During the Spring Festival this year, Xiaoyun and I went back to our respective homes to find our own mothers.
Three-and-a-half-year marriage, collapsed into trivialities.
At the end of the day, we didn't want to have a child with each other.
At the same time, we also refused to do anything for each other, including this Spring Festival, we tacitly agreed not to go to each other's homes to perform love and reunion.
Among them, there is an element of anger, and there are also some self-indulgences who don't want to live with each other.
On the twenty-seventh day of the lunar month, the unit had an early holiday, and I went home non-stop.
When she got home, she made up a reason why Xiaoyun took her parents out for a trip for the New Year this year, and cooperated with Xiaoyun to make up the same reason for her parents.
Both parents believed it, and although they felt a little regretful, they also expressed their understanding reasonably.
It is said that in the world, "the role of a daughter is the best", in fact, the role of a son is also very fragrant.
Back to his native home, in front of his parents and parents, he can lie down if he wants and play when he wants.
In addition, a small barbecue with a variety of beers is very pleasant.
I told myself again and again: how I couldn't think about it at the beginning, instead of going into the siege of marriage and drawing a prison.
On the twenty-ninth day of the lunar month, I accompanied my parents to go shopping to buy New Year's goods.
The night before, the two had gotten together to make a shopping list.
I sat on the couch and played games.
Dad: "Son, buy you a few trotters?" ”
You look at it. I replied perfunctorily.
Mother: "Son, Xiaoyun likes to eat our gluten the most, I'll buy more, and you can bring it back to her." ”
I was impatient: "If you don't bring it, you can sell it online, and it will be delivered directly to your home by express." ”
What do you want to eat most for Chinese New Year's Eve? Mom asked again.
What do you do and what do I eat, don't ask, let me play the game with peace of mind. ”
That day, I played games for four hours, and my parents discussed a shopping list for four hours.
Carefully muttering about whose seasoning to buy, how to make beef and mutton, how much to buy, and how many coriander to buy, if you buy too much, you will waste ...... if you can't use it up
As for whether to buy pots of cuckoos and come back, the two discussed for a full hour.
My mother likes rhododendrons, and one year a friend gave a pot, which bloomed from the previous year to the first month.
My father said, "The flowers bloomed and became rich, and that year, my son got married and became a family." So, buy another pot this year, and it's a luxury for the New Year. ”
My mother: "I passed by the flower shop a few days ago and saw that the price has increased during the Chinese New Year, and it is twice as expensive as usual, so it's not worth it." ”
My dad: "That's too much, it's going up too much." ”
My mother: "No, with this money, I can usually buy two pots, but I don't buy ......."”
Then, the two muttered a lot about the topic of azaleas.
At half past ten o'clock in the evening, the two finally ended their discussion, and my dad got up to get a foot bath, connected the water, plugged in the electricity, and soaked his feet with my mother.
At this point, they picked up their shopping list again and discussed and discussed.
Then, when I brushed my teeth and washed my face, I was still discussing.
While discussing, he walked to the bedroom.
It was as if I realized that I was still at home at this time, and said to me in unison, "Stop playing games and sleep." ”
I had to get up and go wash up.
When I went back to my room, I saw my dad coming out of the bedroom.
Without waiting for me to ask, he himself was busy pouring water and said, "Your mother has a little cough these days, make her some licorice tablets, cough at night, just drink a sip, it works better than medicine." ”
At this time, I heard my mother say in the house, "I didn't cough a few times in total, so I don't need to drink." ”
My dad: "It's not a hassle to pour water, just drink it if you want to, and cough it too." ”
I, forcibly gagged **.
The next day, I went shopping with my parents.
In fact, I was with me for less than half an hour before I ran away.
I really can't stand the fact that they could have bought everything in one place, one-stop, but they had to travel to n places.
The most annoying thing is that the two are surprisingly in the same step, and I can't say anything about it.
In the end, I was chased home by them, and they thought I was verbose, which affected their shopping mood.
The two went out at half past eight and arrived home at half past 12.
My dad went into the kitchen and started cooking, and from time to time told my mom to eat first: "Eat something first, I ate late today, and my stomach hurts for a while." ”
My mom followed my dad with a small cake in her hand, ate it herself, and then fed it to my dad.
At the dinner table, the two reviewed the gains and losses of shopping in the morning, what acquaintances they met, how much the price of things had risen, the quality of the goods, and so on.
After eating, one washes the dishes, and the other stands on the side to wipe the stove, clean up the floor, and chat while drying.
I gradually discovered that when they were together, it seemed that they would never have enough to say.
My own son, born with a sense of air.
I wasn't interested in what they said, and I couldn't pick up the stubble, but they talked seriously about such trivial topics.
Early in the morning of the Chinese New Year's Eve, my dad went out.
I woke up late. But ever since I got up, my mom has been saying, "Your dad doesn't know where to go?" Why haven't you come back yet? ”
I said, "You call ** and ask." ”
She said: "* hit, he forgot ** at home. ”
After saying this a few times, she finally couldn't sit still anymore and got dressed and went downstairs to wait.
When I came back, my mom was holding a pot of blooming rhododendrons.
My dad also had a pot in his hand.
Looking at the expressions on the faces of the two again, they are happier than cuckoos.
They had breakfast that day in front of the cuckoo.
My mother: "Just buy one pot, why do you buy two?" ”
My dad: "It's the New Year, it's not that I can't afford it, less than 300 yuan, and the flowers are in full bloom for more than a month, and the house is full of vivid colors, isn't it worth it?"
My mom said, "If you say that, it's really worth it." Besides, it is not easy for flowers to bloom in one season, and it should also celebrate the New Year. ”
So, the two laughed.
That scene, my heart moved, and I couldn't help but substitute into the daily life of my marriage with Xiaoyun.
Two people who are in free love have also had a day of not seeing each other, such as scratching their hearts and livers every three autumns.
There was also a time when I chatted about my mobile phone until it ran out of battery, and my feelings were as hot as my mobile phone.
I also used to see the sunrise and see the flowers blooming, and I would tell the other party the first time to share the strong desire to share.
However, once upon a time, it was fading and annoying.
Two people who love each other, living a life, have become two powder kegs, and a random spit star can ignite a war.
It's okay not to speak, but when you speak, it's a prelude to a quarrel.
The last time I had an argument was when Xiaoyun was thirsty at night and drank the water I had put on the bedside table.
I casually said, "Don't you have a water cup yourself?" ”
As a result, the war was on the verge of breaking out, and the quarrel from the cup of water to the "divorce".
That day, Xiaoyun cried very sadly, she said that you always thought that I didn't like children like you, but in fact, I liked it, I liked it very much. But I know better than anyone that if I have one child, I will live with two children ......
She said that she was not stupid enough to think that after her giant baby husband became a father, she suddenly burst with a sense of responsibility, and she said that she could not turn the tragedy of two people into three people.
I was very unconvinced at the time, and replied to her: "With your share of genes, do you think I am willing to have children with you?" ”
Of course, this is angry talk, how to pierce the heart.
However, behind the angry words, there is also disappointment in the strength of the marriage and the lack of wanting to save.
In this marriage, what the two of us talk about the most is, why was our brain squeezed by the door in the first place, and when we got married, isn't it fragrant to live alone?
A marriage soaked in disappointment, full of resentment.
That home, in fact, is not attractive to both of us, and is maintained by inertia and inertia.
However, watching my parents' lives up close, I suddenly became envious.
The reddest strawberry on the plate, my dad will definitely give it to my mom.
The garbage bags at home were full, and my dad would put on a piece of clothing whenever he needed to go downstairs and throw it away.
Even if my mom was already dressed and carrying a garbage bag to go out, he would hurriedly put on her clothes and accompany her down.
My dad has high blood pressure, and when he takes a shower in the bathroom, every ten minutes, my mom will knock on the door: "Old Xiao......."”
My dad would respond, "Okay." ”
Dad loves to nap, and often falls asleep watching TV on the sofa, and my mother finds out as soon as possible and comes over to help him put on a blanket.
At this time, if Dad didn't sleep deeply, he would say, "I didn't sleep." ”
My mother smiled and said to him, "Sleep, sleep without shame." ”
My mom was picking leeks in the kitchen, and my dad saw it and moved a small bench to sit over.
My mother wouldn't let him touch his hands, so he sat next to him, picked up the melon seeds, and fed them to my mother's mouth one by one.
The two then started from melon seeds, talking about planting sunflowers when they were children, talking about falling peanuts, and talking about the eve ......of their wedding, the two of them rode more than ten kilometers to buy melon seeds in the wholesale market to entertain guests
When my dad got up, he touched a dish that was placed on the edge of the stove, and there was a crunch and the dish shattered.
My heart tightened, and I put down my phone and ran over, trying to relieve them.
I saw that my dad was distressed: "This is your favorite plate." ”
My mother: "Broken peace, the old ones don't go, the new ones don't come, it's nothing." ”
I suddenly felt that I was narrow-minded and redundant.
On Chinese New Year's Eve, my dad was allowed to drink a bottle of beer.
However, when I tried to open it for him, he eventually refused.
If you don't drink it, I'll take one more sip, and your mother will have one more heart. This blood pressure, forget it, forget it, I'll take a drink with you both. ”
The red wine my mom and I drink.
Before my mother retired, she was well-known in the unit as "a thousand cups are not drunk." ”
After two glasses of red wine, my mother's face did not change, but I was slightly drunk, so I expressed the curiosity in my heart: "Mom and Dad, do you never quarrel?" ”
The two of them said in unison: "Why don't you quarrel, how can there be a husband and wife in the world who don't quarrel." ”
This tacit understanding, I am also drunk.
My dad said that back then, when they had the most fierce quarrel, my mother hugged me and went back to my parents' house for a month.
When did it start to stop being noisy? I asked.
My mom barely thought about it and said, "After you get married." ”
When I got married, I also had a banquet at my parents' house.
My mother said, "The morning after you got married, you got up late because you had a late party with Fa Xiao the day before. At that time, looking at your closed bedroom door, your father and I could no longer push the door in as usual, lift the quilt and call you to get up for breakfast. At that time, we felt that our son had grown up, got married, and had his own other half, and we needed to respect the habits of that other half and keep an appropriate distance. ”
At that moment, my parents deeply understood how important each other standing by their side was to themselves, more important than the parent-child relationship.
That is, from that day on, they no longer quarrel over trivial matters, because who is willing to take the rest of their lives and deal with the most important people. I see!
That day, I was drunk by my mom.
When I was drunk, I was beaten back to my original shape by my mother's words.
She asked me, "Xiaoyun didn't take her parents out on a trip at all, did you quarrel?" ”
I suddenly woke up most of the time: "Who said that?" ”
No one said it, from the moment you entered the house, your father and I could see it. ”
I laughed and retorted, "Where did you see that?" If you two have this ability, you can go to the bottom of the overpass to tell someone's fortune, hahaha. ”
But Mom and Dad didn't laugh at all.
My mother went straight to the bottom of her heart: "A person who is married to a happy person, the way he looks at people, the tone of his voice, and even his facial expressions when he plays with his mobile phone, are all peaceful and quiet. But the aura on your body is just the opposite, twisted, impetuous, no one is so pleasing to the eye, and you can't sit still in **. ”
I, in a cold sweat.
My dad then mended the knife: "I came in with your mother with a bouquet of flowers that day, and you didn't even look at it." If you ask if it's good-looking, you say it's like that, how disappointing! You don't even want to give a little compliment to others, even if it's your parents, you can imagine that you can't provide much happiness and companionship to Xiaoyun. "I ......
And the parents' eye poison doesn't stop there.
My mom took screenshots of a few of Xiaoyun's circle of friends for me.
It's annoying that the rain doesn't stop. "It's another morning jam in traffic" "It's really uncomfortable." ”
My mother said that a good marriage can be traced in the corners of the eyes, eyebrows, clothes and conversations. A woman who is cared for by her husband will not be so emotional.
I was speechless.
What embarrassed me the most was that my dad said, "If you fail to be a good husband, then I, as a father, am also responsible." Maybe when you were growing up, your dad didn't show you how to be a good husband. ”
On Chinese New Year's Eve, I lost sleep.
Alone in the bedroom, bored scrolling on the phone.
The bits and pieces of his marriage to Xiaoyun have been in the movie.
There are some things that there is no reflection without comparison.
Compared with my parents' marriage, I know my dereliction of duty and laziness in this marriage.
Later, when I got up to go to the bathroom, I saw azaleas on the balcony.
So, I walked over, took a **, and sent it to Xiaoyun.
I quickly remembered Yasunari Kawabata's sentence in my mind: "At half past four in the morning, the begonia flowers are not sleeping." ”
So, I sent another text: At half past two in the morning, the azaleas were not sleeping, and the stones sank into the sea.
I said to myself, "There is actually a text to this sentence, 'I always feel that at this time, you should be by my side.'" ’”
Later, without waiting for Xiaoyun to reply, I slowly fell asleep.
As a result, the next morning, I received her reply: "What kind of nerves? ”
I called over one **, first gave Xiaoyun a New Year's greeting, and said a soft sentence that I wouldn't have said before: "Wife, I was wrong before, and I was also someone else's husband for the first time, so I have no experience, but I will study hard in the future." ”
Xiaoyun was stunned for a moment, but after reacting, he actually smiled: "Oh, I'll apologize when I come up, and I can't fix it yet." ”
She smiled, and the "blood feud" and "frozen three feet" between the two of us were loosened all of a sudden.
Alas, it was really stupid before, something that could be solved with a word of sorry, and it was necessary to use emotional nuclear weapons.
During the Spring Festival, I stayed at my parents' house until the second year of junior high school.
Originally, my parents wanted me to go to Xiaoyun in the first year of junior high school, but I stayed and learned from my parents.
Love needs to learn, this is this Spring Festival, my biggest harvest and change.
The more I studied, the more ashamed and humble I became.
Husband and wife are not only pillow people, but also partners in destiny.
The meaning of marriage depends on the couple's perception of the importance of marriage.
In fact, I slowly realized from my parents that what really drives love is not strong love, but trivial time.
In marriage, gossip is the best nourishment for nourishing feelings. Behind those broken thoughts, there is my dependence on you; In the tireless nagging, we care for each other. Knowing how to share and being good at listening is the most important wisdom in a marriage.