When you go home during the Spring Festival, how to respond elegantly to your relatives' "salary torture"?
The Chinese New Year is just around the corner, and for many professionals, going home for the New Year is one of the most important moments of the year. However, when gathering with friends and family, it is inevitable that you will encounter some embarrassing questions, the most troublesome of which is that your relatives are full of curiosity and ask you directly about your salary.
I remember one time, a relative I didn't know very well asked me how much money I made in the big city as soon as we met. I was speechless for a while, not knowing how to answer, and finally had to say, "It's okay." Then he began to talk endlessly about his children working for a large company with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan, and his words revealed a sense of pride and comparison. I felt like I was on pins and needles, and the whole party became extremely awkward.
Manifestations of low emotional intelligence.
People with low emotional intelligence tend to react in the following ways when faced with "salary torture" from their relatives:
Outright rejection: Some people will choose to simply refuse to answer, and may even get angry because they are too sensitive. This reaction can easily bring the scene to an impasse and ruin the otherwise pleasant atmosphere.
Make up numbers: Some people will make up a random number to avoid embarrassment and satisfy the curiosity of their relatives. While doing so may provide temporary relief from embarrassment, it's not a wise choice in the long run.
Silence: Some people choose to remain silent and avoid answering questions. Although this method protects yourself, it also makes your relatives feel that you are not friendly or arrogant.
Coping with high emotional intelligence.
So as a professional person, how to use high emotional intelligence to deal with this kind of "salary torture" elegantly?
Let me share a real experience.
Last year, I had the same problem when I went home. At that time, one of my uncles curiously asked me how much money I made in the big city. I smiled and replied in a relaxed tone, "Uncle, the salary is just enough to live." Now the cost of living is so high, everything is expensive in big cities, but fortunately, the company has good benefits, and there are various subsidies and benefits, so that life is a little more comfortable. ”
Then I added, "Actually, the salary is not the most important thing, but whether you like the job and whether you have a sense of accomplishment." I feel that my current work is very rewarding, and I am learning and growing every day. ”
Hearing my answer, my uncle smiled with satisfaction, and he patted me on the shoulder and said, "Not bad, yes, there is a future." Other relatives agreed.
Explanations for high emotional intelligence.
People with high emotional intelligence usually have the following characteristics when dealing with "salary torture":
Sincerity: They don't make up numbers or avoid questions, but respond with sincerity. They will make the other person feel what they really think and feel.
Understanding each other's curiosity: They are able to understand their relatives' curiosity and concern, so they can respond to questions in a more peaceful way.
No comparison: People with high emotional intelligence do not get caught up in comparisons with others, but emphasize their uniqueness and value. They pay more attention to their inner feelings and self-realization.
Change the topic: If the topic is too sensitive or awkward, people with high emotional intelligence will subtly change the topic to make the party atmosphere more relaxed and pleasant.
Maintain confidence and optimism: They are able to express their opinions and ideas confidently, while also showing an optimistic mindset and a positive attitude towards life. This positive energy can not only infect oneself, but also affect those around you.
Respect for privacy: People with high emotional intelligence know how to respect the privacy and personal choices of others. They don't ask questions that are too personal or sensitive, but pay more attention to the feelings and comfort of the other person.