There are some things that you can never really understand, no matter how much you listen to them; Some truths can only be understood by personal experience.
No matter how much you listen, it is best to feel and understand it yourself, and only when you are truly involved can you experience the real taste.
Some truths about marriage must have been heard by everyone. As the saying goes, "Marriage is a besieged city, people on the outside want to go in, and people inside want to go out", which shows the true psychology of everyone towards marriage.
The desire to marry is strong for those who have never been married. People who are unhappy or have failed marriages avoid mentioning marriages.
People have a completely different view of marriage. There is nothing wrong with marriage itself. It's those people who are wrong. Marriage itself does not determine a person's happiness, the key lies in personal control.
There are some truths that can only be understood when you are married.
Who you marry does make a big difference. Some will be the light in your life and illuminate your life, and some will extinguish the light in your life.
Managing a marriage is important, but choosing the right person is more important than managing a marriage.
If you choose the wrong person, no matter how hard you try and how hard you try to maintain the relationship, you will eventually be disappointed. Choose the right person, and your happiness will account for more than half.
Be careful when choosing a partner. Character is important, and so is choosing the right person.
Life after marriage becomes trivial and boring, and it is no longer as passionate as it was when you were in love.
The two chatted about firewood, rice, oil and salt, three meals a day, and looked at each other over and over again every day, which was really upsetting.
Don't underestimate housework. Also, don't expect people who work from home to be very laid back. How does it feel to walk around the stove every day?
Cooking, washing dishes, and tidying up the house all day can really drain one's motivation, so take the initiative to share the work.
If you're too self-centered or trying too hard, no one will compliment you on your abilities. He just shut up and act like a shopkeeper and push all the family affairs to you.
Lazy women who don't know how to do anything tend to be happier.
Behind the lazy woman is a man who takes the initiative to share housework and pamper women.
If you want your man to be involved in household chores, if you want him to see and sympathize with your efforts, don't be too enthusiastic.
Look what I can do, I can't do anything well. "When I came back, I just looked at my phone and I didn't know what to do. ”
What kind of results can you get from communication? Is it the same with your lover? It's nothing more than complaining and bickering.
But what if we tried something different?
Sir, I'm thirsty, can you buy me a glass of water? ”
Oh sir, look, have you forgotten to do something? ”
Expressing your desires and needs in a different way will reduce a lot of conflicts when you are not satisfied, making it easier to get results.
In marriage, share each other's burdens and be considerate of each other. Think more about your partner and share more of the burden for him.
Even if it's a small thing, as long as you try it, the other person will be happy.
Nothing can be taken for granted. Don't be one to be relaxed and enjoy it. Everyone longs to be valued, loved, and learn to think from someone else's point of view.
If you think more about each other's feelings in everything you do, you can get along better.
All the sisters around me who are about to get married are more or less dissatisfied with their mother-in-law. My mother-in-law probably feels the same way about her daughter-in-law.
No matter how good the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, there will always be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Some will explode immediately, while others will say nothing but hide in their hearts.
A man's attitude is very important. If a person is objective and fair and thinks more about himself, all contradictions can be easily resolved.
And when a man unreasonably favors his mother-in-law, or does nothing, leaving the relationship with his mother-in-law to his wife, friction naturally arises.
After all, marriage is all about putting up with each other's shortcomings. No lover is perfect, and everyone has flaws.
Especially after being married for a long time, you often only see the shortcomings of the other party, but not the strengths of the other party.
If you blindly focus on your partner's shortcomings and think that there is nothing wrong with them, then it will be difficult for you to move on.
When you encounter a problem, think more about the other person's strengths. I don't think people don't have bright spots. Otherwise, why would you marry him in the first place?
The more you discover his strengths, the better you will be able to continue to do your job well.
What kind of lover do you want to have, and how do you want to treat him?
If you want to get a lover who is in a bad mood, hurt him more and nag him more.
If you want to get a lover who is not motivated, hit him like crazy.
It's the same for everyone. The less you respect him, the more he will give up on himself. The more you nag, the lazier he becomes.
If you want to find a hardworking, motivated, and considerate man, praise him more. Good men are made by praise. The more you compliment him, the more he will be the partner you want.
Marriage is not easy, please cherish it.
People who don't know how to cherish often end up with nothing.
Some people think that people who are always outside are good people, but when they lose it, they find that the former couple is better than the former couple, and the flowers in the house bloom in the field, and I find that they smell better than the flowers.
Some people are happy in their married life not because of their business skills, but simply because they rely on the word "value".
It's a shame because I cherish it.
Marriage isn't that scary. We have heard many examples of unhappy marriages, but there are also many examples of happy marriages.
As long as two people understand each other, tolerate each other, think more about each other, and know how to cherish this relationship, life will always develop in a better direction.