One question, we have to break down two things.
First of all, do you want to treat your colleagues as friends?
Don't be a friend, whether you want to be a friend, whether you can be a friend, that's another matter, at least don't be an enemy, that is, don't make enemies for yourself.
This is the basic principle. Not only in the workplace, but also in the **.
When you need help, that's when you need friends. But for others, it may be the opposite.
Whether there is anyone to help you, it depends on the situation, the income, and the popularity. However, as long as no one falls into the trap, the problem will not be much worse.
Therefore, in order not to be stepped on, you must also try to treat your colleagues as friends.
The second thing, do you need to be unreserved?
The answer is clear: no, no, and no.
They are a progressive relationship.
The basic logic of the work: make a plan, make an effort, achieve the goal, and get the benefits.
The principle of carrying out the work: division of labor and cooperation.
For the whole team, it's the plan and effort that needs to be broken down, and the more separated and detailed it is, the more effective it will be:
What is consolidated is the goal and benefit, the more consistent it is, the more successful it will be.
Undoubtedly, there is a division of labor first, and then there is cooperation. Different people, different roles, and their work content and focus cannot be exactly the same.
Therefore, the coexistence of the common interests of the team is inevitably a conflict of interest under the cover of the common interests.
This is determined by human nature and personal interests.
For example, it is a common interest for two people to achieve revenue targets together; The amount of each person's contribution is personal benefit.
Therefore, it becomes a conflict of interest to choose a team leader from among the two.
Another example is that the product team designs the product, and the marketing team brings the product to market. The product sells well and the returns are huge.
Is it the good product that comes out on top, or does marketing play a key role? It has also become a conflict of interest.
A situation in which coordination and conflict coexist has fundamentally eliminated all "unreserved" soil.
Without a solid foundation, it can only be regarded as a castle in the air, and it is meaningless to keep it!
You think the value of being honest is an inconsequential choice for others;
The warning you think you are deliberate on is the coercion of others.
What you consider to be self-sacrificing exhortation is the foolish banter of others.
Your unreserved treatment must be based on the sincerity of the other party, otherwise it will be misunderstanding, misunderstanding, mismatch or even self-inflicted affection.
Even if you are confident in your own unreservedness, how can you benefit others more than you can?
With such a precondition, when you speak and do things, you should have reservations and think twice.
What is reserved is nothing more than the following:
Judgment of oneself, awe of the unknown, respect for others, and confronting interests.
Don't take your own importance for others;Don't think of your own joy as laughter.
Don't take it for granted, don't impose on others, and don't be self-righteous.
That said, you can still open up to colleagues you see as friends, and use your objectivity with people and things as evidence of mutual interests.
Just don't be unreserved, and you have to have some reservations. What remains is your subjective emotions and judgments.
At the same time, there is also the possibility that you can maintain a friendship relationship with your colleagues.
At this point, the two things that were broken up just now seem to be merged into one place.
This also determines that in the workplace, to maintain friends, you must have reservations, and you can't be unscrupulous.
Because your sincerity must not only be relied on, but also keep in the right direction. It's a completely different thing than the job itself!