When people are over fifty, the three closest people to you determine the blessings of your old age
There is a story about an old man who lived very happily in his old age, who had a neighbor of good character, a filial son, and a sensible niece. His neighbors often chatted with him, brought him fruit, helped him with cleaning, and made him feel warm and respected. Although his son is busy with work, he will call him every week, go home every month to see him, buy him clothes, and watch movies with him, so that he can feel loved and supported. Although his niece is studying in other places, she will visit him every time he has a vacation, tell him interesting stories about school, help him take pictures, and make him feel happy and comforted. The old man's old age was full of blessings, and he felt that he was the luckiest man in the world.
However, there is also a story about an old man who had a very painful life in his old age, who had a neighbor of poor character, an unfilial daughter, and an unreasonable nephew. His neighbors often quarrel with him, cause him trouble, refuse to greet him, and make him feel cold and disgusted. Although his daughter is rich, she never gives him a **, never comes home to see him, buys him cheap things, dislikes him for being old-fashioned, and makes him feel disappointed and sad. His nephew, though in the same city, never came to visit him, told him boring things, borrowed money from him, and made him feel troubled and stressed. The old man's later life was full of hardships, and he felt that he was the most unfortunate person in the world.
These two stories tell us a truth, life is full of uncertainties, we can't predict what will happen in the future, we can only continue to gather blessings for our old age. And an important way to set up blessings is to choose the people around you. When people are over fifty, the three closest people to you determine the blessings of your old ageThese three people are your neighbors, your children, your relatives. They affect you far more than you think.
Neighbors are the most common people in your life, and your relationship with them directly affects your mood and health. Choosing a neighbor with good character is a kind of luck and a kind of wisdom. According to a study, older people with good neighbors live an average of 5 years longer and are 30% happier on average than those who don't. Good neighbors give you a sense of security, they will help you when you are in danger, they will help you when you go out, and they will take you to the hospital when you are sick. Good neighbors bring you mutual aid, they will lend you a hand when you need help, they will lend you when you are short of items, and they will support you when you are in trouble. Good neighbors bring you company, they will talk to you when you are lonely, they will play games with you when you are bored, and they will celebrate with you on holidays. Good neighbors bring you joy, they make you laugh when you're sad, they share your joy when you're happy, and they applaud you when you're accomplished. Choosing a neighbor with good character is to lay the foundation for one's old age, which is a kind of wisdom and responsibility.
Your children are the most important people in your life, and your relationship with them has a direct impact on your dignity and happiness. Choosing filial children is a kind of luck and a kind of wisdom. According to one study, older people with filial children had an average of 40% higher self-esteem and 50% higher happiness than those without filial children. Filial children can bring you love, they will care for you when you are unwell, they will listen to you when you are uneasy, and they will comfort you when you are emotionally unstable. Filial children can be supportive, they will help you when you are in financial difficulties, they will take care of you when you are in trouble, and they will encourage you when you encounter setbacks. Filial children bring you respect, they will respect you when you have opinions, they will support you when you have decisions, and they will meet you when you have needs. Filial children can bring you comfort, they will be there for you when you lose your partner, they will contact you when you miss your family, and they will comfort you when you are facing death. Choosing filial children is to lay the foundation for one's later life, which is a kind of wisdom and responsibility.
Relatives are the closest people in your bloodline, and your relationship with them directly affects your harmony and happiness. Choosing sensible relatives is a kind of luck and a kind of wisdom. According to a study, older people with sensible relatives have an average of 60% higher sense of harmony and 70% higher happiness than those with non-sensible relatives. Sensible relatives can help you, they will help you when you have something, they will help you solve when you are confused, and they will help you get rid of it when you are in trouble. Sensible relatives can bring you understanding, they will be considerate when you are in trouble, they will forgive you when you have mistakes, and they will tolerate you when you have shortcomings. Sensible relatives can give you support, they will support you when you are in trouble, they will recommend you when you have the opportunity, and they will praise you when you have accomplishments. Sensible relatives can bring you joy, they will bless you when you have happy events, they will accompany you when you have free time, and they will welcome you when you are reunited. Choosing sensible relatives is to lay the foundation for one's later life, which is a kind of wisdom and responsibility.
Choosing the people around you is a very important and not easy thing. Some people will encounter difficulties in choosing, such as neighbors who are not in harmony, children who are not close, relatives who are not in harmony, etc. What should we do in the face of these relationship difficulties? I give you some suggestions or methods that I hope will be useful to you.
First of all, if your neighbors don't get along with you, you can try to communicate with them more to increase their understanding and trust. You can choose not to be alienated from them, not to be cold to them, not to be hostile to them, and you have to respect them as long as they are your neighbors. You can choose to greet them more, talk to them more, make friends with them more, and as long as they still have a little bit of affection, you have to get close to them. You can choose to interact with them more, cooperate with them more, help them more, and support them as long as they have a little bit of cooperation.
Secondly, if your children are not close to you, you can try to be more caring with them to enhance their affection and dependence. You can choose not to be alienated from them, not to be cold to them, not to ignore them, and to love them as long as they are your children. You can choose to pay more attention to them, ask them more, listen to them more, and as long as they still have a little need, you have to meet them. You can choose to spend more time with them, play with them more, learn more from them, and spend as long as they have a little bit of fun.
Finally, if your relatives are not in harmony with you, you can try to be more tolerant with them and increase their respect and gratitude. You can choose not to quarrel with them, not to deal with them, not to turn against them, and you have to respect them as long as they are your relatives. You can choose to forgive them more, forgive them more, tolerate them more, and forgive them as long as they still have the slightest fault. You can choose to praise them more, encourage them more, give them more, and as long as they still have a little bit of merit, you have to praise them.
When choosing people around you, you should not only improve, but also cultivate. Some people will encounter quality difficulties, such as dishonesty of neighbors, irresponsibility of children, disintegrity of relatives, etc. What should we do in the face of these qualitative difficulties? I give you some suggestions or methods that I hope will be useful to you.
First of all, if your neighbors are not honest, you can try to learn from each other with them and improve their morals and literacy. You can choose not to cheat with them, not to betray them, not to harm them, and as long as they are your neighbors, you have to trust them. You can choose to share more with them, exchange more with them, cooperate with them more, and as long as they still have a little bit of integrity, you have to learn from them. You can choose to model with them more, educate them more, influence them more, and as long as they still have a little bit of improvement, you have to nurture them.
Secondly, if your children are not responsible, you can try to educate each other with them and improve their abilities and responsibilities. You can choose not to indulge them, not to spoil them, not to indulge them, and you will be responsible for them as long as they are your children. You can choose to guide them more, supervise them more, supervise them more, and as long as they are still a little bit responsible, you have to educate them. You can choose to motivate them more, train them more, evaluate them more, and as long as they have a little bit of progress, you have to train them.
Finally, if your relatives are not upright, you can try to interact with them and improve their character and personality. You can choose not to collude with them, not to frame them, not to take advantage of them, and as long as they are still your relatives, you have to go and uphold them. You can choose to communicate with them more, negotiate with them more, and as long as they still have a little bit of integrity, you have to influence them. You can choose to admonish them more, warn them more, discipline them more, and as long as they have a little bit of improvement, you have to cultivate them.
Choosing the people around you is a very important, not easy, and very important thing. When people are over fifty, the three closest people to you determine the blessings of your old ageThese three people are your neighbors, your children, your relatives. They affect you far more than you think. You have to choose them carefully, you have to improve your relationship with them, you have to cultivate their qualities, and you have to lay a solid foundation for your old age, adding infinite blessings. This is a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of responsibility, but also a kind of hard work and dedication.
There is a saying that the greatest happiness in life is to have a warm home and a group of sincere people. This home is not necessarily the home you were born in, nor is it necessarily the home you live in, but the home you choose, the home you create, and the home you cherish. This group of people is not necessarily your own people, nor is it necessarily the people you accompany, but the people you choose, the people you improve, and the people you cultivate. When you have such a home and such a group of people, your old age will be full of happiness and beauty. I wish you to be able to choose the people around you, to enjoy the blessings of your old age, and to have the happiness of your life.