious hall and side halls. However, the jealousy of the second aunt made the family gradually uneasy.
She lost her temper, disrupted order, and complained that her grandparents were too partial to our family. The second aunt believes that the homestead of the old house is obviously larger than her family, and advocates that half of it be distributed to them fairly, otherwise she threatens not to support the grandparents' pension needs. The second uncle was indifferent to his wife's unreasonable behavior, which led to the family's difficulties.
Grandma was angry, and Grandma was in tears. After pleading to no avail, the grandmother proposed to change the homestead. The mother was furious and asked how she could be tolerant to satisfy them. Grandma proposed a land swap solution in an attempt to settle the dispute.
In order to maintain family harmony, the father reassured the mother that the house was just a building and that a new place to live could be tried. However, the mother expressed a different opinion, insisting that the house built out of her own pocket should not be given to the second child in vain.
On this issue, my father insisted on proposing a new east wing, emphasizing that in order to avoid the ridicule of the village, he said that two more rooms could be expanded in the narrow courtyard.
The mother has always been fluent in eloquence, but when she saw the old man in trouble, she finally chose to give in. The second sister-in-law moved into the new residence with great energy, and we shouldered the heavy responsibility of the old house in the second sister-in-law's house. The old house, with its long and narrow yard and cramped interior, barely fit three main houses.
Her mother's fate was really not very lucky, and living in a dilapidated residence for a long time inevitably made her depressed. As a result, a deep hatred was formed between the mother and the second sister-in-law.
What's worse is that the second uncle and sister-in-law were not filial to the old man, occupying 8 rooms, and not even leaving a place for their grandparents.
The second sister-in-law actually kicked her grandparents out, saying that the two sons were adults and could not accommodate them. My grandparents had no choice but to move to our house.
Our yard is very small, my mother gave birth to my sister and me, our family of four, plus grandparents, three rooms are completely unable to meet the needs. My dad had no choice but to build two east wings to provide us with a place to live.
The mother silently endured the grievances, and in order to send her grandfather and grandmother to the end of her filial piety, the second uncle and sister-in-law were indifferent to this, and even refused to provide a penny of pension.
After all these years, my father and second uncle are still related by blood, and only a few distant pleasantries have been exchanged.
In this family, my mother and my second son and sister-in-law have been engaged in a 40-year battle between them, and the distance between the two has reached an intolerable level, and every time they meet, they hope that the other person will disappear from sight.
Years have passed, and the injustice against the second son and sister-in-law has finally been duly punished. The second son worked hard to help his two sons find a suitable life partner, but sadly, he passed away suddenly.
The second sister-in-law and the youngest son, who used to live in the same courtyard, formed a family harmony when they had the support of the second son. However, after the death of the second son, her little daughter-in-law ruthlessly kicked the second sister-in-law out in her usual way.
The eldest daughter-in-law said that her mother-in-law was more partial to the younger son, and resolutely refused to accept her mother-in-law, and even asked her mother-in-law to find her younger son. However, the younger son closed the door tightly, leaving the second sister-in-law with nowhere to go. This phenomenon of "the upper beam is not correct and the lower beam is crooked" is thought-provoking.
The second sister-in-law felt the injustice of fate, so she could only build a simple house in her own livestock shed, without whitewashed walls, not even a kitchen, so she could only build a simple stove outside the door and cook a meal with difficulty.
However, the land was divided between the two sons, and the two daughters-in-law turned a blind eye to the second sister-in-law and did not provide her with any food or money. The second sister-in-law was like a flower child, starving.
In the end, the leader of the brigade intervened and asked the eldest and second family to give the old mother 200 catties of food and 1,000 yuan every year. However, the sons were still ruthless, always giving a little less, and even felt that giving 200 yuan was already generous.
Although the second sister-in-law should be responsible to some extent, she is so pitiful, after all, she is also my relative! I suggested to my wife, "Let's go and see the second aunt in private." After a moment of silence, my wife acquiesced to my suggestion.
After dinner, the two of us quietly set off and easily found the second aunt's cabin. The house stands on its own, low and unprotected by a wall. I knocked on the door gently, and after a while, the second aunt opened the door, narrowed her dim eyes, and was stunned for a moment.
Shanzi, how did you come up with that? She asked in a whisper.
I replied with a smile: "Second aunt, it's the New Year, I made a special trip to see you." ”
The room was small and cramped, with dimly lit walls, only a small window, no glass, and only a thin layer of plastic film. I brought my second aunt some cured meat, a bucket of cooking oil, a bag of rice, a bag of flour, and some festival supplies. When I said goodbye, I quietly gave her 1,000 yuan.
The next day, my second aunt came to my door and rang the doorbell. My mother opened the door, stared at her, and asked with a straight face, "What are you doing here?" The second aunt said with tears in shame: "Sister-in-law, I did make mistakes ...... before”
After my second aunt left, my mother angrily scolded me, "Are you too generous?" actually gave her a New Year's gift. ”
I smiled and explained to my mother: "Mother, although the contradiction is easy to solve, it is not easy to resolve. The second aunt has already received the punishment she deserves. In any case, she is still our relative. Eventually, we will all return to our ancestral graves. ”
My mother let out a slight sound of displeasure, then turned her head away and did not reproach me. My wife secretly gave me a thumbs up to show that I had done a great job! Do you think I'm doing something wrong?
I am grateful for the thumbs up from my wife, a small gesture that shows that what I have done is recognized and recognized. However, I can't help but wonder if there are other areas that need to be improved, if there are any deficiencies that I am not aware of?
My wife's compliments made me think about my own performance and triggered my perception of the people around me. They may be silently watching me, or they may have their own thoughts and opinions.
In the process, I began to examine my own behavior and think about whether it was possible to improve and if there were some blind spots that I needed to take seriously.
This kind of scrutiny is not only a reflection on one's own behavior, but also a reflection on the reactions and expectations of those around you. Perhaps, there are some things that I am not aware of, but others are already paying attention to and evaluating them.
Therefore, my wife's actions were not only a support, but also an opportunity for me to examine myself.
In the process, I became aware of my limitations and the potential for growth. My wife's affirmation is a driving force that motivates me to keep improving and improving to better meet the challenges and opportunities of the future.