Upbringing is a person's inner cultivation, a person's character and temperament, and a person's personality and demeanor. Upbringing is not a piece of clothing, not a certificate, not a slogan, not a gesture. Upbringing is a kind of literacy that goes deep into the bone marrow, an unspeakable aura, an invisible influence, and a ubiquitous force.
A well-educated person is like a spring breeze, gentle but majestic, warm and refreshing, making people feel comfortable and happy. A well-educated person is like a warm sun, bright but not dazzling, warm but not hot, making people feel warm and reassured. A well-educated person can not only live an elegant and confident life, but also bring positive energy and inspiration to those around him.
So, how can you tell if a person is cultured? In fact, it is very simple, as long as you look at his attitude towards the three people around him, you can see it at a glance. These three types of people are: friends, family, and the bottom.
To friends, look at the borders. A well-educated person knows how to respect the privacy and choices of friends, will not interfere or accuse excessively, will not borrow money or take advantage of it at will, and will not gossip or spread rumors and slander behind his back. A cultured person knows how to care about the emotions and needs of his friends, and will not be indifferent or indifferent, will not ridicule or sarcasm, and will not take advantage of or abandon him. A cultured person knows how to maintain the relationship and trust of friends, will not easily turn his face or betray, will not be stingy or calculating, and will not be jealous or resentful. A well-educated person gets along with friends, just like a cup of tea, fragrant but not greasy, sweet but not bitter, which makes people have an endless aftertaste.
For the family, look at the temperament. A well-educated person knows how to honor the kindness and dedication of his parents, and will not forget his roots or be unfilial, will not contradict or neglect, and will not complain or complain. A well-bred person knows how to love his or her spouse's feelings and giving, will not cheat or betray, will not be violent or abusive, and will not be indifferent or ignored. A well-bred person knows the responsibility and methods of educating his children, and will not spoil or indulge, will not beat or abuse, and will not force or suppress. A well-educated person gets along with his family like a fire, warm but not dry, bright but not shining, making people feel safe and happy.
To the bottom, look at respect. A well-educated person knows how to respect the dignity and labor of the people at the bottom, will not discriminate or despise, will not ridicule or insult, and will not bully or oppress. Educated people know how to be grateful for the contributions and services of the people at the bottom, and will not be stingy or slammering, will not be harsh or difficult, and will not ignore or ignore. A well-educated person knows how to help the difficulties and needs of the people at the bottom, and will not be indifferent or turn a blind eye, will not shirk or refuse, and will not fall into the well or take advantage of the fire to rob. A well-educated person gets along with people at the bottom, just like a flower, beautiful but not arrogant, fragrant but not strong, which makes people feel appreciated and admired.
Upbringing is not something that can be cultivated in a day or two, nor can it be explained clearly in one or two sentences. Upbringing is an attitude towards life, a wisdom of life, and a state of life. Upbringing is not only reflected in words and deeds, but also in hearts and minds. Upbringing not only affects a person's image and reputation, but also affects a person's quality and personality.
We should all improve our upbringing and become a person with taste, feelings, and personality. As the famous saying goes, "Upbringing is a silent language, and it moves the heart more than any language." ”