When we first came out to work, we were a blank slate.
After working for many years, the pits we have stepped on, the thunder we have waded on, and the walls we have touched make us understand that life is not easy.
Adults only have hair loss, gain weight, and have no money.
Today, I will share with you the truth that I have only understood after working for many years, and everyone wants to cry!
Your circle will get smaller and smaller.
When I was in school, I played basketball, took a class or even participated in a game to make friends.
But after work, work becomes the center of gravity, and it is even more important than the study in college.
Promotions and salary increases are important goals in our workplace, and the corresponding cost you need is to work hard.
In such a situation, college classmates are scattered like dandelions, and you don't have time to make friends after working hard.
The circle is getting smaller and smaller, and the words are getting less and less.
Faced with the dilemma of fewer and fewer friends, you want to integrate into some new circles, but you find that you are really weak.
I just want to say that the circles are different, and they don't have to be forced.
I've seen such a sentence:
Life is like playing Tetris, you try to fit into that circle, but the moment you enter the circle, you yourself disappear.
Instead of struggling to socialize, it is better to improve yourself silently.
No one is obligated to help you, the only one you can rely on is yourself.
When we read, we are all flowers in the greenhouse.
You don't have to worry about a lot of things, and your parents and teachers are responsible for everything.
The little troubles of ordinary life are small help, and your classmates will also help you.
But once you enter society, all this teaches you to recognize one fact:
You have to face all the problems in life alone, and you have to bear the consequences of your choices alone, other people's is always someone else's, others help you are love, not to help you, is your duty.
Your parents can no longer protect you, and your teachers can no longer teach you how to do multiple-choice questions.
I was wronged, I knocked out my teeth, and I just ran with tears in my eyes.
It's painful, right, but that's what the adult world is.
Relying on the mountains and mountains, relying on everyone to run.
Zeng Guofan once wrote in a letter to his younger brothers:
I only have to rely on two things: morality and cultivation.
In the adult world, the only one who can rely on himself is himself.
It's really important to work hard to make money and have a spare amount of money.
Mr. Qi said:
When people don't have money, it's easy to settle.
Obviously I love grilled fish, I bought a meat bun on the corner of the street, I obviously love tonkotsu ramen, but I ordered a bowl of egg fried rice, I obviously wanted to eat Häagen-Dazs, so I endured it and bought an old popsicle.
It's obvious that you can't afford it, but you lie to yourself that it's more comfortable to live a cost-effective life.
It can be seen that money is confidence, money is a sense of security, money is freedom, and money is the right to choose.
I had a friend who worked in a bank, and I asked him: How should the vast majority of wage earners manage their finances?
He said in his heart
For most ordinary people, saving is actually the best option. ”
As a writer said: Our road to wealth and happiness must start with saving money.
What we keep is not an account, but the responsibility and future of life;
What we keep is not only money, but also inner self-knowledge and sobriety.
You will clearly feel the passage of time.
When I was young, I felt that time passed so slowly.
In just two months of summer vacation, we can go to our classmates to do homework, eat snacks, play games, learn to swim, ride bicycles and wander the streets, ......A day can be divided into several periods.
And now, don't say two months, just two years, commuting to work, eating and watching movies, and that's it.
Looking at the time on the phone, it seems that nothing has changed except the year.
The sense of haste in life is also more than a year in time, and it feels like time is out of control in front of us, and we can't grasp anything.
I'm not ready for social life, a few years have passed;
I wasn't ready to accept that I was already an adult, but my friends were getting married one after another;
I'm not good enough to give my family a better life, but the wrinkles on my mother's face are clearly increasing.
Therefore, we should cherish the present moment and cherish the precious time with our families; Cherish the remaining desire to express and express love and care for your family;
Cherish the longing and yearning for love, and bravely pursue your own happiness;
Cherish the heart of not admitting defeat, and do what you want to do.
Youth is limited and precious, so take advantage of this moment and don't miss more.
The longer you work, the more important your self-awareness is.
Especially the older we get, the more important our self-perception becomes.
Even if someone "kills" you, you will not be moved; Even if someone throws you into the dust, you can still bloom.
How your leaders and colleagues perceive you doesn't change your value.
Man's greatest enemy is the demons of the heart, and lack of self-confidence is the biggest example.
There is a question on Zhihu: What are the truths that you realized after work?
The most upvoted answer reads:
In fact, most of the time you don't have any opponents, because most people either don't work hard enough, or don't study properly, or have too much, or lack a sense of purpose, or have bad luck. In short, when you seriously work hard in a position for more than two years, you have done better than the 80 people around you.
In the workplace, as long as you have sufficient value generation, you are not afraid to worry about not fighting, and no one will worry about it.
Above, I encourage you.