"Loneliness is the carnival of one person, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people. ”In the fast-paced modern society, people tend to pursue superficial socialization and a prosperous life, but ignore their inner feelings. Have you ever felt lonely even in the midst of a crowd? It's not because you're missing friends or relationships, it's because deep psychological needs aren't being met. What does it mean to be lonely? Does it hide some kind of psychological secret that we are not yet aware of? When loneliness becomes the norm, should we re-examine our inner world? Loneliness, a seemingly simple word with a hint of deep meaning, is becoming more and more resonant in modern society.
Have you ever had that moment when no one understands and no one accompanies you? It's like being in the middle of the city, but it's like being disconnected. Where does loneliness, this indescribable emotion, come from, and how do you deal with it? 1. Loneliness
1.Social needs are not met
PsychologistMaslowIt has been proposed,"The basic needs of people include physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and self-actualization needs. ”
Among them, social needs are one of the indispensable needs of human beings. People crave connections with others, recognition and support. When this need is not met, a feeling of emptiness and loneliness emerges inside, as if it is out of place with the world. In modern society, with the development of technology and the popularization of social networking, people seem to have more opportunities to socialize, but in fact they often feel more lonely. In the virtual world, people can easily make new friends, but this relationship often lacks realism and depth. Therefore, even with a lot of "likes" and "followers" on social **, people can still feel empty and lonely inside.
2.Lack of self-identity
PsychologistEric Ericksonthinks,".An individual needs to go through many stages of psychosocial development in the process of growing up, one of which is the formation of self-identity. ”
Self-identity refers to an individual's awareness and confirmation of one's identity, values, life goals, etc. It is felt when a person is unable to form a stable self-identityConfused and uneasy,It's as if you don't have a place in this world. This feeling may stem from trauma experienced by the individual, changes in family circumstances, or stressors from the social environment. For example,When a person changes work or living environments frequentlyYou may feel like you can't fit in any group, which can lead to feelings of loneliness. If an individual grows up with a lack of love and support, it can also lead to a lack of self-identity.
2. How to deal with loneliness
1.Focus on your heart's needs
To alleviate loneliness, you must first delve into your inner world and understand your emotional needs.
Don'tEscape or ignoranceown emotional problems, but learn to face them squarely and face your emotions bravely. Sometimes, loneliness arises due to one's unwillingness to face certain emotions. Learn to accept your emotions and find appropriate ways to release and express them.
You can try itWrite a diary, draw, **and other art forms to express inner feelings, or to confide in close friends. By focusing on our inner needs, we can better understand ourselves and find the source of loneliness, which can effectively alleviate loneliness.
2.Build authentic relationships
Although modern technology has provided us with convenient social channels, real human relationships still need to be built face-to-face.
Try to participate in as many offline activities as possible and make real friends. In the process of interacting with people, to:Treat people with sincerityLearn to listen and express yourselfThoughts and feelings。Also learn to accept the differenceopinions and opinions, respecting the differences of others. Through authentic interactions with others, we can build deeper relationships and share each other's experiences and feelings for support and comfort. In interpersonal communication, we should also learn to trust and rely on others, develop our social skills, and enhance our self-confidence.
3.Find hobbies
In addition to interpersonal interactions, cultivating your own hobbies is also one of the effective ways to alleviate loneliness.
By participating in activities that interest you, you can make like-minded friends and pursue beautiful things together. You can try to participateSome volunteer activities, fitness, reading clubs, social activities such as photography, or learning some new skills such as cooking, painting, etc。These hobbies not only allow us to find joy and satisfaction in our busy lives, but also expand our social circles and horizons. In the process of pursuing hobbies, we can also discover our potential and strengths, and enhance our sense of self-worth.
4.Seek professional help
If loneliness has seriously affected an individual's life and work, then seeking professional help is necessary.
Psychologist or psychologistIt can help individuals gain a deeper understanding of their emotional problems and provide effective solutions. They can give usSupport and encouragementto help usOvercoming difficulties and challenges. In the process of seeking professional help, we can open our hearts to:Professionals share their troubles and concerns。By working with a professionalCommunication and mentoring, we can gradually get out of lonelinessThe shadow of the sense of solitude,Find your ownA sense of belonging and worth. We can also learn some effective psychological adjustment skills to enhance our self-regulation ability and better cope with loneliness.
3. A message to the lonely
When you walk in the hustle and bustle of the crowd and feel out of place in the world, when you look at the hundreds of names in the address book and can't find a single person to talk to, the feeling of loneliness is like a big invisible hand that holds your heart tightly. However, I want to tell you that loneliness is not scary, it is just a scenery on the road of life.
In this landscape, you can calm down and listen to your inner voice. Thoughts and feelings that are usually ignored are pouring out like a trickle. You will find that loneliness is actually a mirror that reflects your inner self. In the process, you may discover what makes you unique, and those unique thoughts and feelings are what make you unique. Don't rush out of loneliness, but try to embrace it. When you are brave enough to face your heart, you will find the precipitation and growth that loneliness brings you. It makes you more aware of what you want, and it also makes you cherish those beautiful moments and people more. When you bravely step out of this landscape, you will find more people waiting to meet you. Don't be afraid to be alone. Believe in yourself and be determined to follow your own path.
You will eventually find your own warmth and light. When you meet like-minded people, you will find that the connection between you is so deep. You will share those beautiful moments together and go through those difficult days together. You're not fighting alone, you're always surrounded by people who care about you. They are like a ray of light that illuminates your path. Loneliness is just a part of life, it makes us cherish those beautiful moments and people even more. We must embrace the world with sincerity and enthusiasm, and you will find that life is full of warmth and hope. Every smile, every hug, and every greeting is the warmth and strength that the world gives you. When you learn to embrace the world, you will also feel the world embracing you. Be brave and take every step! Let your every step be filled with strength and hope. Don't be afraid of failures and difficulties, because every fall will make you stronger. You have to believe that in this world, there is always a place for you. As long as you are brave enough to follow your dreams and beliefs, that position will eventually belong to you. You're not fighting alone. Whether it is the people who silently support you by your side, or those who share their joys and sorrows with you online, they are your comrades-in-arms, your friends, and your family.
They accompany you through the journey, bringing you laughter, comfort, and support. So, no matter when and where, never forget their importance in your life. A person who often feels lonely can mean that he is going through an inner struggle and exploration.
Loneliness is a deep feeling in our hearts, sometimes because we crave more attention and understanding, only to find that the people around us can't really enter our inner world. In such cases, we can try to reach out for support and communication to build closer relationships with those around us. At the same time, we must also learn self-care and self-growth, enrich our inner world through reading, writing, artistic creation, etc., so as to make ourselves stronger and more confident.
If you often feel lonely, don't be afraid and don't dwell on it.
Try to embrace solitude, to explore your inner world, to find the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled. Believe in your own strength and worth, and be determined to follow your own path. You will eventually find your own warmth and light, and become the unique and irreplaceable you! So, what are your thoughts on the topic of loneliness?