The sunset is infinitely better, just near dusk.
Since ancient times, people have been sad and helpless about the passage of time, but there are also people who are more optimistic and enjoy the beauty of this near dusk.
Writer Wang Meng is such an optimistic and open-minded person who enjoys the moment, he has spent most of his life creating a lot of well-known literary works, and finally he has also turned his emotional life into a wonderful **.
In 2012, Wang Meng's wife died, and the blow of widowhood at an advanced age made Wang Meng feel painful, and his spirit became worse and worse.
But Wang Meng's "love**" is far from over.
In 1934, the writer Wang Meng was born in a scholarly family in Beijing, his father taught at Peking University, and his mother taught in primary schoolHe Qifangsuggested.
Wang Meng joined the party in middle school, and the first novel he wrote at the age of 19 was a sensationSince joining the party at the age of 14, he has started his own literary creation, and has been working tirelessly for more than half a century.
He QifangLooking at Wang Meng's resume now, he is definitely a motivated young man from a proper middle-class intellectual family, who has already got a good hand of cards in his career, and Wang Meng is not far behind emotionally.
Just like the name of Wang Meng's first novel published at the age of 19"Long Live Youth".Same,The love story of his encounter, acquaintance, and stay with his wife is like a never-ending youth, forever young, and forever full of tears.
In the spring of 1950 in Beihai Park, the trees had just begun to turn green, and the grass buds had just emerged a little.
The warm and cold weather made people extremely impatient, but fortunately the sunshine was not bad that day, Wang Meng shrunk himself into a wide thick clothes and walked forward reluctantly.
"Come, Wang Meng, let me introduce you, this is my primary school classmate Cui Ruifang, and this is my younger brother Wang Meng. ”
Wang Sa and the people on both sides enthusiastically introduced each other.
It's your brother, that's interesting! Cui Ruifang couldn't help but laugh.
At that time, Wang Meng, who was tall and thin, shrunk in wide clothes, and had a pair of big glasses on the bridge of his nose, and looked at Cui Ruifang with some embarrassment to show communication.
16-year-old Wang Meng is the age when love is beginning to bloom, looking at this sister who is one year older than himself, lively and cheerful, and generous, he feels "fluffy" in his heart.
The destined fate is also "really interesting", not long after the first meeting, Wang Meng and Cui Ruifang met again.
Cui Ruifang, who was still in high school at the time, received a notice from the school asking her to go to a courtyard house at No. 39 East 41, but what she didn't know was that Wang Meng was there at this time.
When they met again, the shy Wang Meng didn't talk to this sister too much, and his only thought was to look for her in the long queue of people every day when he was cooking in the cafeteria.
Because Wang Meng was relentlessly "searching", Cui Ruifang and him often looked at each other in the crowd, and Cui Ruifang only smiled at him gently, but this was already a kind of luck in Wang Meng's heart.
This hazy feeling did not last long, and Wang Meng seemed to be sure of his intentions, so one night, he mustered up the courage to knock on Cui Ruifang's window.
When, when, when. Cui Ruifang, who was concentrating on **, was startled by the sound of knocking on the window, and then she heard Wang Meng's voice.
Stop it, rest for a while and go for a walk. ”
Cui Ruifang blushed and glanced at the person next to him and said, "It's so late, I'm not going."
Wang Meng begged outside the window: "Go, go, just wander around for a while", Cui Ruifang couldn't resist him, so he had to agree.
In the cold midnight, two young people walked aimlessly along East Fourth Street, Wang Meng had a lot of things to say to Cui Ruifang, but he didn't know how to speak face to face.
Fortunately, he is good at writing, so not long after he went back, Cui Ruifang received a letter of courtship from Wang Meng, one in the morning and one in the evening, and expressed his love to Cui Ruifang in the morning and dusk.
Not long after continuing to write letters to Cui Ruifang, Wang Meng was because of"New Young Men in the Organization Department".This work has encountered a low point in its life.
Because of the setback in his career, just when Wang Meng was not hopeful about the love he was pursuing, Cui Ruifang came and said I am willing to marry you.
So on January 28, 1957, at No. 27 Xiaorongxian Hutong in Beijing, Cui Ruifang, who was dressed in green cotton clothes, made fried sauce, and Wang Meng, who was wearing a semi-new Mao suit, rolled noodles, Cui Ruifang specially added an extra minced meat to the sauce, because today is their wedding day.
In a small courtyard in a broken and shaky hutong, Wang Meng and Cui Ruifang sat at a small table, each holding a bowl of steaming noodles to celebrate their wedding.
At that time, Wang Meng was 23 years old, and whenever he chatted with friends, he would proudly show off and say:"Being able to write my favorite and having a happy family are two of the most successful things I've done, and I have no regrets in my life."
The life of the two after marriage is also mixed, Wang Meng is an anxious child, and his biggest "hobby" every day is to urge Cui Ruifang to get up and eat breakfast quickly, and go out to catch the car quickly. Cui Ruifang is often confused by Wang Meng.
So Cui Ruifang gave Wang Meng the nickname "tear-jerking", but in fact, in this small family, the most tear-jerking is Cui Ruifang.
One day, Cui Ruifang, who was teaching, suddenly received a call from Wang Meng, Wang Meng said in **We just had a meeting, and the leader called on the writers to go down there, us. Is it good to go to Xinjiang? Wang Meng asked tentatively.
Cui Ruifang said without thinking about it, I agree, but she was worried after hanging **, Xinjiang is so far away, does she really want to take her two young children to follow him?
The answer is still yes, Cui Ruifang remembered that she told him when she got married, in this life, no matter joy, stability or rush, I will follow you.
In 1962, 29-year-old Cui Ruifang took her young son to board a train from Beijing to Urumqi and went to Yili, XinjiangShe always held a tank of goldfish in her arms, and she knew that this was Wang Meng's favorite.
In Yili, which was full of wind and snow, in a small house of less than 10 square meters and no heating, Cui Ruifang hugged the child and asked Wang Meng that we would stay in Xinjiang for a few years.
Wang Meng said, three or five years, at most ten years, I didn't expect Wang Meng and Cui Ruifang to stay in Xinjiang for 16 years, these 16 years are a period of writing accumulation for Wang Meng, but Cui Ruifang said:"I was swallowed up by the years, submerged by the years, and melted away by the years".
The frontier years are hard, although there are such complaints, Cui Ruifang still has no hesitation and always accompanies Wang Meng.
In 1979, Wang Meng, who had lived in Xinjiang for nearly 20 years, finally returned to his hometown of Beijing with his wife and children.
As soon as he returned to Beijing, Wang Meng plunged headlong into the world of literary creation, and his daily life was handed over to Cui Ruifang, who was "grinding" on weekdays.
In Cui Ruifang's eyes, Wang Meng is a "mess of idiots", usually loses everything, drops the chain on serious occasions, can't cross the street, and has an impatient temper.
The years are unforgiving, and half of his life is almost over, Cui Ruifang often thinks about how this "messy nerd" will live if he walks in front of Wang Meng.
For most of their lives, Cui Ruifang took care of Wang Meng like a child, and she also wrote a book about herself and the person next to her into a book, the title of which is"My Mr. Wang Meng".
In the book, she wrote: "Loved, always loved, irreplaceable." Live your life, live it all the time, with you and me ......”
But after all, there are still too few good days with you and me, Cui Ruifang suffered from cancer in 2012, and in the last days of his life, Wang Meng was by his side every step of the way.
On March 23, 2012, when the clumsy "fool" made breakfast and hurriedly came to urge Cui Ruifang again, his wife Cui Ruifang left him forever.
At the memorial service for his wife, Wang Meng looked at the coffin and cried like a child, and the old age and widowhood even made him doubt his existence.
Wang Meng always said, "In the grim days, the function of the family is really incomparable", and the relationship between each other for most of his life is not only as simple as husband and wife, but also confidants and soul mates.
In his grief, he wrote the mourning poem "Gift to His Beloved Wife" with his own hands: "In this body, this life, in this heart, the grass is fragrant and warm".Wang Meng said: "I was once discouraged and lost the courage to live, which is my heavens and the earth. ”
God will open a window for you at the same time as he closes a door for you, Wang Meng, who has experienced the pain of widowhood, has also collapsed, but life will continue, there is no haze that light cannot dispel, andShan SanyaIt is the beam of light that appeared at the low point of Wang Meng's life.
After Cui Ruifang's death, friends often came to visit Wang Meng, and often took him out for a walk.
Like when he met Cui Ruifang, this time Wang Meng, who is eighty years old, met his "love at first sight" again.
Wang Meng acceptedDou WentaoDuring the interview, he once described his first meeting with Shan Sanya as follows:"The first minute I met Ms. Shan Sanya, I felt that it was her, and there was a kind of love at first sight that was killed in seconds. ”
In the interval of that interview, Shan Sanya was afraid that Wang Meng would catch a cold, so she walked over to Wang Meng, who was resting, with a thick coat, dressed him, and buttoned the buttons one by one, and Wang Meng sat there quietly, like a well-taken child.
Nowadays, young people love flash marriage, Wang Meng also caught up with a new trend this time, he got married after fifteen days with Shan Sanya, Wang Meng was eighty years old at this time, and Shan Sanya was sixty years old.
Dou WentaoGood love can ** the scars in the bottom of the heart, and make a person rejuvenated, this principle is very applicable in Wang Mengna.
Wang Meng, who met love again, slowly came out of the haze of losing his beloved wife, he kept up with the pace of the times, and learned to use smart phones, sports bracelets, and send WeChat by himself.
There are two ** hanging in Wang Meng's house, one is a wedding photo of him and Shan Sanya, and the other is the ** of his deceased wife Cui Ruifang.
Wang Meng said"I must admit that Ruifang has given me too much warmth and support, I am used to it, I will only, I must also love a woman, guard a woman, and always connect with such a person. There was no way I could live on my own. ”
When talking about his new wife Shan Sanya, he said:"Sanya's arrival is my rescue, I can get her care, comfort, and companionship, I really have nothing to ask for in this life, I am very lucky, there can be no more ideal ending. ”
Widowhood at an advanced age is already a human grief, but fate is so favored, bringing a new beam of light to Wang Meng's hazy life, for Wang Meng, the best way to miss may be to start a new life with the memories of his lover.
Cui Ruifang should also be relieved that the "messy nerd" in her eyes still has the courage to pick herself up again after she leaves, and find a lover who is willing to accompany him and take care of him.
In 2014, Wang Meng was invited to Hainan to participate in cross-strait pen activities, accompanied by his newly married wife Shan Sanya.
Wang Meng's light steps, humorous conversation, and energetic state made everyone present envious, and behind him was silently followed by a woman with an elegant temperament, gentle and dignified.
Wang Meng bluntly introduced her new wife Shan Sanya to everyone, and such an "official announcement" also added a lot of romance to the trip to Hainan.
At this time, Wang Meng, who is experiencing the second love in his life, sees the mountains as mountains, and the water as water, he is in Hainan, where the scenery is infinitely good, in the background of gorgeous lights, he sang to Shan Sanya, the singing voice was loud and sincere, and by her side, he began to live lightly.
Shan SanyaShortly after the wedding, Wang Meng was invited to visitWei Minglun Literature MuseumHe deliberately distributed the candy prepared by his newlywed wife to everyone present, and laughed that he was catching up with the new trend and learned to use a smartphone to surf the Internet, and used 50% of the traffic in ten days.
After getting married, Wang Meng, with the encouragement and companionship of Shan Sanya, Wang Meng lived younger and younger, and became more and more trendy.
Wang Meng once said that he was a "writing worker" who was anti-interference around the clock, writing for an hour and a half from 6:30 to 8 o'clock every day, and then starting to write again at 2 o'clock in the afternoon after the lunch break.
Although Wang Meng has adhered to such a self-disciplined writing routine for most of his life, it has not delayed him from catching up with the trend at all, and after getting married, he is like an old naughty boy, constantly seeking new things.
In recent years, in addition to insisting on writing every day, he has also expanded his new interests with the encouragement of Shan Sanya, swimming, exercising, and chasing dramas, and now at the age of 86, he still maintains his abdominal muscles.
A lover of language learning, he has worked with British writers at the London Book FairMargaret DelabelThere was a thirty-minute conversation.
Wang Meng said"I think it's interesting to learn, and the purpose of learning is not for the thing itself, but for an attitude towards life. ”
WriterIron coagulationonce gave Wang Meng the title of "old boy", saying that he used his enthusiasm for life to infect the people around him.
But only Wang Meng himself knows that if it weren't for Shan Sanya, he might have fallen into the haze of losing his beloved wife for the rest of his life.
The appearance of Shan Sanya is like a beam of light, illuminating Wang Meng's hazy inner garden, and now the sun is shining in the "garden", and the flowers are more blooming.
I can feel that Wang Meng, who is accompanied by Shan Sanya, has been immersed in a new relationship, and he said in an interview when talking about his love life:"After I got married, I was very regular in my writing and life, and even though I was older, I still mustered up the courage to stick to physical exercise and fight against aging. ”
When asked how he got along with Shan Sanya at home, he saw that Wang Meng, who was already in his old age, showed a sweet smile like a first-married man and said: "I obey the leader at home."
In his love life, Wang Meng is undoubtedly lucky, for most of his life, he met his wife Cui Ruifang, who never left him, from love at first sight to staying with each other; After his beloved wife went, he took the courage to express his new love to Shan Sanya and opened his heart to embrace a new life.
Wang Meng was in"Next year I'll be old".said:"As my ** title, next year I will be old, and when I am not particularly old, I want to say long live life, long live youth, long live love. ”
Such a contemplative enthusiasm and attitude to life have to make people respect Mr. Wang Meng, when Wang Meng, who is more than eighty years old, said to a group of reporters:"In my old age, I still chose my partner and feelings. ”When he said this, the audience applauded thunderously, and everyone blessed and envied this person who has had light all his life from the bottom of their hearts.