Let me see your bookshelf My friend has an excellent and handsome son, and many friends around me want to let the daughter of the family meet her son to see if they can have the fate to become boyfriend and girlfriend. There are many well-to-do families, but his son is fond of his girlfriend.
The girl is smart and smart, but she is weaker than her friend's son in terms of appearance. The first time a friend met his son's girlfriend, he was opposed. She said the girls were too small and worried about affecting the next generation.
Although she objected, her son insisted on his choice. He told his mom that the days were mine, and I knew what kind of life partner I needed. Some of the girls you introduced were indeed beautiful and had good families, but I knew they weren't a good fit for me.
The friend eventually chose to respect his son. Now my son has a stable relationship with his girlfriend and gets along very well. When friends talk about her future daughter-in-law, they are full of advantages. said that the girl is mature and steady, and she does things properly and steadily.
In the subsequent contact with friends, she revealed her appreciation for her daughter-in-law between her words, which made it clear that what her son liked, she also learned to appreciate each other with her heart, and of course the girl herself was not bad.
When a person opens his heart and wants to learn to like and appreciate another person, that person is full of light.
Learning to accept and appreciate is a quality.
What kind of specific qualities are that?
I think it should be a good quality of mind. Discover beauty, appreciate beauty, and then purify your soul by beauty.
This is a higher quality of the mind.
I saw a ** in two days, and when I said that during the New Year, the husband noticed his wife's unhappiness. The wife is an only child.
In the New Year's house at the in-law's house, there are many in-laws and the family is lively.
She thought of her parents, and the two of them celebrated the New Year in a cold and lonely manner, and she was a little unhappy in her heart. Although she barely smiled on the surface, there was a faint sadness between her eyebrows, and this trace of deep sadness was seen by her attentive husband.
The husband immediately made a move, took out his daughter, pulled his wife, and told his parents and brother that he wanted to go back with his wife to accompany the child's grandparents for Chinese New Year's Eve dinner.
Fortunately, their family is not only considerate, but also very supportive of his loving actions.
This **, full of love, makes us feel the very good spiritual quality of a husband, understand!
This is a very important quality between couples.
In the vast sea of people, there is a person who becomes your pillow person, when you are sad, read your emotions, and then try to make you happy, how precious it is.
In the barrage of **, there are all likes on the screen. But in the midst of the energetic words of the line, since there are a few lines of such barrage. "This is the fate of no son! ”
This daughter is not angry, and she is at her mother-in-law's house for the New Year! ”
The person who speaks such words must have a lack of spiritual qualities to be so inferior. Lack of empathy, lack of ability to appreciate good things. The heart is like a dry well, overgrown with bleak and barren grass, and there is no life in sight, so the mouth can't spit out lotus flowers.
So how do you cultivate your spiritual qualities?
In this regard, I myself have gone through a long and terrible process of heart and soul deprivation.
From the birth of my daughter to the present, one of the things I want to do most is to be a good mother, give her child high-quality companionship, and let her grow up healthily. But many children are rebellious and can't grow up according to their parents' wishes, and my daughter is like that.
During a long period of rebellion, I had a lot of conflicts with her. She often said that I only saw her learning side and not other aspects of her.
In retrospect, it was. My boring heart is like a frog sitting on the river and watching the sky, just looking at the sky on that side, I don't know how wide the cosmic sky is!
There must be advantages in the child's body, which requires a mother's rich heart and subtle ability to discover.
Therefore, I personally think that a good spiritual quality is not innate, but in the journey of life, cultivate a rich heart, learn to accept, tolerate, and have a view of the overall situation, in order to achieve it step by step. The following dimensions may be required.
First, jump out of the self and look at the problem with the big ego. Life is a practice, do it and cherish it. I found that in the end, I slowly reconciled with myself.
In everyone's heart, there is a big self and a small self. Everyone has heroism in their hearts, and this is the side of the big self, the overall situation, and the dedication. The ego, with a distinct personality, is the self that thinks about itself.
I am a person with a very distinct personality, from work, to stepping into the wall of marriage, to becoming a mother, I am an emotionally unstable person. I often get angry when things happen, and this kind of temperament tortures my heart very much.
Over the past few years, I have consciously cultivated my mentality.
I found that when I encountered something, I tried to make that big self jump out, examine the things I encountered, and found that the heroic big self can always give the little self a lot of energy, so that I can learn to reconcile myself, and there is a lot less time when the chicken flies and the dog jumps than before.
Second, learn the ability to hug. I've always felt that appreciation, tolerance, and tolerance actually require ability. If you don't consciously cultivate it, this ability must be lagging behind.
Once, I heard a capable elder sister say that I now see a flower with a bright eye and a fragrance in my nose, and I think of the gift of nature.
It is a person's ability to appreciate. You can always find something pleasing to the eye from your daily life.
I have always felt that learning to appreciate is a kind of ability, which is not born out of thin air, but can be slowly formed in the accumulation of life to enhance and enrich one's cognition.
Three, learn to be stupid little by little.
As I grew older, I gradually felt that going from stupid to capable is a kind of improvement, and from being able to being stupid is a kind of cultivation. There is a popular idiom now, that is, the feeling of suddenness.
Blunt sensibility is a concept proposed by the Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe, from Juni Watanabe's essay collection "Insensitive Force". It refers to being less sensitive to the opinions and evaluations of the people around you, a little slow to react, and more focused on doing your own thing than the noise of the outside world.
In fact, blunt sensitivity means not to be so glassy, not to be overly sensitive to things. In our words, it's just a little silly, less distraction, and some mental internal friction.
Blunt sensibility is like a force that doesn't hurt you.
Tolstoy, the great man of literature, said that we do not improve morality, but strive to perfect the process.
Perhaps the cultivation of spiritual qualities is a process of life perfection.
May we walk and strive to perfect our journey of life, so that the higher qualities of the soul can be born in our hearts. Freedom from too much trouble and strife, more tranquility!