When you enter the workplace, you may think that you can swim in this vast ocean with excellent ability. But in fact, you're dealing with much more than just the job. The workplace is a complex ecosystem, and every link and interaction in it is silently testing your intelligence and emotional intelligence.
As a veteran of years in the workplace, I know that competence alone is not enough to secure your position. Competence accounts for only 20% of an individual's growth and income。This may sound ironic, but it has been experienced by countless people in the workplace. If you don't know how to use your talents and efforts skillfully in relationships, you may become a nail and a thorn in the eyes of others.
You are not the first person to suffer from this dilemma. Historically, capable people like Hua Tuo and Yang Xiu, because they didn't understand interpersonal relationships, were ultimately victimized by their ministers. Their ability has become their fatal wound. And in the modern workplace, the same is true. People with core technologies are often seen as irreplaceable, but this uniqueness can also lead to a pride mentality. If you are capable, you may lose the trust and support of your leaders and team.
In the workplace, the so-called "white rabbit employees" are often eliminated because they lack the ability to deal with complex workplace relationships. This is known as the "Dead Sea Effect" – highly capable employees leave because they are dissatisfied, leaving only those who are less adaptable. Such an environment is a huge challenge for people who are really capable.
You may wonder why your boss always gives you the hardest job and doesn't give you a promotion or raise. It's like the example of a locksmith – on the surface, they're picking locks, but in reality, they're playing with people. In the workplace, it's not your ability that is valuable, it's the way you deal with problems and your attitude that are valuable.
As a member of @职场江湖, I know that everyone is a small boat in the sea of society. I used to be a poor second generation and experienced all kinds of ups and downs in the workplace. But it was these experiences that taught me how to be comfortable in the workplace. I hope my experience will help you find your place in this complex workplace ecosystem.
In the workplace, remember:Competence is your cornerstone, but relationships are your sail。You need to learn how to skillfully handle the relationships around you while maintaining your abilities. This is not an easy task, but it is an issue that everyone in the workplace must face.
Finally, I would like to share with you the encouragement that in this challenging world of work, we are all learners and explorers. Keep learning and adapting, let's grow together and meet every challenge in the workplace together. Remember, you're not alone, we're all on this path.