To please others, to lose yourself

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-02-01

In the early stages of Li Jian's career, he co-founded the ** group "Shuimu Nianhua" with Lu Gengxu.

In 2001, Mizuki quickly became popular with his hit single "Life with You", but soon after, the two disagreed on the future direction of the team. Lu Gengxu advocated that we should keep up with the trend of the times and focus on the popular field; Li Jian firmly believes that ** should be consistent with life, and a person's attitude towards life should be directly reflected in his ** works.

Since the two sides could not reach a consensus on this issue, Lu Gengxu bluntly said to Li Jian: "If you always insist on doing what you love, maybe it will be a better choice to leave." In the end, Li Jian decided to quit Shuimu Nianhua.

Writer Feng Tang once famously said: "Only by daring to show oneself, express oneself, and enjoy oneself can we stick to our own positioning in this complex world and live a unique personal pattern." ”

Today, Li Jian has won a solid position in the music industry with his unique style and outstanding talent, and has accumulated a large number of loyal fans. In contrast, Shuimu Nianhua has rarely had new ** works come out in recent years, and has gradually faded out of the public eye.

This is reminiscent of a thought-provoking saying: "If you blindly live in the eyes of others, you will lose your way in life." "If a person panders to the eyes of others for a long time, he often loses his unique personality and charm.

On the contrary, those who do not blindly please others and focus on their own pursuits tend to live more exciting and dazzling lives. Just like the poet Yu Xiuhua's philosophy of life, in the face of criticism from the outside world, she responded firmly: "I write poetry just to please myself, and I have nothing to do with others." ”

After all, there are a thousand Hamlets in a person's heart, and you can't look like the renminbi to make everyone like it. Therefore, living oneself and living one's best is the right direction in life.

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