Today, I had a big fight with my mother-in-law over financial problems. Because she promised me to pay for all the expenses of my eldest daughter's education after my husband became mentally ill. And today she said no. Since my husband's illness, although he has been able to live a normal life on medication, he can only do simple, stress-free work. In this way, his income cannot support our family's expenses, and my youngest daughter is in middle school because the teacher knows that she has bipolar disorder and insists on not living on campus, so she can only go to school and pick up and drop off four times a day. In order to take care of the two of them, I can't go out to work. Although I used to make a little money in business, I didn't have much left to treat the two of them. I've always been more budget-conscious, but I'm now more frugal. But the money is still not enough to maintain a normal life. The combined pension of my husband's parents is almost 10,000 yuan, and they have no major health problems, and their lives are relatively simple. It really doesn't cost much in a small city like ours. And my husband is an only child. If I hadn't forced this step, I really wouldn't have been cheeky enough to quarrel with her! I just said one last sentence: "If you don't want your son and wife to be separated, you can not afford it." Then she relented.
I used to think that gnawing on the old was a very spineless thing! I even think that it is a shame to rely on parents to empty their pants pockets, buy a house, buy a car, get married and have children! It would have been naïve to think about it now! In a social environment like China, most of us ordinary people may not be able to live well even if we try our best. And as a parent, if you have the conditions, try to help your children!