In the year I was 35 years old, I went through the roller coaster of my life, experiencing a huge gap from peak to trough. I thought my marriage with my husband was indestructible, but a misunderstanding brought us to the brink of divorce. Luckily, after the loss, I learned the simple but profound truth of knowing how to bow my head, and thus saving our marriage that was about to break.
At that time, I was young and vigorous, proud of my intelligence, and always had an attitude of refusing to bow my head to people and things. My husband and I got into an argument over a minor misunderstanding, and I filed for divorce in a fit of rage. At that time, I was full of anger and disappointment, feeling that my husband did not understand me and did not consider the problem from my point of view. I was convinced that I was right and that he was wrong, and therefore, I ended our marriage in a resolute manner.
The days after the divorce were not as easy and liberating as I imagined. When night falls, I sit alone in front of the window and think about the good times we spent together. The quarrels, misunderstandings, and hurts seemed so insignificant, and yet my thoughts about him grew stronger. I began to wonder if my decision was really too impulsive? Shouldn't he be given a chance to explain? However, my self-esteem and face prevented me from taking that step.
Until one day, I accidentally saw a sentence in a book: "In love, the one who knows how to bow his head is the real winner." This sentence made me think deeply. I began to reflect on my own behavior, was it because of my refusal to bow my head that caused the breakdown of this marriage? Should we let go of our stubbornness and face, apologize to him, and save our marriage?
I plucked up the courage and gave him a **. I told him that I regretted it, that I was willing to admit my mistakes, and that I was willing to start over. He was silent for a moment on the other end of the **, and then said, "I've been waiting for your words." "At that moment, I knew I had made the right decision.
We started our married life anew. I am no longer the opinionated and unyielding me, but a partner who is willing to listen, understand and tolerate. I began to learn to let go of my own face and dignity, to care about his feelings, to respect his decisions. He also began to change, and our relationship became more and more harmonious and intimate.
Now, we have come back together and our lives are full of happiness and sweetness. I am grateful for that misunderstanding, it taught me to bow my head and let me learn to cherish. I am also grateful to him for always being there for me and giving me the opportunity to regain the happiness I lost.
Looking back, I deeply realize that marriage is not a smooth journey, but full of ups and downs and setbacks. However, as long as we know how to bow our heads, know how to understand and tolerate each other, nothing can stop us from moving towards happiness.
Knowing how to bow your head is not weakness and compromise, but a kind of wisdom and courage. In marriage, we will inevitably encounter all kinds of problems and contradictions, but as long as we are willing to let go of our stubbornness and face, listen to each other's voices, and understand each other's feelings, we can find solutions to problems and make our marriage more happy and happy.
Of course, knowing how to bow our heads does not mean that we have to accommodate the other party without a bottom line, but on the basis of respect and understanding, we should make appropriate concessions and compromises. Such a bow can not only allow us to recover the lost marriage, but also allow us to continue to grow and progress in the marriage.
Now, I am 35 years old, and I cherish the happiness and warmth in front of me even more. I know that this marriage was not easy to come by, and it is the result of our joint efforts and dedication. I will continue to manage our married life with my heart and make it full of more love and happiness.
Finally, I would like to tell all those who are struggling and confused in their marriage: don't give up on your marriage easily, and don't make the wrong decision because of the spur of the moment. As long as you know how to bow your head, know how to cherish, and know how to give, you will definitely be able to redeem the lost marriage and move towards a better future.
Let's run our marriage with love and wisdom together! Let's continue to grow and progress on the road of marriage together! May everyone's marriage be happy, full of love and warmth!