Yesterday at noon, I went to participate in the 2023 annual debriefing and appraisal meeting on behalf of the leader, and when I was debriefing, a friend called me four ** in a row. As soon as the debriefing was over, I hurried to the bathroom to go back**. Before I could open my mouth, my friend yelled: "I said what kind of thing is your brother doing, you don't even answer a few calls?" I'm going to Thailand tomorrow to run some errands, and I'll probably be back after the Chinese New Year. Have dinner with a friend tonight, I'll send you the address later, and bring my brother and daughter-in-law with me after work. After saying that, he hung up the **.
At the end of the year, there was so much work in the office that it was unbearable, and I was alone in the office for two days off on New Year's Day, and I politely declined when I asked a few friends to go out fishing and eat. When I heard my friend say that he was going to Thailand to run errands and would come back after the Spring Festival, I couldn't refuse. After getting off work, I called my wife and went to a farmhouse on the edge of the county to have dinner with my friends according to the location sent by my friend.
The other dozen or so people who ate together had eaten together several times before, and they were acquaintances. When eating with them, wine is naturally indispensable. Several of them drank very well, glass after glass, and talked about business as they drank. Because I was still rushing to report in the evening, I used the excuse that I had a stomach trouble in the past few days, and I drank a small glass and didn't drink again. I pretended not to know about their business, and rarely interjected, occasionally answering a sentence or two on the sidelines.
Seeing that the more they drank, the happier they became, I estimated that the meal would not end for a while, so I excused myself to go to the bathroom and went to the counter to settle the bill. After returning, I sat with them for a while, and seeing that my wife couldn't sit still, I said hello to them and left early.
At more than 12 o'clock in the evening, I was writing the report materials, and my friend did not leave a message and WeChat transferred me 600 yuan. I know that's the money to pay for the meal. It's all friends having a meal together, how can I collect this money, so I didn't click to collect it. I don't know that just this morning, I just got up, and a friend **called** over, and before I could open my mouth, he scolded me: "What do you mean, why haven't you received the money yet, are you waiting for me to send it to you in person?" If it's a friend, you quickly collect the money. "You've asked us so many times, can I ask for it last night?" I quickly answered. "No! I made an appointment yesterday, and I should settle the account. If you want to ask, the next time you make an appointment, you can collect the money quickly. "My friend didn't want me to say more, so I hung up**.
I've been with this friend for more than 20 years, and he started working three years before me. He was in a ** department when he first joined the job. Because of his strong blood and social experience, he will not be flexible in dealing with things, and he dares to say and do a lot of things that he is not used to, so he offended the number one leader, and he has done a lot of work, but he has not been reused, and he has been excluded everywhere. After four years of work, depressed, he resigned from his public office and went to Shenzhen to do business with a relative of his. Because this friend is righteous and bold, coupled with a flexible mind and willingness to endure hardships, he has accumulated tens of millions of family assets in a few years. Five years ago, he sold all his business in Shenzhen and returned to the county with a large sum of money.
After my friend came back, after many investigations, he opened a stone factory in a town in our county. Due to the large-scale urban construction in various places in the past few years, his stone business is booming, and the products are often in short supply. After the stone business was on the right track, he handed over the factory to his brother-in-law to take care of, and he invited some friends to eat, drink tea, and play cards.
My friend can be regarded as a rich man in our small city and county, but he has no frame at all, and he is still the same as before, whether it is an ordinary person or an officialdom, as long as he has intersected, he gets along well with others, and rarely quarrels with others and blushes.
The year before last, because my father lived in the hospital several times in a row, the money in my hand was spent. I took some money to my brother-in-law who was doing the renovation project, but my brother-in-law couldn't collect the money for the project, so I didn't ask him for it. I really couldn't help it, so I borrowed 50,000 yuan from a friend. When I borrowed money, I told my friend to return it to him at the end of the year. As a result, at the end of the year, my father was hospitalized for more than 20 days due to a lung infection, and the money he had saved was used up again, and he borrowed some from other friends.
I really had no choice, so I had to go to my friend's house and tell him the situation, and I couldn't repay the borrowed money for the time being, and I would pay him back after a while. When my friend saw me take out a pen and paper and say that he wanted to give him an IOU, he pulled the paper over and tore it to shreds, and scolded me, saying that he didn't take tens of thousands of yuan to heart, and asked me to talk about it when I was free, and don't mention it again in the future. Before leaving, my friend told me that it is not easy to be a sincere friend, he is very aware of the situation of our office workers, and remember to talk to him about any difficulties encountered in life in the future.
My wife and I are both salarymen and don't have much extra income. In the first two years, I spent all the money in my hand because my father was hospitalized, and the child was going to college, so the expenses were not small. And my brother-in-law's side has never been able to collect the money from the project and pay us back, and he lives a very frugal life. Occasionally, I invite a few friends to have a meal, and I buy my own groceries and cook them at home. My friends are still the same as before, often asking me out to dinner, and every time they tell me in ** that there is no important thing to be present. After getting along for a long time, everyone knows what he is like, and basically no one will rush to settle the bill with him. Naturally, he paid for every meal.
In June last year, my brother-in-law repaid our money after receiving the project payment, and I also paid back my friend's money as soon as possible. When I repaid the money, my friend thought that I was borrowing money from elsewhere to repay him, and told me that he was short of money and kept it for himself, and he did not lack the tens of thousands of yuan.
Last night, the reason why I borrowed the bathroom to settle the bill in advance was mainly because I felt that my friend had invited me to eat many times, and I should also invite it back. Although my friend is very rich and doesn't care about the 600 yuan, he always eats other people's and doesn't return the invitation once, and he always feels sorry for it. Who knows, the 600 yuan I paid in advance, my friend immediately transferred it to me. As a good friend who has been with him for more than 20 years, he knows that our company's efficiency is not very good now, and he doesn't want me to pay the 600 yuan.
My friends have helped me too much without asking for anything in return, and this friendship cannot be measured by money. I know that with my friend's character, if I thank him more, he may not accept it, but will appear angry. Only by exchanging hearts for hearts, with sincerity to manage and maintain this friendship that is more precious than gold, until we are old.
In a person's life, there will be many friends who know each other, but how many can really know each other? As the saying goes: life friends don't care how much, it's enough to have a confidant.