Definition of Happiness: How to find true fulfillment and peace in marriage?
In the eyes of outsiders, Zhang Li should be happy. She is 35 years old and a middle manager of a small business. She has a stable job and earns a lot of money; Have a warm little home, and live a rich life. This is not the case. Only she knows the bitterness in Zhang Li's heart.
Zhang Li and her husband met through a blind date. At that time, they had both reached marriageable age, and the conditions of both parties were equal, and they felt that they were suitable. After marriage, they lived an ordinary life, like most couples. In the eyes of outsiders, they are a happy pair, but only Zhang Li herself knows that this marriage has long lost its original passion and romance.
My husband is a traditional man, responsible for the family, and considerate to Zhang Li. They are not short of money, they are not short of sex, but they always feel empty in their hearts. Whenever there is a dead of night, Zhang Li always asks herself if this kind of life is really what I want?
In fact, Zhang Li once tried to communicate with her husband, hoping that they could find the crux of the problem. But every time the communication ends in nothing, my husband always says, "I think my life is very good now, why should I change?" He couldn't understand Zhang Li's inner struggle and confusion. Time passed every day, and Zhang Li felt that she was becoming more and more depressed in this marriage. She began to wonder if she had made the wrong decision and whether she should give up on this seemingly perfect but soulless marriage.
After the Chinese New Year, Zhang Li and her husband sat on the sofa and chatted about their future face-to-face. Zhang Li plucked up the courage to say what was in her heart: "I think the relationship between us has faded, maybe we should consider divorce." The husband was stunned, he obviously didn't expect Zhang Li to say this. After a long silence, he slowly spoke, "I really didn't expect you to say that, isn't our life good enough?" Zhang Li took a deep breath, "Yes, our life is good, but I think there is no love between us anymore." The husband was silent for a long time, and finally nodded, "Since you say so, then we really need to think about it." Zhang Li breathed a sigh of relief, at least this communication did not end without a problem as before.
During that time, Zhang Li and her husband began to think seriously about their marriage. They try to recall why they got to where they got to be, and what they want and vision for the future. In the process, Zhang Li found that she had regained her original enthusiasm for love and yearning for life. She began to understand that happiness is not a perfect marriage in the eyes of others, but the satisfaction and peace of her own heart. Maybe they really can't go back to their original love, but they can try to let each other grow and progress in this marriage. In the end, Zhang Li and her husband decided to give each other a chance to re-examine their marriage. They began to pay more attention to each other's inner world and emotional needs, learning to listen and communicate. Although the future is still full of uncertainties, at least they now have the courage and confidence to face it.
There will always be choices and decisions to make in life, and the most important thing is to be brave and face your heart. Don't let the pressure of the outside world or the comfort of the moment stop you from pursuing true happiness. Trust your feelings and judgment and take responsibility for your own life. Have you ever felt lost and depressed in your marriage? How do you find true happiness and fulfillment? Feel free to share your stories and opinions in the comments section.