Life is really "like a fish drinking water, cold and warm self-knowing." "Only I know best in my heart whether I am doing well or not, and I can't deceive myself. Most people's living standards are about the same There is no wealth to splash the sky, but as long as you are willing to pay, ask for food and clothing, and get a well-off can still be achieved, but now people's lives are under great pressure. But under the same conditions, some people live a lot of chicken feathers, and some small days are very moist. How to live happily under these ordinary living conditions, then we must think about it and talk about some methods.
First of all, let's be clear, life is really for yourself, not for others. This is equivalent to grasping the essence of happiness:
If the home is to pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene, but it is too tidy, it is really unnecessary. As long as the daily hygiene is done, there is no need to be completely delicate and detailed; It's like staying in a hotel, but the smell of home is gone—like the things you use every day, and the books you often read, all of them are packed and put on the shelves; It seems to be neat, but in fact it is flashy and inconvenient to use. "Let's remember one thing: home is always a warm and patchwork place, not a neat supermarket or hotel; It is a place of pleasure, not just a public ......place for outsiders to see and visitIn a family, there is no need for two people to quarrel all day long about that bit of housework, so it's okay to make time to rest? Would you like to sit down and talk? Even if it's to drink some tea, read some books, water some flowers, and do those beneficial hobbies?
We should also have a sense of proportion in front of our family members, and don't let our inertial prejudices and frequent thinking dominate our daily language.
Everyone has these preconceived thinking prejudices, and if there is nothing in the family, it cannot be said directly; There is nothing to be afraid of. The daily communication directly omits the indirectness and tactfulness between outsiders, but goes straight to the point and gets straight to the point; And it is based on temperament, and even "which pot is not opened, which pot is mentioned". It is common to embarrass and embarrass each other, even in the presence of acquaintances or relatives; does not give the other party any affection, directly says that the other party is not, just picks what the other party has not done, and says that it is not good, and what the other party has done and done well is directly ignored and ignored ......This kind of one-sided reproach-style communication with one party's fault and pain point is simply a disaster, which makes the other party lose face and be embarrassed beyond measure. Although one party was very relieved at the time, this did lay the groundwork for the disharmony of the family in the future - many families seem to be calm on the surface, but in fact, the undercurrent has already ......been turbulent
More understanding of human feelings and less abruptness will make interpersonal relationships more harmonious.
For example, when visiting relatives and going to the house of a guest, you must know how not to trouble each other as much as possible, and go to the host's house with the guest.
Relatives come and go mainly during the New Year's Festival, and everyone and family has a lot of their own affairs. Go to a relative's house as little trouble as possible. Such as eating: When dining out, you should consider the other party: convenient, fast and in line with the other party's financial situation, do not waste, do not be vain, and do not let the other party slap a swollen face and become fat; At home, it is simple and practical, you can take the initiative to explain, just make a few delicious things, the family does not say the words of the two families, and does not let the other party feel that they have to make a seven dishes and eight bowls to have face, so that it seems to be a family; In addition, after the meal, a simple cold and noisy sentence, nothing important, take the initiative to leave in time, and consider the ...... for the other party
Don't compare, do what you can, manage yourself, and live yourself.
There are many unhappiness in the world, and there are comparisons. Originally, I had a good life, eating three meals a day and sleeping sweetly. Suddenly on a whim, I have to compare with a person who is better than myself, but now I feel that I am inferior to people everywhere, I am useless, I have a very failed life, I am sad that I will always be ......As the saying goes, there is nothing in the world, and mediocre people bend themselves.
Keep your eyes moving forward, don't live in the past.
In the past, even though there were many unpleasant and troublesome things, they have passed. Don't let those old things that are old and rotten grains come out and annoy yourself again. "Some people see this day as stronger than that day, and some people see that every day is the same, but every man must be firm in his heart. "It's all about mentality. Keep your eyes always looking forward, as long as you live well today, as long as you live well tomorrow. The same is true of being a man, others will always remember their goodness, know how to be grateful, and be grateful. If others treat themselves badly, we must learn to forget; Don't keep thinking about it, it's easy to get angry and hurt yourself; Don't even bring your grievances with your parents and others to your children, and influence the ...... of the next generation with your own personal grievances
In this life, people must learn to remember and forget what is beneficial and useful to themselves, and remember; the harmful, the useless, forget; In this way, you can make your life pureer, more comfortable, happier, and happier ......