Brother Tao, hello. I asked you about interpersonal communication.
My current situation: I don't have much contact with my old classmates, and I'm still a close one, and then I haven't had any contact with anyone else, even WeChat, all year round. At work, I don't have many colleagues, so I don't have any contact with my former colleagues.
Then I realized that I gradually didn't know how to talk to the classmates I was close to. I couldn't find a topic to talk about with people I met for the first time. I feel like I'm losing my ability to interact with people now.
And I think this situation is too bad, so I want to ask Brother Tao:
1. How to have something to talk to someone you know, instead of being cold after two or three sentences?
2. How to maintain the relationship with old friends?
3. It's easy for me to have stage fright when talking to people I meet for the first time, is there a way to overcome it?
This question has been bothering me for a long time, and the answer to myself is generally to take the initiative and talk to the other party if they are interested.
But nothing has changed, and today I am thinking about this question again, and then I realized that I can ask Brother Tao, although it is a very stupid question.
Wu Litao said thank you for asking, let's discuss the questions together, 1, you empty yourself first, I ask you, in your memory, when you were in elementary school, would you take the initiative to sign up for the class sports meeting, would you take the initiative to raise your hand when the teacher asked, would you rush to go out of the blackboard newspaper, are you the most active one during the spring outing, the party and various competitions, will you seriously participate, and then put it now, colleagues dinner, and company team building, will you feel very excited and excited, or would rather stay at home for a holiday, if all the answers are no, then it doesn't matter,Your personality is like this,At least half of the people are like this,Just like me,All choose no,2,The above questions face the heart,It's like an apple,There is pulp,Peel,But the core,It's our factory setting,We are not sociable people,But at present, it seems that everyone's evaluation of me is the Internet circle courtesan,EQ ceiling,I have to meet an average of 2-5 circle friends every day,What does this mean,My peel and pulp,I forcibly grew out of different fancy,And we,It's the same variety of fruit pits,3,What does this mean?,It's all about training the day after tomorrow.,First say that there's something to say.,Not cold.,There needs to be a very important word here.,It's called,Talk.,Within a month, you can basically master all the clues you can chat with your current friends and colleagues.,For example,All kinds of balls,Brands,Cars,Internet,Movies,Celebrities,Current affairs at home and abroad,In this era,It's not too easy to get information,4,With information reserves,It's a very cool thing for introverts,When you experience the happiness of controlling the field, You will be like an addiction, hungry for all kinds of different information, strengthen your own armor that will never rust, and then angel cycle, the stronger the happier, the happier the stronger, 5, a sentence to summarize the social circle, the sedan chair people carry people, be the best wingman and praise, if you are really lazy, I also have a more awesome warm-up tips, that is, listen and echo, you have to be good at provoking others' desire to express, repeat each other's feelings over and over again, send empathy words, it's enough, smile and look at each other, echo, repeat, Follow his words, emotion, give you an example, you try to imagine, no matter who you talk to me about, no matter whether he is good or bad, what emotions you have, I will reply to you in a different tone"Alas, this man"，"Hah, this man", No matter what you and I complain about, sigh and sigh about the past, I will reply to you in a different tone,"Alas, life"，"Hey, life"Do you feel it? There are seven or eight kinds of this fixed routine, and after you are proficient, it is impossible to be cold, 6, how to maintain the relationship between old friends? You have a total of a few old friends, suppose you eat 4 people each time, 200 per person, you invite your 3 old friends to eat 2 times in 1 year, a total of 6 times, the cost is 48k, horrible, 48k can eat with them 6 times, plus they invite back, a total of 24 times, listen to my advice, not only old friends, new friends are also, there is a plan to eat on the right, you must rush to pay, rush to pay at any time, really grab the kind, your income will be so big that you dare not think, yes, it's as simple as that, you see who has done it around you, he must be a heartthrob, and will continue to meet new friends, 7, stage fright is not necessary, here is also a tip, that is, you may not have trained yourself to introduce yourself, When you meet new friends, there are few people word by word, say their names, say what you can call me, and then clearly introduce yourself, design it, practice to perfection, don't be embarrassed, self-introduction is over, a strong handshake, there are cigarettes, no cigarettes toast, good spirits, smile and look each other in the eyes, the other party will feel that you really value him, and will immediately follow your introduction to pull two sentences, and your introduction is of course you have trained, are to send you food to eat, this is not, When he sees you so formal, he will politely reply to you about his self-introduction, and then you will give him food to eat according to his self-introduction, no, as soon as you come and go, the conversation box will open, 8, let yourself have one or a variety of universal hobbies, many times, your friend's fundamentals, depending on the breadth of your hobbies, let me boast, I am proficient in almost all ball games, games, chess and cards, entertainment. For example, golfers, card friends, this feeling, easy to come, come with a feeling, you really don't believe it, such as Depo social you have always heard of it, it is an invincible move in the current Internet circle, we can talk about it next time,"
Recently, Yang Tao created a 6,800 entrepreneurs exchange planet "Deterministic Growth", and will share some growth experiences and entrepreneurial ideas every day. WeChat*** Wu Litao said.