In our daily lives, there are times when the expectation of someone or something can cause us to fall into a deep state of obsession. It is a state of mind that hopes to be affirmed and rewarded through one's own efforts. However, in the process, we often overindulge in a lot of important things. In addition to busy work and study, we always seem to be burdened with many heavy expectations, and these expectations are often full of endless suffering and pain.
In the Internet era, communication between people has become more and more convenient, but at the same time, it has also brought a complex of longing for attention. Have we ever had such an experience? From the moment I opened my eyes, I was filled with anticipation of someone who would write back to us at the right moment. We clinged to our phones, expecting to hear from him or her sooner, even if it was just a simple greeting or concern.
This kind of persistent waiting, endless suffering, often makes us miss the beautiful moments of life. We felt lost by missing his response, and we stayed up late at night, sleepy and exhausted, and worried about missing his message, making it difficult to sleep. In such a state, although it is inevitable that there is a hint of joy, it is more heartbreak. Sometimes, we know that the other person doesn't want to reply immediately, or maybe even not reply to the message at all, but we still want to be able to use this free time to think about something; Sometimes, we reluctantly comfort ourselves that he may have been delayed and did not mean to ignore us.
However, the reality is often brutal. If you really have a heart, then he will never let you endure the pain of staying up late; If that person is your destination, how can he bear to let you spoil your body like this? In his heart, you make it difficult for him to sleep. Although he is busy, he is always willing to send you evening blessings and remind you to rest early.
What we are obsessed with is actually only our own accounting. It may seem like a very trivial thing to him, but for you, it is an indispensable expectation in life. Sometimes, we even think it's worth it as a pleasure. However, the truth is that the other person may not have the intention to respond at all, and you may not have any weight in his heart.
The one you've been waiting for in the middle of the night may be sharing a good time somewhere else. Everyone has their own life trajectory, please don't attach all your emotions to others, otherwise the disappointment you bring when you can't ask for the desired result may be like a flash flood, which cannot be stopped. This will only wear away your expectations of feelings, lose your sense of self-identity, and make you feel as if you have been abandoned by the whole world, have lost control, and are afraid and walking on thin ice, only looking for the only clue related to him in your own fantasies.
It was once said that the middle of the night is the place where thoughts are most likely to flow and sorrow is the most. I think that after countless sleepless nights, the wise man who told the truth must have experienced such a state of mind, habitually waiting for the outcome of some things, guessing a person's mind. The feeling was like punishing oneself, forcing oneself to expect someone to lend a helping hand, and even though his heart was dead and his illness was getting worse, he still refused to accept the reality and chose to walk alone in the middle of the night.
So, looking at things from each other's point of view, we don't have to endure the cold nights alone for a friend or lover who is not worth waiting for. The person who really cares about you may be silently guarding behind your back, but you can't put down the mobile phone in your hand because of your obsession and forget to take a serious look at your surroundings.
We all want to be able to get the attention and attention of others, but sometimes we also need to learn to let go of the baggage of our hearts, and let go of those expectations and expectations that we are overly concerned about but are unwilling to face. In this vast world, we must not only desire to be loved and cared for by others, but also learn to love, tolerate, and understand others. On the premise of having various emotions, it is more necessary to remain rational and calm, not to be swayed by those worldly trivialities, and to walk firmly on oneself.