An 18-year-old male high school student in Lianyungang, Jiangsu Province jumped into the river because he was humiliated and slandered by his ex-girlfriend, and I wrote the following two articles about this incident, welcome to read, and look forward to your comments
was scolded for "licking the dog and the man with his head down", an 18-year-old boy jumped into the river and committed suicide? Learn to accept imperfections in life.
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One is about".Life educationOne is about".Marriage and love concept education
Let's talk a little bit about ".School bullying".
What kind of school bullying suffered from the boy who jumped into the river in Lianyungang, Jiangsu? The further down the incident goes, the more angry and chilling it becomes.
The ex-girlfriend is the initiator of rumors, slander, humiliation and cyberbullying, and Jiao, a teacher who is an adult, when dealing with students' conflicts and bad behaviors, did he do the right thing and not the wrong person, figure out the original process of the matter, and then determine who is right and who is wrong? Have you achieved that the palms of your hands and the backs of your hands are full of meat, a bowl of water is flat, and students are treated equally? Is there a clear distinction between rewards and punishments? Have you done it without protecting your shortcomings and revealing your shortcomings?
Obviously, these behaviors that occurred in this incident are school bullying, and perhaps the teacher's inaction is the last straw that crushes the camel.
Teachers are the adults who spend the most time with students in school and are expected to play an important role in intervening and stopping bullying in schools. The way teachers deal with bullying incidents, the attitudes they present, and the degree of attention they attach may affect the direction and outcome of bullying in schools.
Parents are the "first responsible person" for their children's growth, and what can we do when their children are bullied at school? Let's learn together!
01.What is school bullying
As we all know, school bullying and school violence are very ugly things, and these phenomena are getting more and more attention from society. In the "Notice on Carrying out Special Governance of Campus Bullying" issued by the Education Steering Committee, the definition of campus bullying is: "the act of deliberately or maliciously bullying and insulting students through physical, verbal, online and other means to cause harm".
There is an opinion that school bullying and school violence are the same thing. But there are some differences between the two.
School bullying includes both overt and covert assaultsIt also includes physical aggression and mental and psychological damage. The forms of school bullying mainly include overt aggression such as abuse, strikes, threats, intimidation, beatings, violence and criminal offenses, as well as covert bullying behaviors such as collective alienation, exclusion, and the formation of a discriminatory atmosphere. The insidious nature of school bullying is not only unknown to the police, but also to parents, teachers and schools.
School violenceIt mostly refers to the domineering and aggressive behavior between students that occurs inside or outside primary and secondary schools and campuses. It is usually an offensive act or violence committed by one or more people to harm the other person and to a single person as the victim. The extent and consequences of this are far greater than that of school bullying, some of which have been suspected of juvenile delinquency.
02.The main manifestation of school bullying
Physical Bullying:Beating, punching, kicking, and snatching of finances are forms of bullying that are easy to detect.
Verbal bullying:Mocking, verbal abuse in public, and insulting nicknames are forms of bullying that are not easy to detect.
Social Bullying:Adopting the form of bullying that is not easy to detect, such as isolation, leaving no friends around them.
Cyberbullying:Malicious rumors on the Internet, sending insulting messages, mockery and slander, and making online remarks that are unfavorable to the victim are forms of bullying that are not easy to detect.
03.The dangers of school bullying
For the abuser:
If you cause harm to others, you will have to bear the cost of ** or even compensation.
To be seriously criticized and educated by school teachers, it is impossible to even continue to complete their studies.
It is difficult for their behavior to gain social approval, mainly at school and at home.
Many of the students who fight in primary and secondary schools, especially in violent gangs, end up committing crimes.
For the victims:
Bring physical damage or even disability.
It is easy to cause cowardice, low self-esteem, lack of confidence and courage.
Inflict shadow and damage on the mind.
Boredom or even dropping out of school.
04.What to do when your child is bullied at school
First of all, we canTell if a child is being bullied by the following behaviors
Suddenly no interest in school or don't want to go to school.
Change the route you normally take to school.
The results plummeted.
Becomes withdrawn, does not participate in family and school activities, and wants to be alone.
Hungry after school, saying that lunch money was lost, or that you weren't hungry at school.
Take your parents' money and make up a very lame reason to explain where the money goes.
As soon as I got home, I went straight to the bathroom.
Sadness, gloom, anger, or hesitation after answering** or receiving an email.
Do things that don't look like he would.
Talking about a classmate in derogatory terms.
No more talking about classmates or going to school every day.
School uniforms are either missing, torn or disheveled.
There are scars on his body, but he can't explain them.
Stomach pain, headache, panic, insomnia, drowsiness, listlessness.
Parents can do this:
Discuss directly with your child. Children may be reluctant to talk about it because of shame and embarrassment. Isolate at the right time and let them know that they can trust you and that they can always get your help.
Check whether the school has dealt with bullying and that the school is disciplining the child appropriately.
If the bullying is happening on the way to and from school, arrange for an older peer to accompany you to and from school, or pick up and drop off your child in person until the problem is resolved.
If your child is introverted, shy and lacks social interaction, you should help him arrange club activities that match his interests to cultivate appropriate social skills and build self-confidence.
04.How a child responds when bullied at school
When being bullied, it's best not to show fear or cry, as this will make the person who bullied you feel like you're a good bully and continue to bully you.
You have to be brave, firm, and clear enough to tell the bully to stop their behavior and walk away.
In order to avoid bullies, it is best to act with others and seek help from teachers, parents and the police.
When you see other students being bullied, you should also report it to the teacher, and do not turn a blind eye and become an indifferent bystander.
We resolutely do not be the "little bully" who bullies the classmates around us.
When suffering from verbal violence, we must learn to help ourselves, first, we must deal with it calmly, second, we must self-reflect, third, we must respond fearlessly, fourth, we must affirm ourselves, fifth, we must adjust our psychology, and sixth, we must protect our rights in law.
At the same time, while educating our children to deal with school bullying correctly, we should also make children clearly understand that those who find happiness by bullying others, or show their strength by bullying the weak, not only bring great harm to others, but also cannot get real friendship and respect.
Everyone is equal, and we need to learn to be kind to others. Caring for, helping, and tolerating others is the only way to get true happiness, and this happiness cannot be experienced in the process of bullying others.
In addition, all education departments and parents must be aware of a problem, so that children can learn to solve disputes in an appropriate, civilized and intelligent way from an early age, which plays a key role in the harmonious development of the campus and society, which is particularly important.
Has your child experienced bullying at school?
How did you deal with it?
Feel free to share your experiences and solutions.