There are many ways to express love, but there is never only one way to express love.
Some people think that love means sex, marriage, kissing at 6 a.m., having a lot of children, and parents going to see each other. This may be true, but what do I know?You know what I'm thinking, 'I think that's love' a hand that wants to touch you, but you let go, you type and delete the words you care about in the chat interface, and you can't say anything when you're alone. ”
Depending on each person's personality, the method is different. Expressing love is different, different.
Some people are indifferent to love and express it directly because they are afraid of missing out on happiness. Some people, after falling in love with someone, are cautious when dating, for fear of hurting the other person, deliberately push themselves away, and then fall in love with that person silently.
Is it because the way they express their love differently means that they don't love someone?Do you unconsciously treat someone you like?
Love is to find someone who understands you, who can tolerate everything about you, and you can also tolerate everything about him. "We all crave that kind of love, but in real life we often have confusing questions. We are deliberately alienated. This behavior makes us uncomfortable, but sometimes it's just a way to say "like".
Take, for example, the movie "Love You, Rosie". The male protagonist Charlie falls in love with the female protagonist Rosie at first sight. However, due to his low self-esteem and cowardice, he chooses to deliberately push Rosie away, which Rosie is confused and saddened by. Eventually, their relationship really grew. In the same way, this truth is also reflected in the dialogue between the prince and the fox in the book "The Little Prince", in order to truly understand and trust each other, it is necessary to respect each other and build a relationship.
Everyone understands and expresses love differently. Some people prefer to express their feelings directly, while others choose to remain silent or deliberately distance themselves from the other person. This does not mean that they are insincere, just that their personalities and ways of handling things are different. But no matter how you express it, the sincerity is the same.
Distant behavior between adults is also common. Adults choose to deliberately distance themselves from each other for a variety of reasons. This behavior is not necessarily motivated by boredom or disgust, but by self-preservation and mutual respect. For example, if one person feels too dependent on the other, they may choose to keep their distance to avoid burdening or stressing the other person. Similarly, when people feel oppressed or restricted by another person, they deliberately distance themselves from the other person in order to protect their space and freedom.
However, it is also important to distinguish between love and boredom. You need to judge the real reason why someone is alienating you from two aspects: tone and attitude. If someone's tone or behavior is very cold and unpleasant, they may not like you. However, if his tone or demeanor seems bland or polite, he may simply keep his distance for self-preservation.
It takes courage and confidence to build intimacy. We need to dare to express our feelings and pursue the love we want. Misunderstandings and alienation are inevitable in this process, but we need to learn to know and understand each other. Only by knowing how to know each other and truly understanding each other can you avoid missing the right person.
In my experience, I've also met people who deliberately keep their distance. I was very confused and sad, but when I heard about her, I realized that she had only chosen this path to protect herself, and finally let it slip away. ta。
In other words, deliberate distancing doesn't necessarily mean disgust or dislike, but may just be a way to express "like." We need to learn to know and understand each other, and maintain courage and confidence in the pursuit of love and relationship, so that we can get a happy ending that truly belongs to us.
In the new year, I hope that strangers can find true love.
There are some things that you miss that will stay with you for the rest of your life.