Can love really make people forget their age?
That year, she was 29 and he was 65.
She insisted on marrying Yang Nansheng, a rocket expert who was 36 years older than herself.
Her mother cried and persuaded her:
There are a lot of young people, but you want to marry an old man, are you a fool? ”
The father was so angry that he severed the father-daughter relationship:
If you want to marry this person, you will never enter this house again, there is no daughter like you in this family! ”
Those passers-by who watched the excitement pointed and pointed:
If this woman hadn't had a sick brain, the old man would be really rich! ”
In the face of their parents' incomprehension and **, Zhang Yanping and Yang Nansheng got married without fear and stayed together for 27 years.
After marriage, after Zhang Yanping's parents understood their son-in-law's personality, they treated their son-in-law better than their daughter.
From then on, I discovered that my parents loved Nansheng more than I did. ”
So, what kind of personality charm does Yang Nansheng have that makes everyone close to him fall in love with him?
Today, let's walk into the life of Yang Nansheng, the founder of China's solid rocket and a famous leading aerospace scientist, and the love legend between him and Zhang Yanping
The marriage between the two stems from the collision of soul to soul.
March 1984, Beijing, during the two sessions.
Zhang Yanping, 27, is a reporter for Xinhua News Agency, covering the delegations of Shaanxi, Gansu and Inner Mongolia.
At noon one day, she knocked on the door of Yang Nansheng, a 63-year-old deputy to the Shaanxi People's Congress.
An old man in his sixties, with a cheerful and cheerful face, opened the door and said happily
Oh, that's a comrade journalist. ”
Zhang Yanping walked in nervously, sat down, took out a notebook and pen, and conducted the interview step by step.
I heard that you are a scientist, can you tell us about your work? ”
Out of the habit of keeping secrets, Zhang Yanping did not answer directly.
He interrupted deliberately, with his back to the guest:
What do you post-80s young people care about most? What do you like to listen to**? What books to read? ”
Zhang Yanping was stunned for a moment, and then reported a long list of poets, writers, and the names of ** families.
When it comes to literature and **, that's what interests her and is happy to express.
Finally, she said:
Don't think that we post-80s generations are all children who can afford it, are simple, and only ask for candy from grandma! ”
Hearing this, Yang Nansheng's eyes lit up.
He had a hunch that the interview would be interesting.
Sure enough, the two exchanged opinions, chatting about Bei Dao and Shu Ting's poems, Liu Sola, Wang Meng's **, Beethoven, Chopin, Mozart, ......
Gradually, Zhang Yanping was deeply shocked by Yang Nansheng's erudition and the invisible aura on his body.
She loved to listen to him, and she still remembers him thirty years later :
Every detail, every scene, is indeed as beautiful as brocade. ”
The two-hour interview ended dreamily in the same frequency magnetic field.
Yang Nansheng sent Zhang Yanping out of the room, and still said happily
Goodbye, comrade journalist! ”
Zhang Yanping waved goodbye, and the moment he turned to leave, a trace of sadness rose in his heart.
Such a sunny, rich, wise, well-seen man, with a noble soul, I wonder if I will ever see him again? If I have the chance, I would like to ask him to talk more about ......”
As a journalist, you will meet many people in your life.
Most of them are just one-off encounters and never see each other again.
However, there are always some unexplained miracles in the world.
A few days later, the two met unexpectedly at the delegation's residence.
Yang Nansheng saw Zhang Yanping, made a humorous expression, and spread his hands:
Comrade reporter is going to interview again! ”
This time, Zhang Yanping did not accept an interview, she just listened to Yang Nansheng tell everything.
She listened to him talk about his favorite poet and writer, and listened to him excitedly recite a line from "The Little Prince":
The stars we see with the naked eye may have died hundreds of millions of years ago. The moment their light reached my pupils, it was the most mysterious accident. ”
Looking at Yang Nansheng's fascinated look, Zhang Yanping remembered that at the end of the first interview, she asked him a question:
What is the happiest thing in your life? ”
At this time, Yang Nansheng replied solemnly
The happiest thing in my life is that there are things in the artificial stars that spin in the sky that I have touched! ”
Zhang Yanping vaguely realized that this scientist was extraordinary and must have done a lot of great things for the country!
Zhang Yanping. After the meeting, Yang Nansheng returned to Xi'an, while Zhang Yanping was still busy working in Beijing.
Taking time out of her busy schedule to write, read, and wait for letters is a very happy thing for her.
It turned out that the two became close friends and began to exchange letters.
In two years, Yang Nansheng wrote 96 letters to Zhang Yanping, and Zhang Yanping wrote 98 letters to Yang Nansheng.
In the letter, Zhang Yanping has both the romance of her youth and the majesty of a newborn calf who is not afraid of tigers.
She considers herself an out of place, a person who lives in a "dream".
Regarding Zhang Yanping's "dream", Yang Nansheng thinks that it is a pure heart:
For you young people, I sincerely believe that it is okay to keep a pure heart. Especially after getting to know you, I have become even more convinced. ”
The heart of innocence is also the core of Yang Nansheng's spiritual world throughout his life.
Yang Nansheng when he was young**.
Yang Nansheng, born in 1921, was originally from Fujian and grew up in Beijing.
After graduating from Southwest Associated University, he was admitted to study abroad at public expense and went to the UK to study with his female classmate Xin Yunzun.
The two then married in England and had a pair of children.
Yang Nansheng when he was young**.
In 1950, Yang received his PhD from the University of Manchester. He gave up the preferential treatment abroad and resolutely returned to China with his wife and children.
After returning to China, Yang Nansheng made great contributions to the development of China's solid rocket industry from scratch.
In addition to the solid rocket for launching the first artificial satellite, China's first return-satellite braking solid rocket and the first solid rocket for underwater launch were also successfully developed under his leadership. 。
The first on the left is Yang Nansheng.
However, Yang Nansheng is neither worldly nor afraid of power. He was thrown into the cold because he had different opinions about the leadership
Some of his colleagues became academicians of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, and some won the title of "two bombs and one star", but the name of "Yang Nansheng" quietly disappeared.
At the same time, his wife, who had been with Yang Nansheng for more than 30 years, died of advanced lung cancer in 1980.
Despite suffering injustice and unfortunate life, Yang Nansheng "burst into tears and heartburned", but he did not lose his innocence.
Later he was asked:
You lost your fame and fortune because you offended others, do you regret it? ”
Yang Nansheng replied word for word:
I don't regret it, if I had to do it all over again, I would still be like that! I'm not for fame and fortune, we do things that can make the country strong and outsiders dare not bully. "That's enough, let the rest go! ”
In this regard, astronaut Li Zhijun commented on Yang Nansheng:
Throughout his life, whether he was brilliant or relegated to the cold palace, he always behaved like a generous gentleman, heroic, never flinched, never timid, and never looked away for fame and fortune. ”
Yang Nansheng's undesecrated belief in truth and uncompromising noble personality deeply influenced Zhang Yanping as a journalist.
During the two years of correspondence, Zhang Yanping decided that Yang Nansheng was the person he had always wanted to pursue in his life.
So she decided to marry him.
When Yang Nansheng told the news to a pair of children, their reaction was:
We are so happy for our father! ”
When Zhang Yanping's parents learned that their daughter was going to marry an old man in her sixties, they firmly objected
If you're going to marry this man, never go into this house again! ”
Zhang Yanping failed to get the blessing of her parents. She sadly packed her luggage and came to Xi'an alone.
On June 2, 1986, the two held a simple wedding in Yang Nansheng's humble home.
This year, Zhang Yanping was 29 years old and Yang Nansheng was 65 years old.
Several of Zhang Yanping's friends rushed from Beijing to Xi'an to celebrate the wedding.
When they walked into Yang Nansheng's house, they couldn't help but gasp:
The whole family is surrounded by walls! ”
Seeing the surprised expressions of his friends, Zhang Yanping smiled and said:
We only came together because of love.
If he had been a little worldly, he wouldn't have married me, an ugly duckling who didn't know how to do housework, and I had a chaotic job as a journalist who couldn't take care of the family at all.
If I still had a little worldliness, I wouldn't have married him – he was old, poor, and far from Beijing. These three factors alone are enough for most girls to choose to escape.
However, we don't feel anything about the worldly world of fireworks. We only have love in our hearts, so we got married with infinite happiness, without hesitation, without fear! ”
After the marriage, Yang Nansheng applied for a transfer to Beijing in order to reunite with his wife.
Unexpectedly, due to the obstruction of well-intentioned people, although his hukou was moved to Beijing, the organizational relationship was not smoothly transferred.
Zhang Yanping was very angry about this:
I hate the guy who caused you harm! ”
Yang Nansheng smiled:
Not to be hated. ”
On weekdays, when Yang Nansheng goes out, he will take the initiative to greet someone.
He has genuine respect and kindness for every vendor, handyman, street lady, garbage collector he meets.
If someone came to his house, even if it was a master who came to repair the water pipes, he would respectfully put on his leather shoes and meet them.
Zhang Yanping said: Wear slippers at home. ”
But Yang Nansheng said:
It's not good. This is disrespectful. ”
Yang Nansheng also persuaded his wife to repair her relationship with her parents.
As a result, Zhang Yanping began to write letters to his parents constantly, and Yang Nansheng also sincerely respected his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Finally one day, Zhang Yanping's parents accepted their daughter and son-in-law again.
After getting along with Yang Nansheng, their views changed a lot, and they fell in love with this son-in-law wholeheartedly.
Every time Zhang Yanping goes home to visit relatives, before leaving, Zhang's mother will always wrap her a big box of dumplings and say:
It's not for you, it's for Nansheng, he likes the dumplings I made the most! ”
After Zhang's mother died, she told her daughter over and over again:
Take good care of Nansheng, Nansheng is such a good person! I can't make dumplings for Nansheng anymore......”
Later, Zhang Yanping thought about Yang Nansheng's personality charm, and she finally understood:
Why do all those who are close to him fall in love with him? Because he always exposes his innocent heart. ”
Zhang Yanping at work.
One day, an old secretary who Yang Nansheng hadn't contacted for a long time came to visit.
Zhang Yanping was wearing a headscarf and an apron and was cooking in the kitchen.
She heard a knock on the door, put on her slippers, brandished a spatula, and hurried to open the door.
After the secretary came in, he asked Yang Nansheng curiously
Is this your babysitter? ”
Yang Nansheng was stunned for a moment, then brought out his wife who was hiding in the kitchen, and introduced seriously
This is my love, Zhang Yanping. ”
Afterwards, Zhang Yanping was very frustrated and cautiously asked her husband:
Nansheng, am I embarrassing you? I didn't look like the hostess at all, he used me as a babysitter. ”
Yang Nansheng sincerely comforted:
Xiaoping, you are you, don't care what others think or say, be the original Xiaoping. I love you, the original one who didn't grow up. ”
However, he paused and said:
If I can stay with you for the rest of my life, you will never have to grow up. But I can't stay with you for long, so I hope that after I'm gone, you can grow up and take care of yourself. So I'm relieved. ”
Therefore, Yang Nansheng often encourages his wife to pursue her own career and realize her own value.
Eventually, Zhang Yanping grew into a senior reporter of Xinhua News Agency, and won the highest awards in China's journalism industry, such as the "Yangtze River Taofen Award", "Xinhua News Agency Outstanding Contribution Award", and "National Outstanding Journalist".
The long-form newsletter "Why is Soma Flower So Red" won the first prize of the China News Award, and he wrote a 300,000-word biography "The Biography of Mu Qing".
The two have known each other for 29 years and have been together for 27 years. They rarely get into arguments.
Only once, Zhang Yanping insisted on buying her husband a pair of leather shoes for 2,600 yuan:
You've been working on the third line all your life, with a meager salary, living in poverty, wearing a tunic for several years, the only woolen coat you brought back from studying in England, and a pair of leather coats. "Shoes have been worn from Shanghai to Inner Mongolia and from Inner Mongolia to Shaanxi, and now that I'm older, it's time to buy some new clothes and shoes. ”
When Yang Nansheng saw **, he was immediately angry:
I definitely don't want it, and I won't wear it if you buy it! I do what I say! ”
With that, he left the salesman and his wife and left.
It was the first time Zhang Yanping had seen her husband so angry. She was frightened and hurried after her.
When she got home, the more she thought about it, the more aggrieved she became, and she couldn't help crying bitterly.
Yang Nansheng calmed down and said what was in his heart:
I know you're good to me and always want to buy me this and that, but I'm old and don't need that many things anymore, you know? I just wanted to save a little more money for you to keep, I died, and now, if you can live a better life, I'm relieved ......”
When Zhang Yanping heard this, she burst into tears!
In fact, Yang Nansheng was 87 years old and his physical condition was not as good as before after surgery.
I gave birth to you before you gave birth to me, and you are old.
I wish I could live with you at the same time, but I will be with you every day. ”
People who love each other always want to be together for a long time.
For couples with a 36-year age difference, this regret is even more unforgettable.
Yang Nansheng. One night in the summer of 2011, it suddenly started raining.
At that time, Yang Nansheng and his wife lived in an old 90-square-meter unit building in the aerospace compound.
It was the biggest house he had ever stayed in and he was satisfied.
But they live on the top floor, which is in disrepair and leaks everywhere when it rains.
That night, Zhang Yanping found all the basins and plastic buckets at home, lined up to receive water, and poured them as he walked.
90-year-old Yang Nansheng anxiously gathered around his wife and kept muttering:
What to do, what to do? ”
Seeing her old and frail husband so frightened, Zhang Yanping's heart ached!
She picked up the ** and dialed the **:
The house leaked again......”
The housing management retorts as usual:
We should first contact which group the homeowner relationship belongs to, and the group will notify us. ”
Zhang Yanping became angry when she heard this. She directly called the relevant person in charge of the general office of an aerospace group and said viciously:
If no one comes to save the water tonight, I'll fight with you!" ”
Put down**, Zhang Yanping burst into tears!
Over the years, she has responded to Yang Nansheng's medical and housing difficulties many times, and the results she received were:
If the relationship is not in Beijing, nothing can be done. ”
Relationship has become Yang Nansheng's Achilles' heel. At this time, Yang Nansheng almost became a forgotten person in Beijing. He doesn't seem to have anything to do with it, except for the annual visit of Shaanxi researcher leaders who have never forgotten it. with aerospace. ”
After that day, Zhang Yanping learned from the pain and decided to make her husband's last days more peaceful and dignified.
So she began to petition.
She has only one request:
Yang Nansheng's organizational relationship was transferred to Beijing to solve many practical difficulties caused by the separation of household registration and relationship between the two places. ”
With Zhang Yanping's active efforts, two veteran comrades of the aerospace compound, Ren Ke and Chen Zhuang, extended a helping hand.
They wrote letters to the leaders reflecting on Yang Nansheng's historical contributions and the current difficulties in life.
It was Yang Nansheng who developed the most difficult and promising solid rocket, and he was a great contributor! ”
Thanks to everyone's efforts, Yang Nansheng's organizational relationship was finally transferred to Beijing, and the corresponding housing and medical conditions were improved.
At the same time, the Science and Technology Committee of the Aerospace Science and Technology Corporation issued instructions to the Solid State Research Institute to write and publish a biography of Yang Nansheng.
The organization paid people to write biographies, which is an honor that only people with the title of 'academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and the Chinese Academy of Sciences' can enjoy, and Yang Nansheng is an exception. ”
Two years later, Yang Nansheng died at the age of 92.
On his deathbed, he said to his wife:
Xiaoping, after I die, you must continue to live well. ”
Zhang Yanping burst into tears, very reluctant
No, no, you can't die! I'm going to give birth to three heads and six arms to hold you!" I'm going to make you hot pot tofu again, give you a haircut, take your hand for a walk, and listen to you sing again.
After Yang Nansheng's death, Zhang Yanping did two major things.
The first major event is that she has traveled to every place where Yang Nansheng has struggled for China's aerospace industry, walked the road he has walked, and experienced the hardships he has endured.
Zhang Yanping deeply realized how great her husband was!
Nansheng, when I learned about your past bit by bit, I was shocked, and I also understood more deeply that the love you gave me has accumulated the connotation and glory of your life!
If I had known that you were a person who had done such great things for the country, would I still be with you without any scruples? Maybe I don't have that confidence. Luckily, I didn't know anything at the time.
Nansheng, at this moment, how I want to embrace the stormy years of your life, the iron horse and the ...... of war in your life”
The second major event is that she wrote a 240,000-word memoir for Yang Nansheng "You were born, I haven't been born yet".
You were born, I haven't yet" tells the story of how 'I' met, fell in love and stayed with Yang Nansheng, a first-generation solid rocket expert and scientist who made great contributions to China's aerospace industry. He has no regrets in the cause of national defense, and he has a pure heart regardless of fame and fortune. The book highlights Mr. Yang Nansheng's innocence, simplicity, kindness and noble conduct outside the cause of national defense. Reading between the lines is a person with Chinese characteristics, and a benchmark for intellectuals with traditional spiritual temperament.
As a senior reporter of Xinhua News Agency, Zhang Yanping's writing is beautiful and profound, and his true feelings can be seen on the back.
She wrote: The earnest soul deserves to be loved, and only the love that allows the heart to grow can be entrusted. ”
For Zhang Yanping, Yang Nansheng is a pure, sincere, and wise person who has experienced the world. He illuminated the light of her life and gave her a rich and complete soul.
Nansheng, my parents gave me life, and you gave me my soul. ”
For Yang Nansheng, if he hadn't met Zhang Yanping, his old age might have been miserable, and he might have left this world silently and his heart was broken.
Although the age difference between the two is 36 years, they are a pair of divine partners who are in harmony with each other. Two pure hearts collide to create the fire of the century!
Reference book: "You were born, but I was not born" - Zhang Yanping.
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